Big Hormone Enneagram

Deserted by the others, the two lone swordsmen continued into the abyss of the unknown. With only memories of forgotten ancient texts to guide them. These are their stories. — (5:25) The role of cultural differences in the expression of type / confrontational blunt 9s from other cultures — (12:20) How our early life experiences and environment create an unexpected relationship with certain instinc...

Part 2 baby. — (1:39) The grounded reality of this cult vs the ridiculousness of Holy Hell — (7:45) We’re all vulnerable to sources of idealized parenting — (19:25) The school was for outcasts primed to fall for a parental manipulator — (28:35) 9’s attaching to a story as a form of maintaining psychological comfort — (31:34) We should watch Holy Hell and Wild Country — (39:08) Applications to beco...

Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu and get into this. — (5:13) Larry is an 8w9 862 Wouldn’t Hurt a Fly — (9:18) What’s so compelling about a type like Larry? — (13:00) The government and military as social hooks used to manipulate victims — (24:43) Setting an attachment landscape and opening the door for alternative realities with ‘taking responsibility’ — (29:53) 8’s leveraging victimhood and why Larry i...

Check out our prior episodes on objective personality if you haven’t already. John - Ti/Se-CS/P(B) / Alexandra - Se/Fe-PB/S(C) / David - Te/Se-PC/S(B) / Emeka - Se/Te-PC/B(S). Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu for next week. — (5:59) 3 Playas vs John’s Play-last / What is Blast — (10:28) Play is co-creative real time learning / PC vs PB — (14:51) Blindspots and tidalwaves / Emeka’s Sleep-last — (17:46) A...

Cont’d. — (6:02) This is now a 9 enabling self-pres podcast — (11:26) Become a hope machine / lift some weights — (18:14) We should do an episode on the self-pres love language — (21:11) John’s sleep vs Emeka’s sleep last as recluse cavemen — (26:29) Tackling big life topics through the lens of the enneagram / most relationship advice is missing the thing it most needs - the sexual instinct — (31:...

We’re talking about love, relationships, and sex again. — (4:34) Friendship jealousy and what causes it — (13:38) The tension between expecting too much from a romantic partner and not expecting much at all — (17:05) Western isolation puts more pressure on romantic relationships — (20:25) The need to be seen in a relationship and what it means — (24:26) All About Love by bell hooks defines love as...

Riffing and winging it. — (4:25) Josh’s new object relational theory of the centers and the superego triad — (10:20) The hornevians might explain why certain types are next to each other — (11:18) 8w9 vs 8w7 centralized vs decentralized leverage — (17:06) 1w9 vs 1w2  — (30:25) 4w5/5w4 ephemeral self-invention — (44:00) The hell of the double hexad types — (47:43) Plans for more soul intercourse ep...

Haven’t done one of these in a while. Applications to join the cult of cream are open today. — (10:32) Someone had a lot to be sorry for — (11:28) Borderline personality disorder, suicide, and 4 / mental illness and enneagram types  — (18:08) Our body impressions of the heart types — (26:07) Heart types are rare / why are most people 6 or 9 and why are 4s so rare? — (35:37) We’re the most unsucces...

Picking up where we left off with Nancy’s homecoming. Then onwards to David and Alexandra. — (8:04) David’s shares a haunting dream he had after his mother’s death — (17:03) Kristen probes David for more and interprets what be might represented — (36:41) Alexandra shares a dream she had about bleeding middle fingers on subways — (41:27) Kristen draws the connections between middle fingers and satu...

We’re not crying you’re crying. Kristen is back to psychoanalyze our dreams and traumas. Starting with Nancy. — (10:37) 9s sleeping all the damn time / hit up the Loveline if you’re an insomniac 9 — (15:38) Nancy tells us the story of her traumatic disaster move to the Netherlands  — (30:34) And how it directly relates to a juicy dream she had about a beheading — (41:01) Kristen interprets the com...

— (3:16) Nancy shares a dream with a recurring theme / what the unconscious is trying to tell us with a repeated dream — (10:59) Compensatory dreams / John’s social last dreams and parasocial drama — (23:32) Working with Kristen on dreams — (31:39) Exploring how dreams are shaped by instincts — (35:43) Alexandra’s persistent dreams about women To book Kristen for a dream interpretation you can rea...

Our dreamlord Kristen is with us this week to discuss exploring the corridors of our nocturnal psychodramas. — (9:48) How Kristen got into dream interpretation — (14:52) Dreams are a way to open up a dialogue with your unconscious and push the ego off its pedestal  — (19:14) Collective projecting from a lack of a transcendent function — (21:48) What does dreamwork add to understanding your enneagr...

Josh is back to unveil his profound new model of the centers and object relations from a point of view of development. This is major. — (13:30) Josh explains how his variant model of object relations and the centers came about / issues with the protecting and nurturing object relational framework  — (20:03) Ken Wilber’s holonic theory of consciousness and the centers as a sequence of development t...

Join us on our annual end of year drunk pod looking back on 2022’s ups and downs. — (7:13) Parasocial discord and drawing lines in the sand — (15:23) Looking back on the vibe of 2022 and the growth of the pod — (23:38) The year of Emeka slowing down / DG’s hot nerd creative updates — (32:44) Revisiting Alejohndra conscious sex talk and the sexual instinct — (50:51) Nancy getting married and moving...

Picking up where we left off with Josh and Spiral Dynamics. — (1:38) The conflict of what it means to help people with the enneagram from the worldviews of different stages of development — (7:33) Yellow distinguishes between and integrates interior subjectivity and external objectivity — (12:53) DG’s 7-fix ain’t got time for yellow — (16:31) Yellow makes finer distinctions beyond Green’s assumpti...

BHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh Lavine Josh of What It’s Like To Be You is hangin with us this week.  He broke down how the enneagram is missing and needs a developmental* model (*Not Riso’s Levels of Development) — (14:44) Our understanding of the enneagram evolves with the development of an introspective eye — (16:51) The ability to see oneself is a developmental achievemen...

Niklas joins us to dive more into the inner workings of our favorite type.   — (11:22) Niklas’ journey realizing and seeing his 2 rejection type structure — (14:18) Emptiness is what ignites the 2’s rejection dynamic — (17:38) The irritating penetration of 2 rejection / what’s behind the desperation of the possession dynamic — (21:09) The all or nothing of rejection prevents seeing the dynamic / t...

Our favorite type finally got winged. — (1:27) How much does the center of the wing play a role? — (22:21) Contrasting the attachment 3-wing vs the frustration 1-wing — (27:12) 2w3 as a mouth and emoji queen — (38:09) Justifying Pride with the double image of 2w3 vs the superego of 2w1 / the assertiveness of 2s — (42:37) Ego boundaries of assertive, withdrawn, and superego types / why superego typ...

Coming to you live from a brooklyn bedroom in the zone. A round the chat circle audience q&a pod. Watch the video pod here: https://youtu.be/cXMTPc5YIHo — (1:27) Awkward soc-last attempts to kickstart the pod — (9:50) How everyone got into the enneagram and what it has done for them?  — (11:58) Celia, a 6w5 middle manager, mistyped as an 8 before finding us — (13:14) Sarah, a social 9 DJ, found th...

Happy Halloween. Send in your questions and topics for the upcoming live pod.  — (3:38) Dahmer as an attachment type and death obsessed soc-blind — (10:49) The hot serial killer phenomenon / serial killers as an aesthetic   — (15:31) The disconnection from death in the west as a lived experience creates a shadow death obsession — (25:44) The social and type dynamics that allowed Dahmer to get away...

Picking up where we left off with Julie of Riverbend Coaching and the archetypal feminine. — (6:32) Julie starts us off with a short guided practice to bring us back into the space of the feminine  — (10:14) People are not in touch with their responses from the pelvis and genitals   — (12:10) The head center through the lens of the feminine — (17:01) The panoramic vision of the feminine head cente...

Julie of Riverbend Coaching is here with us to explore the archetypal feminine. — (6:48) Why and how Julie connected the archetypal feminine and the enneagram’s 3 centers — (9:04) The feminine in the body center — sacred form / the fertile matrix — (14:45) The feminine in nature is an uncontrollable force that gives life — (15:24) Could the goddesses be connected to the types? — (19:59) The patria...

Yes, Dive in. — (1:40) Sx types and Sx middles are most prone to delude themselves into thinking they’re going for what they’re passionate about or self-transforming — (7:18) Social clout chasers with no genuine connection — (8:51) The psychological penetration of sexual can be used to get cheap ego hits that avoids any risk and self-transformation — (12:05) Discussions in John’s study group on us...

Picking up where we left off with Courtney and rejection. — (1:46) The protection from vulnerability and transactional nature of relationships is true for all of us / But it’s more true for rejection types — (3:24) The different flavors of separateness and intensity of the rejection types — (8:21) How John and Courtney experience rejection in relationships as frustration and attachment types — (14...

Courtney is with us this week to work her magic on rejection. — (4:43) Courtney is here to bring the pain and hear rejection types suffer / What’s been opening up for Emeka? — (8:49) How rejection types set the dynamic up so it doesn’t work — a pre-rejection frame — (13:10) Courtney gives a recap/overview of object relations and why it matters — (15:02) Our O.R. is a blueprint for how relationship...