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Lately I’ve been thinking about how our society has been set up to shame women who like sex. I’m sure we’ve all thought about this, the double standard that exists where a man can sleep with a lot of women and be celebrated while a woman sleeping with a lot of men is shunned.  It’s ridiculous, but […] The post Jesus Loves Orgasms appeared first on Boodaism .

Five years ago I returned to visit the 6th grade teacher that changed my life. I walked into his classroom, proudly sporting a tan leather jacket I bought a week earlier in Montepulciano, Italy. I was surprised at how short he was, and quickly realized all my memories of him were from a time when I was […] The post You Don’t Need To Save The World To Feel Like You Made A Difference appeared first...

One of the things I find most frustrating about myself is how I get excited about something, enthusiastically declare it to the world then a few months or years later come out and say "I'm not doing that anymore". The post I’m Struggling to Not Sell Out appeared first on Boodaism .

Intentions are essential, strategy is not. Most of us go through life thinking we need to have a good strategy. We worry about things like what career to choose, when to get married, how many kids to have and how we’re going to lead next week’s business meeting. It’s almost entirely unnecessary. What we really need is […] The post Having an Intention vs Needing a Strategy appeared first on Boodais...

I love talking about open relationships, and no one understands them. So are you some sort of hedonist? Does that mean you’re not really serious? Why get married then? Sometimes it can be overwhelming, because once someone finds out you’re in an open relationship it’s all they want to talk about. But I don’t mind. I […] The post What I Mean When I Say I’m in an Open Relationship appeared first on...

It ain’t easy bein’ an ego. Every day, our fragile little ego innocently seeks validation, approval, a sense of importance, and then what happens? Our “higher” self catches on and ruins the whole thing. What a party pooper. In my twenties I was having a great time being a player, having meaningless sex with women […] The post The Inconvenient Truth About Legacy appeared first on Boodaism .

I have a friend named John. John is a captivating public speaker, and shows it in this viral video about finding your passion. People think John is an expert at passion, they think he has special knowledge on the subject and that he can teach them something. They are right, and totally wrong. What John teaches is mostly insignificant. It’s not […] The post How To Find Your Passion Instantly appear...

Two years ago I ran out of money. This was different than being in debt, I mean I literally exhausted all my financial resources to the point where the gas light was on in my car and I was wondering “do I have enough money to get gas?” I felt afraid and excited. “Excited?” I thought […] The post Running Out of Money as an Adventure appeared first on Boodaism .

Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness. ~ Mark Twain What if every child growing up in the United States visited 40 different countries before they graduated high school? This is an impossible dream I’ve had for several years, so I’ve decided to share it because it’s too good not to. It’s an idea that was born […] The post Virtual Exchange Program: Geography Class for the 21s...

My Mom was crying when I called her. I woke up this morning to a text message that simply said "please call". That means something serious has happened. The post What To Do When I Die appeared first on Boodaism .

A few minutes ago I was editing the audio for my podcast Darken the Page. I was spending more time on it than I planned, making tiny changes that no one else would notice, and judging myself. “I’m such a perfectionist”, I thought. Then I noticed something interesting. I enjoy making these little edits. I love the fact that everything […] The post How Indulging Perfectionism Makes Me A Better Write...

I have good news and bad news. The good news is how you see the world is totally accurate. The bad news is that also applies for every single person you’ve ever met. All perspectives are true, but they are not the whole truth. In fact, the whole truth may be so magnificent and vast […] The post All Perspectives Are True appeared first on Boodaism .

Author’s Note: Nothing that I’m about to suggest is fact, it’s a framework to see life from a different perspective. Before you were born, you were nothing. You existed without a body, a mind or a life. You chose to come to Earth because you wanted to experience this thing called “life”. Before you arrived, […] The post Life Is A Carnival of Experience appeared first on Boodaism .

Consider that life is like an art class. This class has no beginning, no end and the kids come and go. When you arrive, the teacher hands you a blank canvas and says, you can create whatever you want, you can have all the materials you want, there are no grades, no expectations and no […] The post Life is Like an Art Class appeared first on Boodaism .

Maybe you’re not so special. I get it. Everyone is different, everyone has their own gift and everyone is a unique manifestation of the divine blah blah blah… that’s also true, but sometimes we take this too far. Lately, this idea of two people being “twin flames” keeps popping up on my Facebook news feed. I decided […] The post Maybe You’re Not So  Fucking Special appeared first on Boodaism .

I love walking through automatic doors, then right before they open raising my hands and pretending I’m opening them with special powers. Isn’t that fun? Isn’t it fun to pretend like you’re in control?  We go through life thinking that we are in the drivers seat, thinking we are in control and that everything happens because […] The post Are You Really In Control of Your Life? appeared first on Bo...

We often set goals when we are not genuinely inspired to do something. Isn’t that interesting? To me, this statement says everything I need to know about how goal setting can be counter-productive to productivity. Goals need to exist when we’re forcing ourselves to do something we resist. If a goal is created for the purpose of motivating […] The post A Goal Is Something You Don’t Want To Do appea...

It was just past midnight on the Greek island of Naxos when I awoke to bits of sand hitting my face and cold air blowing in off the Aegean Sea. I quickly sat up, looked around and began to panic. The thing I had been afraid of this entire trip had just happened. That night I had […] The post The Most Frustrating and Beautiful Day of My Life appeared first on Boodaism .

How do you know when it’s the right time to break up with someone? The confusion around this question has caused me lots of frustration. As a single guy, it stopped me from really loving someone deeply, because I was afraid of getting stuck. In relationships, my uncertainty led to anxiety about how to deal with times […] The post On Breaking Up appeared first on Boodaism .

Why am I not succeeding? For many years, this question was the launching point of my work as a life-coach, and I had a great answer to it. You don’t want it bad enough. It was a fun moment. I would launch into an inspirational speech and say things like… If you wanted it bad enough you’d […] The post You Don’t Want It Bad Enough, and That’s Okay appeared first on Boodaism .

Hi. My name is Dave, and I’m a scale-a-holic. I can’t stop optimizing. The funny thing is, I never thought it was a problem, because everyone I know does it too. Who doesn’t love efficiency, right? Read a book in five hours instead of ten? Sign me up. Brush my teeth in 30 seconds instead of 2 minutes with the […] The post 4 Habits of Highly Effective People Who Are Never Satisfied appeared first o...

What makes a great speaker? What is the difference between someone who is so compelling they easily hold your attention, and someone who is so boring that it’s a fight to keep your mind from wandering? It’s not their body language, it’s not how much they know and it’s not their charisma. It’s something we all do without realizing […] The post How To Touch Someone’s Heart appeared first on Boodaism...

I didn’t want to write this article. I wanted to write something like “how to throw caution to the wind and make art that scares you”. The problem is I’ve already written that. Many times. There is an equally valid perspective about how great art gets made, and it’s not sexy. It starts with two words. […] The post The Benefits of Comfort and Security for a Creative Life appeared first on Boodaism...

I often meet people who hear discoveries about life and instantly compare them to teachers, religions or philosophies they are familiar with. They are like an encyclopedia of theories, and everything can be referenced in the library of their memory. They will say things like “that sounds like Zen” or “that’s what Eckhart Tolle is saying” […] The post An Encyclopedia Contains No Wisdom appeared fir...

I’d like to share some good news. You are not loved. You are not safe. You are not whole. You are not successful. You are not enough. You are not worthy. When we affirm ourselves, we are playing into the agenda of our ego. We are shoring up the walls that hold our identity in tact. […] The post All Affirmations Are False appeared first on Boodaism .