Break the Cycle with DSD

Duane is joined today with Kris Godinez to talk about the effects of estranged parents.

In today’s show Duane takes two callers one who is struggling dealing with the “nice” from their ex after his victory in court and then a caller who is court ordered to do co-parenting counseling and needs a strategy going forward.

Talking finances and how to surviving the family court machine by focusing on the long game and making better decisions by re-baselining your life

On today’s Labor Day show we start out with a call struggling with their ex ignoring and rejecting their child. Duane then rants about why these people just can’t even pretend to actually love their children. A listener then asks how Duane was able to prevent his ex from leaving the state with the kids. This rolls into a discussion on how family court is slow. Duane reminds everyone about the Thur...

Today’s Friday show starts with tips to bond with your children when you have limited to no funds. The key is giving them your time and attention and it can be a critical step in defending against parental alienation. Duane talks about one technique where he would spend 15 minutes dedicated to whatever the child wanted to do. He then goes on to describe the “creative day” they would do all togethe...

On today’s episode Duane starts off talking about the concept of “Disneyland Dad” and how no matter what you do a toxic ex is going to shame and ridicule everything you go. We then dive into the issue of how to deal with teachers when you have a toxic ex. Duane then discusses how important it is to “learn” the rules of the family court game. He then talks about being able to see the end of this in...

Duane starts today’s show talking about how a narcissistic parent can put on a show and have people think they are a great and attentive parent. We then tackle a question for a listener who is struggling with trust issues. Duane then takes a question of do the children ultimately realize something is wrong with the other parent. We then talk about how a narcissist will try to destroy you and you h...

In today’s show Duane tackles the topic of family court issues. The show starts with a viewer asking what to expect in family court. Duane then shares a viewers story of perseverance and ultimate success through the system. He then discusses how a narcissistic toxic ex will try to bankrupt you financially and emotionally to get what they ant. We then have a return caller talking about their experi...

Narcissists are experts at creating and exploiting double binds. In today’s episode we start by talking about a viewer who is worried their spouse has compromised their phone, computer, and emails. Duane then mentions a schedule collaboration with Kris Godinez on her channel. A listener shares that their ex broke into their emails and downloaded steps 1 and 2 from their Alcoholic Anonymous notes s...

In this show Duane is joined by Kris Godinez from We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez show. Kris is a licensed professional counselor in Arizona and has a thriving practice there. Duane and Kris talk about the importance of therapy and some of the key things to look for when interviewing a therapist. They dive into the importance of rapport and the markings of a good trauma therapist. Kris then disc...

In today’s show we tackle a lot of the issues that complicate making “good” decisions. We oftentimes get stuck trying to prove to ourselves what we are really dealing with. The discussion starts off with a question of, “what is the red pill”. Duane dives into the origins from the movie “The Matrix” and then how it pertains to our situation. We then cover a question where one listener’s son is sayi...

In today’s show Duane starts off discussing how important it is to focus on things that help improve your life and get you to where you are wanting to go. We then have a question about the struggles to accept that the relationship was a lie. A listener talks about their 8 year journey to find healing and growth. Duane then talks about an example his oldest son is going through where is mom is poki...

In this show Duane discusses finding who you are and healing plus growing through these experiences. He then discusses his involvement with Veronika Archer and her “You Get to be YOU” Podcast Series that has over 32 experts in their respective areas. We then discuss how these experiences give you the opportunity to change the direction of your life. Duane then discusses how he used therapy with Yo...

This was a rough show, the callers at the end has some bad and good news. The show starts with a comment from yesterday asking does the ex remarry to “hurt us”. Duane then discusses how we can get stuck ruminating the about the ex. Then we discuss ways to work around the ex when they are holding/hiding information. A caller shares how they have gotten their life back, became a nurse and overcome n...

In today’s show Duane starts by talking about personal accountability and focusing on your own path. Too often people start to focus on the “problems” of others instead of doing the work on themselves. He then discusses a comment where a listener is concerned if it is okay to ignore a the person they broke up with. We then have a caller who is celebrating 27 days free from the narcissist and is in...

Feeling lost and confused is extremely common when recovering from narcissistic abuse. It is incredibly difficult to fine people who understand. This show starts when a discussion of feeling lost. We then have a caller who runs the site Pissed Off Parents and talks about how important it is to get educated on the process to help protect yourself. The next topic is why filing first is an advantage...

It is normal to feel numb and broken after prolonged narcissistic abuse by an ex and the family court system. This is the starting point of day’s show. Duane discusses a comment where a listener feels like they have been going to therapy forever. Another questions “what is normal” anyway? We then going through the stress and anxiety of seeking help and confronting our own demons. A call asked do a...

We start the week talking about how playing the narcissist’s game is a losing battle. You will end up beating your head against the wall trying to get a better outcome and how it holds you back. Duane briefly talks about how Caleb Leverett is doing after his cryptic video posted over the weekend. Move on to discussing how to develop and implement new routines. Speaking of moving on, we look at the...

We finish the third week of the new show! The discussion was how life gets better after going through this. It can seem impossible to believe that you can have a life after this but you can and it can be better than you ever imagined. We have a return caller who shares their court victory and celebrates their success. Then a viewer has a question on how their ex can start the divorce but won’t lea...

The show starts with discussing what happened with my relationships with Eric Carroll and Dad Talk Today. Then we move into burn out and what has happened with me and how I’ve dealt with it. We then have a caller who is getting ready for court and how the ex keeps beating them down and changing moving the finish line. We then have another caller who is struggling with social distancing visits and...

We start the show discussing a proven approach to deal with alienated children. A comment was asked how to undo the damage with adult children and a minor child. Then we have a caller who was provoked by the ex and blew up in front of the children at their house. This leads to a discussion of how narcissistic people follow the same playbook and patterns of behavior. We then delve into the inner ch...

In this show we discuss some examples of how a narcissistic ex won’t leave you alone. How they will come back and try to re-insert themselves back into your mind. This start will a comment about how after four years an engaged ex shows up at the workplace to give back papers and photos. Next we have a caller who’s uninvolved ex decides to use the court system to try and pushing the mother of their...

Validation is a critical aspect of healing from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. It’s difficult to find people to understand and for us to find our own understanding. In this episode we discuss validation, karma, warning the new “supply”, or asking the old about their experience. The show rounds out with a discussion on forgiveness and how to regain our lives after this toxic experience...

In this episode we start off talking about how triggers effect people. Not in the “I’m offended and trigger” but real post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) way. We then take a return caller who is struggling with how their ex is about to recruit everyone from friends, evaluators, nanny’s and how it is driving them crazy. Then there is a rant on double binds and how “fighting” with someone like thi...

Panic attacks and anxiety! How in the world does one go through something this traumatic and overcome those panic attacks and constant anxiety? We talk about this in todays episode of the show. The conversations also delves into growing up in a toxic household, what if we had full custody, why an ex would want a divorce BUT still want to have sex, and the Caleb Leverett controversy.