Birth Moms Real Talk

We celebrated BMRT 5th Anniversary at the 2026 National Council for Adoption Conference in Washington, Dc. After 5 emotional, powerful impactful years talking to Birth/First/Natural Mothers sharing their stories has been a Healing Place of Grace. Some women have told ‘ their secret after 20, 30, 40, 50 years. Thank you for trusting me with your story . We had the opportunity to meet fellow advocat...

This is a Special episode of BMRT . WE had a very candid conversation with birth/first/natural mothers, Dana, Jesse and Jori about their journey. As I say , we are all in this together . We also have on the podcast Drs. Ashley and Paulina , who are conducting a research study with birth/first/natural mothers to listen to US. BMRT is in collaboration because our Voices have been silenced for so man...

Yvonne is H. O. T , Honest, Open, Transparent of the long advocacy fight on releasing from the vault , original birth certificate ( OBC) . Our voices, Birth/First/Natural Mothers , need to be heard and not silenced . Yvonne speaks about BMRT partnership with “ First Families Project “ by Dr. Paulina and Dr. Ashley on Life History Interviews with U. S. Birth Mothers. Grief and trauma is pre-verbal...

Cassy grew up raised by her grandparents wondering why . When she found out the circumstances , she realized the sacrifice her grandparents Cassy discovered they made to ‘ Step Up ‘ to raise her. Cassy discovered her pregnancy at a late date . Her mental mindset became a split in emotions on what to do . Cassy kept her pregnancy secret from nearly everyone . Cassy had less than 2 hours to choose a...

Sherry shares her journey of experiencing the trauma, secrets and shame that most birth/first mothers experience. Her thoughts of denying her pregnancy and persistently saying “ I a not pregnant “. Once reality was made real , then there was the decisionthat she faced. Sherry spoke about believing there was “ A Plan “ . Sherry and Yvonne talked about the ‘ Real Talk of what birth/first mothers wen...

Anne brings a fresh perspective from her path of healing. She shares as an adoptee and a birth/first mother . ‘Children can not Process’ are her words about growing up. At the age of 8, she asked herself the question, “ How does this make sense? “ She talks about what she realized was her faith . Anne shares how she wanted to hear someone ask her if she was OK . She simply wanted to be seen . Anne...

Laura grew to know trauma, secrets and shame as many adoptees and birth/first mothers do. We talk about the choice to accept the shame, continue the secrets and address the trauma . She shares her journeyof discovery of learning that she was going to be a mother. Laura leaves us with important information that many may not know. Laura’s reunion journey with her daughter is like many reunions , a s...

Kitty is a birth mom in reunion, and she holds a unique position in the adoption triad community. Kitty is an adoptee, birth mom, and adoptive mom. She brings a focused lens to all perspectives and shares openly how she is on a journey of healing. Kitty talks about a recurring family history that adds another layer to her story.

BMRT podcast has the ONY LIVE Triad Dialogue Discussion that brings a honest, open and transparent Triad discussion ( H.O.T.) to the public. We pull the covers off Trauma , Secrets and Shame in adoption . We welcome as our guests, Damon Davis, Host of Who Am I Really Podcast, adoptee and adoptive parent, Jennifer Dyan Ghoston, host of Once Upon a Time in Adoptee and Podcast , adoptee, Cynthia Roun...

Brandy grew up in a small rural town exposed to foster homes at an early age. She was a child of teenage parents. Brandy grew up quickly with the life circumstances that she experienced. She said she spent a ‘ Summer of Love with her 16-year-old boyfriend to learn going back to school that she herself would be a teenage mother. Brandy overcame feelings of low self-esteem to learn to know “What She...

Lori shares openly what we as birth moms say in silence, “Reunion is Hard”. Lori’s journey shares her desires of her heart of being in reunion with her child. Lori is a champion in helping birth moms steer through the obstacles and “roller coaster emotional rides” of being a birth mom.

Beth’s journey started in a family that brought her many heartaches. She wondered how to deal with the many family losses, emotional grief, and trauma. Grief and trauma are not a simple process as Beth was told. She faced many challenges and “ She Made it Through “. Beth shares her view to society’s messaging regarding adoption. Adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary situation.

Donna grew up in a home of “Fear and Unknowns”. She faced the traumatic experience of molestation. Donna became a birth mother at the age of 13. Donna’s siblings escaped all the family shame, remorse, and guilt just as she went down various paths seeking healing. Keeping secrets prompted her family to tell Donna to hide in the basement or attic when visitors are not seen and bring shame to the fam...

Cindy shares her experience of being a 15-year-old birth mom living in the Midwest. Cindy had a ‘ different family situation “ as she describes her life. Cindy had a sibling with autism which translated into her being a caregiver. Family legacy was missing from both her mom's and dad's families. Cindy says she grew up on “ an island”. Her journey took her through many different scenarios with pare...

Nicole -We are Told to Move On … Not Easy Nicole exhibited strength beyond belief as many birth mothers. Nicole experienced many losses from the age of 5, she persisted. Nicole’ resilience grew stronger with each trauma. She has built a relationship with her son in her open adoption. Now, she is in the midst of one of her Biggest traumas. Listen as she shares her journey

"Karen faced her 'own' birth secrets that she strived to 'untangle'. This gave Karen a unique experience as an adoptee confronted with finding her original birth certificate (OBC). Karen was passionate about the 'Real Talk' of adoption laws from state to state. She shared her story with passion, peace, and purpose. Karen had a straightforward attitude about societal pressures placed on birth/first...

Super Bowl LX airs on February 8, 2026 and is scheduled to air an Ad on Adoption . We had the chance to preview this ad. Cindy, another Birth/First Mom and I had a very transparent and candid conversation about this ad. Our conversation pointed out the glaring exclusion of the expectant woman’s voice , she was Not a Girl in the Middle , she was a Woman facing a decision. The voice -over shared wha...

Sydney says she was a relative “ normal” kid whose family expected her to behave at a certain standard because of her “ family influence” in her town . Early in Sydney’s life, trauma and grief entered her life with the tragic loss of her mother. . She then became the “ mother figure” to her younger siblings. Sydney became a mother without family support as other first/birth mothers experienced. Th...

Shelley was very engaging as she talked about explored “it” with her “bestie” male friend. After three months, as a first-year student in college, she was overwhelmed to learn that she was pregnant. Her initial feelings were numbness, shock, and fear upon this life-changing news. We spoke about where she was, who she told first and all the specific details that birth/first moms experience as speci...

Happy New Year 2026 . BMRT Podcast adds a new perspective , a new series in addition to interviewing Birth/ First Moms journeys. Yvonne will be having group chats with moms as well as discussing the practice of Radical Acceptance with adoptees, birth/first moms, and adoption moms as part of the new podcast series . We will return with our monthly BMRT Facebook LIVE Triad discussions, and we will L...

Alycea was a teenager at 17 living on her own when she discovered she was pregnant. Though her independence and struggle in everyday life, she realized that she could not care for herself and her child, Alycea had an older sister to teach her life skills at 17 when most only start at age 21. She knew the realities of bank accounts, paying bills, working a job and surviving in life. Alycea has trav...

Cathryn grew up in a very strict family. Her religious background shaped her youth. She described herself as a ‘ rule follower”. She felt she was “ in the way” in the home growing up. Cathryn had unconscious memories about giving birth to her daughter. Cathryn experienced PTSD while in therapy which prompted her to search for her daughter.

Shanae remembers the age of 9 and 1/2 so vividly. This time in her life was very challenging and brought forth many traumas that disrupted her life. This life-changing moment gave way to her ‘gift’ of writing her feelings in a journal. This was her “ coping” method. Shanae faced doubts of her ‘ truth’ by the adults in her circle. As an expectant mother, she faced challenges and vuln...

In a way, this is my own Birth Moms Real Talk episode from an interview with Damon L. Davis, host of the "Who Am I Really?" podcast. We discussed my reunion with my son after more than 40 years apart. I shared the loneliness of my pregnancy, my desire to keep her son versus against my inability to do so, the moment I came face to face with my son’s adoptive mother and the search to find the man he...

Marisa describes her childhood as being a “tough life” living with her single mom. There were many “ life transitions she experienced at an early age without the comfort and love to deal with her traumas. Marisa lived life on the streets and managed to stay focused towards a better life. A Friday night invitation for pizza changed her perspective on life. Marisa “Found the Ones” who were meant to...