Better Men Get Better Women - The Mountain Top Podcast

My guest Dr. Gary Salyer is a well-known subject matter expert in the area of attachment theory. That means he has spent a whole lot of time studying how--and why--humans fall in love and the alchemy of relationships. He also knows something about why people fall OUT of love and tend to hurt each other even when they're IN love. His book is called Safe To Love Again, and in this episode we talk ab...

It's the foundation of every good solid relationship. With it, you and your significant other are set for years of blissful happiness together. Without it, you're likely doomed to failure. We're talking about trust, of course. Emily and I have enjoyed a trusting relationship with each other for nearly sixteen years now, and she finally sat down with me for a deep dive into all aspects of what that...

Everything would be so much easier if we could just figure out, with absolute certainty, whether a woman was sexually interested in us or not. I mean, we're told to look for eye contact, hair twirling, lip biting and other objective signals, but most of us just never, ever see that sort of thing happening right before our very eyes. Is it that we aren't getting the hints? Or could it be that there...

Well, this is one of those episodes that had better be a lot of fun, or else we will have missed the point completely. And indeed it is. The deep-dive into how to bring out a woman's playful nature has been a long time coming, and I've finally found the right guest to make it happen. Alicia Munoz is a couples therapist and the wildly-popular author several books, including The Couples Quiz Book. A...

My guest is the author of 'Mental Illness Is An A**hole', an attention-getting title if there ever was one. Indeed, Gabe Howard has been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, which greatly contributed to the downfall of his first marriage. Today, however, he is in a successful long-term relationship spanning ten years. Meanwhile, as you probably know, my own first marriage was rocked by my spouse's men...

Swagger is a loaded word, isn't it? You may picture someone who is not just super-confident, but downright arrogant, right? Well, my guest Leslie Ehm is the author of a popular book meant to challenge old stereotypes surrounding swagger and redefine them. It's called, Swagger: Unleash Everything You Are To Become Everything You Want. In it, not only does she throw down the differences between mere...

My guest Roman Chiporukha and his wife run a high-end travel adventure curation service for the uber-wealthy. Not only does he know a lot of famous and powerful people, his gig has been expanded of late to include space tourism curation as well. In fact, Roman has already seated at least one civilian astronaut on a trip to the ISS in the near future. As you might imagine, Roman has traveled the wo...

Co-Host Dr. Mark Goulston (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/crazy) My Guest Dr. Mark Goulston is a psychiatrist and the world's foremost expert in relational conflict management. He's the author of many NYT bestselling books, including Talking To Crazy: How to Deal with the Irrational and Impossible People in Your Life. Conventional wisdom on how to deal with irrational people is typically that you...

My returning guest is the ever-charming Preity Uupala, who brought up the idea of sexual conversation as a topic. Who was I to miss the opportunity to hear from a woman about something so confusing to so many men? I mean, it's easy to wonder how we got nearly eight billion people on this planet when it's so hard for men and women to even talk about sex together, let alone have it. For sure, lots o...

If you're like any other red-blooded guy out there, the chances are very good that your father never told you about girls, dating and sex. Unfortunately, that left most of us to get what little information we got from deeply flawed sources. Even worse, most of us remained absolutely mystified by girls well into adolescence, early adulthood or possibly even beyond. Well, my guest Michael McPherson...

Co-Host Timothy Ward (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/goddess) Men and women were clearly designed to get along and be in partnership together, yet in real-world practice that is often replete with challenges. What's up with that? Well, despite the somewhat lofty title of his book Savage Breast: One Man's Search For the Goddess, my guest Tim Ward has happened upon some truly original and at times m...

Co-Host Rick Kirschner (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cantstand) My guest is the legendary author of the wildly popular book How To Deal With People You Can't Stand, which has now been published in at least 27 languages. Rick is happily retired nowadays, so he rarely has to deal with such people anymore. For my part, I'm simply thrilled he came out of retirement to join us on this episode. But he...

My guest co-host this week is a disciple of Robert Cialdini himself, only not quite retired just yet and IMHO a bit more practical in how he speaks about his area of expertise. The topic, of course, is influence...more specifically, how to be more influential and gain personal power, all without being obnoxious, unethical or creepy about it. Why is it that so few men are truly influential? Could i...

Co-Host Gleb Tsipursky (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/gleb) My guest, Dr. Gleb Tsipursky is a world-class expert and bestselling author in the areas of mental blind spots and cognitive biases. According to Gleb himself, it was the series of rotten decisions his parents tended to make during his early childhood that drove his passion for helping others to make better decisions...thereby 'future-pr...

A couple of episodes ago we talked about how we can be our own worst enemy. But upon reflection, we left out one of the most devastating--and common--ways we do that. I'm talking, of course, about trying too hard. Do men, especially so-called 'nice guys', do this more than women? If so, why is that? Can it really be as simple as because men do EVERYTHING to impress chicks? But what are the ways th...

When my guest Michael Lassen was on the show for the first time, you guys absolutely raved over the content he brought to the table. Now, he's back to talk about what he calls the 'The Golden Checklist', aka 'The Success Checklist'. By now you've probably heard of Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules For Life, Stephen Covey's concept of listing Unifying Principles, or even my own Depth Chart system for eval...

Every time Big Will Hicks co-hosts this show you can count on a lot of fun and laughs. This show is no different, although it hammers home some more serious facts as well this time around. The hard truth for many of us as men is we're our own worst enemy. Will and I acknowledge we can both relate, looking on our own respective pasts. We've both also buried far more male friends than female ones. S...

We're told we ought to get off the couch and 'live our best life'. Yet, especially after a year of what we've all been through, the rampant cries of 'YOLO' only seem to lead to ever-increasing FOMO. My co-host Tommy Breedlove is the author of the book Legendary, and he returns for an off-the-cuff discussion of what it really means to live life to the fullest. I mean, do we really need to be rich,...

When I was a young man, one of my elder mentors gave me the best relationship advice ever: Marry a strong woman. The problem is, he didn't explain exactly what that meant. Years later, after lots of mistakes along the way, I'm indeed married to a strong woman, and I know exactly what he means. But the whole purpose of this episode is to make sure YOU do too. Enter GS Youngblood, who has literally...

It's one of the darkest secrets out there. I'm talking about physical and sexual abuse upon us as men. Not only do many men experience this in silence, even the topic at large is uncomfortable to discuss, isn't it? Well, whether you have a dark secret of your own or simply wish to be a source of strength and encouragement for a fellow brother who does, this episode is for you--and it's one of the...

You've likely heard the phrase 'feminine gifts' before, especially if you're familiar with the works of David Deida. But have you ever stopped to consider exactly what it is that the feminine wants to bestow upon the masculine? I mean, obviously there's sex. But as my long-time friend Zan Perrion and I have both recognized all along, women want to bring so much more joy, value and fulfillment to u...

Returning guest Jonathan Catherman not only wrote the book on masculine preparedness, he's all about teaching our sons and daughters to be self-reliant and gritty as well. In the wake of a year's worth of unforseen crises of varying magnitude, lots of us as men are rethinking whether or not those 'disaster prepper' guys really are the overreacting conspiracy theorists many of us thought they were....

Obviously, your voice matters on many levels. Your opinion, your beliefs, being assertive, and the like. But what about your real, literal, actual speaking voice? Well my guest is not only a bona fide voice coach, she has the real-world street cred to back it up. As fortune would have it, she was basically the real-life Anna from 'The King And I', having been hired by the King of Thailand to teach...

My guest Scott Yenor is a professor of political science at Boise State University and a Washington Fellow of the Claremont Institute. The main focus of his work is on the family in political thought. I first found out about him when he was on the Tucker Carlson show, of all places, where he discussed the fascinating social dynamic of how we as men tend to avoid marriage and fatherhood in our youn...

Dr. Marcia Reynolds is someone I should have met years ago. After all, she's one of the OGs in the coaching profession at large, the former president of the very International Coaching Federation itself, and current CEO of the major coaching firm Covisioning. As it turns out, based on her writings, she is the quintessentially perfect guest to address the long-overdue topic of how to be assertive....