Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles We all deserve to have the best in relationships, and that means feeling fulfilled and getting what you specifically want. So, how do you know if you’re settling? Or compromising? Or fearing intimacy? Or avoiding getting close due to trauma? Or struggling with relationship anxiety? Today we explore the concep...

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup  We’ve all heard it. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. The stages of grief that are applied to nearly any loss a person may experience. But do they apply to breakups? We know that the grief surrounding the loss of a relationship is truly unique and that it may be more helpful to talk about breakup grie...

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles BONUS EPISODE! How are you going with your no contact goals? Do you have a specific question about how to make it work for YOU? Well…the Ex-Philes gals have GOT YOUR BACK! In today’s bonus episode we are going over DOZENS of questions about how to make the no contact rule work for people from all different ba...

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Today we are revisiting one of our most popular topics AND one of the things that we think can make the biggest difference in your post-breakup healing journey. What is it? The no contact rule! As effective as the no contact rule can be, it is also very, VERY difficult to start and stick to, especially when y...

Got Closure? Revisited Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles This week we are doing things a little differently. Due to unforeseen circumstances, we are putting off dropping our 100th episode and instead of dropping an Ex-Philes oldie but goodie! We know how challenging the matter of closure can be after a breakup and we hope you will enjoy this...

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Blocking your ex on social media is a common bit of breakup advice, but what about taking it a step further by doing a complete digital detox? HOW and WHY might taking this bold step into the present moment help you heal from your breakup? Push play to find out! The episode includes our personal stories about...

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles It can be easy to be uncomfortable using your voice after a relationship. And when you are catching the feels for someone but not sure how they feel. Welcome to defining the relationship! This week we are thrilled to be joined for a chat with dating and relationship coach Brian Dunn to talk about his extensiv...

97. Building Self Trust

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles What is going on with Gen Z and sex? What is the state of hook up culture? Talk about a deep dive! In this week’s episode we are joined by researcher Aditi Paul to discuss her extensive research on the topic and what she has learned about the in’s and out’s of the Gen Z hook up scene. This is a juicy one! Som...

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup  Today, we get really, really real… Breakup? Take advantage! Use this time to work on yourself and emerge stronger than ever. But what does that actually mean?? Platitudes are great, but what are the practical ways that you can use this moment in life to better yourself? We got you!, In this episode we cover six areas...

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles GAH! Dreaming about an ex when you’re trying to heal from the breakup doesn’t just KINDA suck, it REALLY sucks! It is confusing, painful, and has the potential to send you into a major tailspin. BUT - dreaming about an ex is pretty darn normal. It is often the story we write about WHY we are dreaming about th...

*Trigger warning: domestic violence, addiction, abuse* The dynamics of a relationship can often play a huge role in how we heal. This week we are talking about two types of toxic dynamics: trauma bonds and fantasy bonds. We go deep into: -The real meanings of trauma bonds and fantasy bonds -What does a trauma bond feel like? -How do I break a trauma bond? -Fantasy bond v real love -Preventing trau...

Ah first dates…they are “supposed” to be fun but…they can also be a real doozy. After a breakup it can be easy to feel like you don’t know what the HELL you’re doing. The Ex-Philes gals have got your back! Listen to this episode before you swipe next. Talk about a deep dive into dating. We cover: -What made our BEST first dates memorable -What made our worst dates the worst -The perfect formula fo...

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup  A lot of the conversation around healing from a breakup focuses on being broken up with, but breaking up can hurt just as much if you are the one to end things. Breaking up with someone can involve a lot of grief and a long, difficult process of getting to the point of making the decision. And no matter what "sid...

To Block, or Not to Block…That IS a big question after a breakup! It can lead to a LOT of closure and open a new chapter in life that is about you and your new life separate from your ex. But although we love to talk about the benefits, we also know that a lot of people struggle with taking the leap. Well today we are taking a leap with you, into a rabbit hole of all things BLOCKING. We cover: -th...

“Rebound relationships” get a bad wrap— But what if a “rebound” is exactly what helps you get to the next phase of your breakup? And if you decide to date soon after a breakup but don’t WANT a rebound, how can you consciously go about connecting with people? And what if you want to avoid them altogether and simply DO YOU? We are taking SUCH a deep dive into rebound relationships today, including o...

Our live is LIVE!!! Today's bonus episode is the recording of the Q&A segment of our Virtual Valentine's event. We hope you enjoy hearing that whatever your questions are, you're likely not alone. We explore: - Why the apps aren't leading to more than a couple dates if that - How is the best way to break up with someone, especially if they're struggling with their mental health - If you break...

Forgiveness. It means something different to every single person. It's held up as this crucial part of healing, and yet how do you forgive someone for doing unforgivable things?  In this episode, we dive into questions around forgiveness:  - Does not getting to forgiveness mean you won't heal?  - Should you forgive your ex?  - What if you're having trouble forgiving yourself?&n...

An episode about all the woo things that we do to make ourselves feel good and keep the positive vibes flowing. And it’s infused with numerology goodness - recorded on 2/2/22 and dropping on 2/22/22. WOO-WOO! Our woo practices help us to add a bit of the sacred into each day, making the entire week special and helping us to stay focused on our goals and supporting others to heal their hearts. Many...

Being proactive is a huge part of healing. Just as with any injury, when we take efforts to heal our heart we see it strengthened, little by little, day by day. Being proactive about our healing also allows us to build self-trust, which in turn helps to build confidence. When we are in the midst of a stressful, painful, or otherwise intense situation in life it can be very hard to see the forest f...

Register for our live Valentine’s show:   https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497 Surprise! In honor of Valentine’s Day we are dropping TWO Ex-Philes episodes this week! This is a very special episode in the history of the podcast: our first-ever happy hour episode! We hope that you will join us for our live show next week and that you will...

Register for our live Valentine’s show:   https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497 We have been on a mission to help our listeners love Valentine’s Day since the beginning of the podcast. Today we are releasing an oldie but goodie: one of our first Ex-Philes episodes all on the topic of being single on Valentine’s Day. Why is this so importan...

We are thrilled to be partnering with ELLA Global Community to bring support and resources to queer women and non-binary individuals. Today we speak with Danielle Siqueira and Laila Van Rijswijk from their amazing team about the unique breakup and dating challenges facing their community, hear about their own breakup stories, AND answer questions from their audience. ** ELLA Global Community works...

There are MANY opinions about what constitutes cheating, WHY people do it, how to respond to it, and how to recover from it. But one thing is universally accepted: cheating HURTS. Cheating is extremely difficult to move on from for most people. But just like any other type of breakup you can not only move past it, but you can learn from it. We start this week’s episode with a light-hearted discuss...

Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup  Attachment style theory is a powerful lens through which we can view the way that we show up in relationships and can empower us to explore how we want to develop as individuals and partners. And yet they are just one lens. And with any lens, there can be a risk of identifying with it in a way that stunts your growth...