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There are some wonderful things about living in California, and also some things that make me want to scream. I just returned from a wedding in Massachusetts, the state I grew up in. I met a lot of wonderful people, had some stimulating conversations and noticed something surprising. Out of all the people I talked […] The post On Personal Branding and the Addiction to Self-Importance appeared firs...

There is a phrase chalk full of wisdom, profundity and great relationship advice that echoes through the halls of locker rooms, fraternities and groups of beer-drinking men everywhere. Bros before hoes. This simple statement represents a concept that has helped me have a more passionate, fulfilling marriage, and I can’t believe it took me so long to […] The post My Wife Is Not My Therapist appeare...

Recently, I decided that I don’t want to have kids. It came with a huge sense of relief. I’ve been on the fence about it for years so feeling clear has allowed me to look into my future with a renewed sense of conviction and confidence. It wasn’t an easy decision though. It’s a catch-22. We can’t know […] The post Yes I Would Be A Good Dad, and No I Don’t Want Kids appeared first on Boodaism .

I just noticed a profound shift in how I view insecurities. I was talking with someone who had just bought a ticket to IntimacyFest and at the end of the conversation she asked “I’m worried about what people will think about ___(insert your own insecurity here)____.” You know what my first thought was? “You have […] The post Insecurity as a Gateway to Connection appeared first on Boodaism .

True or False… It’s healthy to have frequent conversations with your romantic partner that put the future of your relationship at risk. I think most people would say false. I would have said false for most of my life. In fact, not only did I think it was unhealthy, but I judged those couples as […] The post The Death and Re-Birth of My Marriage appeared first on Boodaism .

“Drop your ego” they said.“Love and light” they said.“Transcend the ego” they said. But maybe our ego is more useful than we think. Maybe instead of something to be avoided, or dropped, or killed… it’s something to be celebrated. If it weren’t for the ego, we would never know deep human connection. That’s because deep […] The post Ego Makes Intimacy Possible appeared first on Boodaism .

I’ve never had an inner crisis over being a giraffe. I’ve never stared longingly at high-hanging fruit or wished my neck was thirty feet long, and that makes sense. I can’t be a giraffe. I wish it were that simple when it comes to being a man. Last week I realized I don’t want to provide […] The post Breaking the Gender Code appeared first on Boodaism .

Today I almost broke up with my wife and cried more than I have all year. That’s me. I’m 33 and have no consistent income, a past of many failed business ideas and nothing a reasonable person would consider financially promising on the near horizon. That’s me. I don’t want to play the role of […] The post This is Me, This Is Enough appeared first on Boodaism .

There seems to be a strange correlation between people who think they are manifesting things and the extent to which they lie about how happy they are. First off, let me expose myself for the new age skeptic I am. I cringe whenever I hear someone use the word “manifest” unless they are talking about […] The post How the Manifesting Generation is Collectively Killing Our Self-Esteem appeared first...

Life purpose. What a pain in the ass. Part of me hates this term even exists, yet another part feels it’s an undeniable part of the human experience. And why do we have to write about it so much? It seems like there is a new article on life purpose that gets published every minute, and […] The post Here’s a New Way To Look at Life Purpose appeared first on Boodaism .

In 2010 a college student paid me $400 to help him pick up women. I know, it surprised me too. I’m the kind of person who enjoys digging into other people’s problems to avoid my own, so the idea of getting paid to do this was really exciting. It turned out to be the beginning of […] The post 5 Things I Wish They Told Me When I Started Life Coaching appeared first on Boodaism .

I’d love to see a woman elected president. I don’t think we can really understand the significance of what that would mean for a country that less than 100 years ago didn’t even allow women the right to vote. It would be a win for women everywhere, and it would set a precedent for the […] The post Bernie Is My Girl appeared first on Boodaism .

I have a lot of friends. I have so many friends I can’t even keep track of all the people I would love to spend time with. I have a community of warm, open-hearted people who throw lots of parties, give long hugs and are always happy to see me. My life is as good […] The post Lonely Is the New Normal appeared first on Boodaism .

“Yeah, but you don’t understand what I’ve been through”.“The men I’ve dated never met my needs.”“I’ll never find a woman like that.” These are the battle cries of the cynic. These are the lamentations of the victim. These are the stubborn beliefs of people who have given up. They’ve given up because they had expectations of how […] The post I Hope You Give Up On Love appeared first on Boodaism .

Hi. My name is Dave, and I’m addicted to video games. Marvel Contest of Champions. Clash of Clans. Heard of these? I’ve spent hundreds of hours in the last couple years building up virtual cities, invading evil clans and battling against the world’s most powerful superheroes, all from the palm of my iPhone. Before you get […] The post How Your Addictions Can Be Good for Productivity appeared first...

Sometimes relationship experts can be so full of shit. I got an email today from a friend who heard John Gray (Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus) on a podcast talking about how monogamy is the only healthy choice for couples. There’s also Gay Hendricks (best selling author) talking about “Why Polyamory Just Doesn’t Work”. […] The post Why Most Relationship Experts Are Completely Wrong About...

Pretend for a moment that I invented a time machine, and we are able to go into the future, all the way to the end of your life. You close your eyes, the machine makes some funny noises and then bam, you wake up in the body of yourself as an old man or woman. […] The post Your Life Is Always on the Right Track appeared first on Boodaism .

Right now, Paula is on her way to San Francisco to spend five days with her best friend. I just talked to her, she’s on the road and everything is fine, yet I can’t escape this lingering thought… What if she gets in a car accident and I never see her again? I could rationalize […] The post I’m Afraid My Wife Will Die appeared first on Boodaism .

Veterans day is my least favorite holiday. Maybe it’s because we live in a culture that glorifies the military, maybe it’s because I wish we thanked cops as much as we thanked soldiers, or maybe it’s just because I get uncomfortable when people thank me for my service. I didn’t join for my country, I […] The post The Real Reason People Join the Military and Go To War appeared first on Boodaism .

There I was, standing in a hot, crowded tent with seventy people sitting on all sides of me, listening while I introduced a workshop at the one and only Burning Man Festival. I was trying my best to look natural. My hands were searching my body for a comfortable place to be and I was anxiously shifting […] The post The Simple Key To Relaxation appeared first on Boodaism .

Do you know how wars start? I’m not just talking about the wars fought with guns and tanks, I’m talking about the wars fought between people. Before we can understand why relationships go sour, couples separate in anger and why little misunderstandings can turn into feuds that last for years, we must first understand the exact moment a […] The post The Secret to Happy Relationships I Learned  From...

Anyone can be an artist who does work they love, and gets paid well for it. I’ll warn you though, this isn’t a feel good article designed to get you drunk on possibility. It’s a reality check. It’s a conversation about what it actually takes to be successful and the mindsets that keep us stuck. […] The post Why Artists Fail, Go Broke and Die Unfulfilled appeared first on Boodaism .

Two years ago I read a sentence from a little tiny eBook that I still can’t get out of my head. The book was a collection of twenty-five famous authors and experts giving their best business advice, and each person had two pages. Most of the answers were predictable and long-winded. Then I came to Seth […] The post 2015 Annual Review appeared first on Boodaism .

In 2006 I lent $65,000 to my friend’s brother with the agreement that in three years he would pay me back $94,000. He was investing in land, I had some extra money and I trusted my friend, who would also be co-signing the deal. We signed a promissory note and off he went to invest. […] The post How To Get a $65,000 Loan Back From Your Friend appeared first on Boodaism .

There is a crippling problem facing many of the most talented, creative and innovative people alive today. We have too many awesome ideas. How can you blame us? Thanks to the internet, there are more possibilities for our life than ever before. Not interested in a typical career? You could start your own business, travel […] The post 5 Simple Questions To Find Creative Work You Love appeared first...