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At a time when we can’t go ten minutes without hearing someone declare how they’re going to turn everything around and make 2017 their best year yet, it’s a radical notion to propose that we simply continue on the course we’re on. We live in a culture that’s obsessed with instant results. New Years comes around […] The post I’m Not Changing a Damn Thing in 2017 appeared first on Boodaism .

2016. What a crazy year this has been. While the purpose of this post isn’t to summarize what happened in the world, it’s worth mentioning that I believe we will look back on 2016 and it’s significance for many years to come. That being said, let’s talk about my life and Boodaism. In this report […] The post 2016 Annual Review appeared first on Boodaism .

Twas the night before Christmas and I was a mess,I had not done my shopping, as you can probably guess. My family did plan, for months in advance,And never left holiday shopping to chance. I wanted to charm them, I wanted to share,A wonderful gift, to show them I care. I thought and I thought, what now could […] The post A Minimalist Christmas Poem appeared first on Boodaism .

I’d like to take a minute to appreciate how profoundly lucky I am. I’m writing this from Winchester, Massachusetts where I’m currently spending a month living at home with my parents. Winchester (as described by Wikipedia) is “an affluent bedroom community for professionals who work in the greater Boston area.”1 The median house value is $899,700 […] The post The Unexpected Reason I Can Afford an...

Letting go of who you think you should be and trading that in for who you want to be is the sexiest thing anyone can do. That’s what feminism means to me, and here are five reasons I get a tingle in my loins around short-haired*, independent women. * = not all feminists have short hair, […] The post 5 Reasons a Feminist Is Sexy appeared first on Boodaism .

Silver linings. That’s been the subject of my thoughts recently. I’ve been contemplating the ways recent events in the United States have effected positive change, and thankfully I’ve found some. Yesterday I saw another. I was walking through Natick, Massachusetts when I heard the revving of an engine. I turned to see a Jeep full […] The post It’s Not Okay To  Be Silent Anymore appeared first on B...

A few years ago I finally realized how homophobic I was. I was shopping for clothes at a local mall. As I browsed the dress shirts, I made sure to avoid any that were too stylish. I remembered how my friends used to make fun of me if I was too fashionable so I picked […] The post I’m Afraid of Being Gay appeared first on Boodaism .

You are already an activist, you’re just too scared to hit the streets. You are already an artist, you’re just too scared to pick up a brush. You are already a singer, you’re just too scared to pick up the mic. You are already a writer, you’re just too scared to hit publish. You are already a […] The post Art is Disagreement appeared first on Boodaism .

We want to be one of the good ones. When women talk about the ways they’ve been mistreated, abused and made small at the hands of bad men, we secretly hope they don’t mean us. We hope they don’t notice the ways we haven’t been perfect. We are mostly confused about how to give women […] The post On Being A Man appeared first on Boodaism .

I had a lot of trouble writing an article this week. I made a promise to myself in December of 2014 that I would post every week to Boodaism and so far I’ve kept that promise (aside from a planned Sabbatical in February). But I knew this week was going to be a bitch. In […] The post The Hardest Thing About Professional Blogging appeared first on Boodaism .

Content Warning: This contains description of unwanted sexual intercourse. Author’s note: I wrote this piece almost 10 years ago and while I’m happy with most of it, looking back today I can see it comes off a little preachy. I hope the insights are still useful, please forgive the enthusiasm of my youth. In 2010 […] The post I Promise, It’s Not ‘Lame’ To Ask A Woman for Consent appeared first on...

Sometimes I forget why I travel. I like to think I do it for the amazing memories, and that’s partly true. I like to think I do it to expand my world, and that’s true too, but there’s one important reason that I seem to easily forget. I do it for contrast. Contrast means enduring […] The post Traveling Sucks Too appeared first on Boodaism .

Let’s talk about sex. In fact, I want to share something that I like sexually, and to be honest, it’s weirded people out in the past. They say it ruins the mood, they say I over do it, and they say I shouldn’t need that before sex. I guess you could even say it’s my sexual fetish. Ready? It’s talking. Yeah, […] The post Communication Is My Fetish appeared first on Boodaism .

I’m a snobby musician. I judge, I complain and I rant about how musicians should be better at their craft and pay more attention to the details. I even use the excuse that I have refined taste (which of course I do) but the truth is my critical mind also hinders my ability to enjoy music. […] The post What Music Is Really About appeared first on Boodaism .

This is for all the times I’ve stopped myself by trying to write something smart or profound. This is for all the times I had to stop making art because the bills on my desk got too loud to ignore. This is for all the times I tried to write something people would like, or […] The post This Is For Me appeared first on Boodaism .

Do you know the most dangerous man in the world? It’s not the man who is trained to kill, it’s not the billionaire who is obsessed with money and it’s not the zealot bent on converting everyone to his religion. The most dangerous man is the one who can’t get laid. That’s because when a […] The post In Defense of Pick Up Artists appeared first on Boodaism .

Five years ago I heard some wisdom from a wise woman, and at the time I thought she was crazy. “Dave, do you know why most people go on second dates?” She asked. “Because they like each other?” I replied. “No.” She said. “The reason most people go on second dates is one person asks, […] The post The One Question No One Asks On A Date (But Should) appeared first on Boodaism .

Being alone is a relief, but feeling lonely sucks. Being alone is a needed break from the hectic world that constantly demands our attention. It’s a cup of coffee and a good book while the kids are off at school. It’s a solo hike up a beautiful mountain with the sounds of nature keeping you […] The post Loneliness Is My Spiritual Practice appeared first on Boodaism .

Today I started reading Eat, Pray, Love, as one does when they are re-discovering themselves. I can relate a lot to Liz Gilbert’s description of her first marriage. I know what it’s like to not want to leave a relationship, while simultaneously not wanting to stay in it either. Her honesty and fresh perspectives are […] The post There’s No Such Thing as a Failed Relationship appeared first on Bood...

The people I pay attention to are the ones that can hold multiple perspectives. They are the ones that speak their truth, but also have the awareness to recognize that it's just one in a sea of truths. The post You’re Perfect Just the Way You Aren’t appeared first on Boodaism .

We live in a culture that holds longevity as the primary measure of a successful relationship, but that’s like judging the success of someone’s life based on how many years they live. The post How I Define a Successful Relationship appeared first on Boodaism .

If you don’t jump, you don’t graduate. That was the thought running through my head as I prepared to plunge 33-feet down into a dive pool at the United States Naval Academy. I was terrified. My stomach was in knots, and I felt like throwing up as I slowly walked toward the long, cold metal […] The post Don’t Follow Your Heart appeared first on Boodaism .

The problem we face as people living in western society isn’t that we are failing to succeed, it’s that we’re playing a game that’s not worth winning. We work harder and harder to acquire more status, more money, more things, and all the while never realize that winning the game isn’t just impossible, but will […] The post We’re Unhappy Because We Try to Win a Shitty Game appeared first on Boodais...

The scariest thing in my world is knowing that I always have direct access to pure, unfiltered truth. This isn’t a claim of me being special, or better than anyone, it’s just my experience of life. At any time, any place, I have access to something so true is cuts like the sharpest knife. I’m […] The post I’m Afraid of My Truth appeared first on Boodaism .

The difference between drug users and people in love is drug users know they’re high. That’s the funny thing about being in love, most of us are convinced we’re sane. We actually perceive ourselves as having more clarity, more access to truth and more self-awareness. The love we are now experiencing often feels like a re-claiming of […] The post Love + Drugs appeared first on Boodaism .