Big Hormone Enneagram

We’re back at it looking at reactive harmonics. — (3:22) Reactive vs frustration / harmonics is how we resolve a situation — (7:16) ‘Hopeful’ better describes what positive outlook is up to / reactive aims to uncover where the other is located under duress  — (9:51) Katt Williams and 6 exposing the worst case scenario  — (12:34) 4/6/8 testing to see if you can hang with negative realness — (19:54)...

Looking back on 2023 with libations. Happy new year you filthy animals. — (2:20) Our impressions of BHE year IV / shifts in the business of the enneagram — (8:31) Why interest in the enneagram is taking a dip  — (14:27) Do people know about BHE or nah — (20:06) Enneagram reddit thinks Naranjo is the truth — (27:31) Highlights of 2023 episodes / the zones and the 7 — (38:39) Social pain and the att...

Chatting the enneagram in the movies. — (2:48) Non-romantic sexual instinct in Suspiria / sx-middle teases / Twin Peaks’ weird sp/sx — (10:32) Holy Mountain and Enter the Void as sexual instinct movies — (14:39) Paul Thomas Anderson and attachment stories — (16:38) How rare sexual is in the stacking / most movies are sp/so / Ari Aster makes deranged sp/so movies — (21:08) Get Out and Parasite as s...

Od’s with us this week to dive into the interesting world of astrocartography. — (10:12) What is astrocartography and how’d we get into this? — (16:08) Moving to significant areas on your astro map — (21:17) How to create your astrocartography map / what the circles on the map mean — (25:25) John’s lines confirm his love affair with Egypt — (29:04) DG’s meetings with dark men and misadventures in...

Continuing where we left off with Ikram and the Objective Personality Social Types. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram. — (6:16) The sp/so framing of the social roles concept makes it smaller / does social roles have any implications for the sexual instinct? — (8:40) Emeka vs John sx/sp with responsibility vs specialization — (11:43) Flex masculine identity...

We’re talking about the Objective Personality Social Types this week with Ikram. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram. — (7:55) *Gasp* John is taking responsibility / intro to OPS social roles — (14:18) What does flex mean? — (20:03) Flex vs friends — (27:39) Friend saviors get their flex through connections with people / Flex alienates friends — (31:44) Dist...

Live from Brooklyn backrooms answering your questions. Watch here: https://youtu.be/WlHQcWEglks — (2:32) How important is trifix order? — (12:10) What feels like boring chores to the sexual instinct? — (17:31) How DG experiences his lines of connection as a 9 with no attachment fixes — (25:26) What cakes would each of us bake? — (30:13) How to rizz up the 3-7 stem? — (36:56) What are the holy idea...

The wet heart types. Live pod this weekend. Be on the lookout for details. — (4:35) Assertive hexad types being out of touch with their shame — (6:26) Shame is not a great word for what the heart types are experiencing / identity needing to feel special — (12:57) Heart types needing to reinforcing pictures to feel a felt sense of specialness — (15:17) Confusing heart type shame with feeling ashame...

The fuming and stewing gut types. — (4:03) Alexandra wants to be led when she’s in the mood — (9:05) David is very angry at the sun — (16:49) And the plague of bread people — (20:35) Alexandra finally admits she has a rage problem — (30:30) Emeka’s rage is the fuel that keeps the car running people over — (34:25) 8 vs 1 fix anger and boundaries / the games begin once the 8 lets you in — (42:41) 4s...

Delving into the fear and anxiety of the head types. — (3:57) 5 fear of being contaminated — (10:40) Avarice is a sense that personhood isn’t robust enough to be fully exposed in the world — (11:30) The 8 line to 5 and the 2 line to 8 — (16:30) Ways to work on 5 avarice — (19:18) 5 fear as one way endless monologues — (24:17) How Emeka and John experience 5 fix fear — (33:52) 6 fear of fear itself...

— (8:25) Riffing on new terms for social / resonance and frequency — (15:08) Social as a 3D matrix / What is the big deal with what social types are looking for? — (20:15) We feel social chemistry with those who we feel regulated by — (23:17) Social boners and turn ons / the sensation of social in the body — (26:42) Social-blinds aren’t updating social impressions as the connection evolves — (30:0...

A sexual 4w5 and a social 4w3 walk into a bar. — (4:21) Vulnerability and sensitivity as a 4 — (7:21) The difference between 9 sensitivity and 4 sensitivity — (10:55) Type 4 is over-individuating to express singular identity — (13:30) Joseph won’t laugh at your jokes / 4 image ego self-editing and controlling natural heart expression — (16:37) John’s 4 frustration shows up in his romantic relation...

A horde of social types attempt a roast of the social-blind legends. — (7:55) Let the roasts begin  — (10:50) Creeps and Homewreckers — (13:19) The limited personas and channels of engagement of social blinds — (14:33) Joseph’s social 4 impressions of working with social blinds / social blinds being terrible judges of people — (20:21) Podcasting in the dark vs the social of communicating and being...

We’re joined by two social types, Ikram & Kristen, to explore the pain and suffering of the social instinct. — (12:33) Post-zone reflections on social pain and longing — (16:44) Potential dangers in social space — (22:48) The naivety of social-blinds with the social game — (26:50) Why people tear others down to prop themselves up — (29:47) Social is how we project our inner identities and shad...

Introducing the attachment support group, brought to you by Alexandra and Josh. — (12:36) Why do attachment types need support? — (14:18) A brief overview on what attachment types are — (20:17) What accountability means for attachment types / waking up from self-abandonment  — (29:00) Attaching vs preference / the gift of attachment is flexibility — (33:52) The value of a group that facilitates se...

We’re back roasting the crackhead and lovebomb babies of the enneagram. — (22:17) Why do we call self-pres blinds babies? / Overly dependent on the attention of other people — (26:24) Self-pres is self-regulation and self-containment. Not just paying your bills and taking care of yourself — (29:54) Difficulty making long term choices / a blindspot for one’s limitations — (34:18) Sp-blinds identify...

Watch the live pod on youtube: https://youtu.be/lhaDNCSuwW4 — (18:41) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram as a group — (23:18) Josh leads us through piecing together the history of the group — (37:44) DG’s instinct cards and the birth of the collage exercise  — (44:34) How Alexandra found the group and typing meltdowns — (53:51) Courtney finding the group and her object relations contributions...

— (10:40) Welcome to our roast of the sx-blinds — (15:52) so/sp are way too serious and stuck-up about relational categories and context — (21:40) so/sp’s do it with their gloves on in the museum  — (25:57) The power drive of so/sp / lineage and geneology?! — (30:35) What we like about so/sp reluctantly — (37:38) The roast of sp/so begins - the fixation on stuff — (43:52) sp/so collectors and hoar...

— (6:30)  Peering into the catfish void and the starvation of connection — (13:10) The failure of social in the west and the nuclear family / catfish as an internet age phenomenon  — (19:50) Soft white underbelly and the horrors that arise from a lack of community — (23:42) What’s in it for the catfisher? — (27:13) We’re all catfishing a little bit out of fear of rejection — (31:15) The thirst to...

Our reluctant cult leader finally decided to pick up where she left off. — (12:24) Alexandra’s intro to 3w2 vs 3w4 — (16:06) 3w4 self as exemplary object vs 3w2 self as interpersonal star  — (18:07) 3w4 bitchy frustration vs 3w2 schmoozy rejection — (32:00) Are 3w2’s better manipulators than 3w4’s? — (38:00) 3w2 vs 3w4 singers / which is more of a cameleon? — (40:49) Positive vs reactive wing — (4...

— (4:16) What it’s like to have frustration, rejection, or attachment last — (14:26) Emeka’s rejection/frustration refined border freakouts — (23:16) DG & Alexandra are rejection last ghostly 9s  — (25:22) John’s frustration/rejection locked down non-personhood — (32:54) What 4s with more attachment are like — (42:55) Attachment/rejection are stable negotiators  — (48:56) Gut lasts are unhinged  —...

— (1:27) Am I just attracted to 9s because they’re soft? — (12:41) ♫ The softest place on earth ♫ — (16:53) What do people like about hooking up with 8s or 1s? — (25:33) How do I help my 7 process grief? — (34:08) The fixated 9 crusade around healing — (39:38) Why are people so obsessed with image when image types are so rare? / what’s it like to have each center last? — (52:33) Center lasts and d...

— (13:24) Noticing people from an attraction lens / sexual blind weird algebra — (18:32) Trying to describe what attraction is without using social signifiers — (25:09) The chemical infection of the sexual instinct and the drug analogy — (28:03) What happens after the merging of sexual? — (30:55) The mercurial growth element of sexual chemistry / sexual is seeking or creating polarities that remix...

Super spreader hormoan instinct talks. — (7:47) Nancy chimes in on instinct love languages and what men really want but won’t say they want — (13:01) Sex work revealing missing needs and desires / strip club talk — (20:28) What’s up with America’s hyper-sexuality vs sexual conservatism  — (25:52) Culture as an instinctual meme / Latin culture drawing from Aztec mythology culturally integrates more...

Dearly beloved / we’re gathered here today / to love through this thing called instinct  — (2:59) We make our dominant instinct a religion / how we manipulate what love is through our dominant instinct — (5:47) Integrating the social instinct’s verbal-contextual expressions of love / Alexandra’s ‘love cup’ religion propaganda — (15:03) Zooming out and talking about the relationship meets non-negot...