Break the Cycle with DSD

There’s a moment in every unhealthy relationship where something doesn’t sit right. But the hardest part isn’t what they’re doing. It’s realizing you might be with someone who is toxic — and not wanting to believe it. In this video, I’m talking about the internal struggle that happens before acceptance. The excuses. The rationalizing. The identity hit. The war between who you thought they were and...

Breaking no contact after years of silence can feel like closure — until it isn’t. In this video, I share a real experience of reaching out to a toxic ex after five years, and how that single moment revealed something deeper about healing, boundaries, and the way the quantum field actually responds to emotional patterns. This isn’t about blame or regret. It’s about understanding why familiar relat...

For years on this channel, I’ve talked about things like limiting beliefs, absolute thinking, black-hole thinking, and what it really takes to rebuild your life after a major disruption. Recently, while exploring the work of teachers like Dr. Joe Dispenza, David Bayer, and Katie Clark, I had a realization that stopped me in my tracks:Much of what they’re teaching—under different language—is the sa...

There was a time when I believed that if I could just control the outcome—say the right thing, explain it better, try harder—everything would finally get better. But the harder I tried to force the situation, the worse it became. In this video, I talk about the hidden cost of trying to control what we can’t control, and why healing often begins when we finally let go. Letting go doesn’t mean givin...

When you’re sick, exhausted, or run down, your brain does not function normally. Fatigue amplifies fear. Stress hormones spike. Catastrophic thinking takes over. Suddenly, everything feels urgent, permanent, and hopeless — and that’s when people make decisions they later regret. In this video, I explain: • Why illness distorts your thinking • Why catastrophic thoughts feel so real when you’re sick...

If you’ve been out of a narcissistic relationship for months or even years and still feel stuck, confused, or emotionally drained—this video is for you. Healing from narcissistic abuse doesn’t follow a normal timeline. You didn’t just lose a relationship. You lost emotional safety, self-trust, and a sense of reality. That kind of damage doesn’t disappear just because time has passed. In this video...

When children begin to realize that something about a parent’s behavior doesn’t feel right, it can be confusing, frightening, and isolating — especially if they don’t know how to talk about it safely. In this video, we talk about how to support kids when they start noticing unhealthy or unpredictable behavior from a parent, without attacking, diagnosing, or putting them in the middle. This video c...

Letting go after narcissistic abuse is one of the hardest — and most necessary — steps in healing. If you’ve been stuck waiting for closure, explanations, or accountability from a narcissist, this video is for you. In this presentation, I break down what letting go really means, why emotional detachment is essential, and how releasing the need to engage can restore your peace and sense of self. Th...

Are you constantly made to look like the “uncooperative” parent while your ex plays the perfect one on paper? You’re not alone. In this video, we dive deep into what it’s like to co-parent with a toxic or narcissistic ex who manipulates perception, weaponizes cooperation, and uses your kids to provoke emotional reactions.🎯 What You’ll Learn: • The harsh reality of trying to co-parent with a toxic...

If you’re co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic or BPD traits and you’re in a 50/50 custody situation, this podcast is for you. A listener asked: “My son is 3.5 years old—do I say anything about his mom, or just keep her out of my house entirely?” In this podcast, I dive into: How to talk to a young child about a toxic parent (without causing damage) The mistakes I made early in my divorc...

After years of surviving family court, toxic co-parenting, and the emotional warfare of dealing with a narcissistic ex, the day finally comes—your child turns 18. The court orders stop. The forced contact ends. You’re finally free. But what happens next? In this video, I reflect on my own journey and what it feels like to finally cross the finish line. I talk about: The countdown to 18 and how fas...

In this impromptu test livestream, I dust off the setup, tackle some technical hiccups, and get back into the groove of live streaming! Together, we revisit the heart of this channel: creating a safe space for honest conversations about recovery, relationships, and overcoming narcissistic abuse. I field live calls, including one powerful story of perseverance and healing through a challenging fami...

In this podcast, I tackle a powerful viewer question: “Do you know of anyone who, after divorcing a narcissistic spouse, went on to remarry, build a new family, and live a healthy life?” This is such an important topic, and the short answer is: YES, it’s possible—but it takes work. I’ll share key insights into what’s required to break the cycle of toxic relationships, including: ✔️ Doing the inner...

Listener asks the question of do I take her to arbitration again on minor stuff or just save my money? Show Notes Duane discusses a question a listener asks about when to go to court and when to fight the battle? He covers the topics of what do you really hope to accomplish? Will this action “move the needle”. You have to take a hard look at the reality of the situation and what is the perception...

Father’s always seem to be rejected by children, we discuss the reasons and how to cope. Show Notes A common problem people experience in high conflict narcissistic divorces and custody is being rejected by your children. This is a very painful thing to experience and it is very hurtful when you feel your own children “rejecting” you. In this episode Duane discusses the reason this occurs and ways...

Slower learner | Take your life back after narcissistic abuse Show Notes DSD discusses the reality of it taking time to learn how futile it can be struggling to make a different in your life with a narcissistic ex. Duane shares how he continues to see people struggling with this concept. You get stuck in the mode EXPECTING justice and accountability. He shares how he hates to see people only learn...

Taking care of yourself | hobbies are important! Show Notes In this episode Duane talks about the importance of having a hobby or something that you enjoy doing. He also talks about the struggles when you are down, depressed, and beaten with ways to push yourself to break yourself out of that downward spiral. He then fields questions from others on silver bullets, narcissists seeking control, bein...

Dealing with the pain is the only way to get through this Show Notes In this episode DSD starts with a clip from Brad Pitt talking about his experience of running from the pain and ultimately how he worked through it to take his like back! Duane has a discussion with the audience about their experiences and ways to approach things Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships P...

A deep dive discussion on the struggles of letting go with an update and review of the redacted Order Sustaining Demurrer on my civil case. Show Notes In this episode DSD talks about the struggles and importances of learning to “let go”. We discuss how difficult it is to actually do, being forced to learn the “lesson”, recognizing when you’re being pulled back in, and notice when you are stuck in...

A discussion on how difficult it is to let of the past Show Notes The Healing Path: Navigate the path to healing with practical tips and strategies. Discover effective coping mechanisms and self-care practices to nurture your mental and emotional well-being. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 37...

Alex on the news again & dealing with the stress of family court Show Notes Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing   You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents  🔗Links Mentioned During Show DSD Discord DSD Chan...

Anxiety is a slow killer in narcissistic abuse Show Notes In this podcast DSD talks about the effectives of the constant anxiety and stress these situation put you under. He covers different techniques he has used to help him and other in dealing with this reality. Later in the podcast he takes a caller working through severe parental alienation and we discuss techniques on dealing with his minor...

Showing up is more important than you realize! Show Notes Although these situations are very complicated, stressful, and more frustrating then they really should be it is important to show up and be there for your children. In this podcast we discuss some examples of this with callers sharing their stories. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show!...

Handling when older kids are alienated Show Notes In this podcast DSD continues yesterday’s topic discussing the ways to deal with older children who are in the throws of parental alienation. He also takes the same caller to deep dive in his situation and talk through scenarios and ways to help his children Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show!...

Don’t fall for the narc daughter-in-law’s trap! Show Notes Don’t fall for the narc daughter-in-law’s trap! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents  🔗Links Mentioned During...