Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS

Don't you wish that there was a "Do's and Don'ts List" for  people who work with partners? Professionals, pastors, friends and family are well meaning but they often times are unclear as to how to support a woman who is suffering from sexual betrayal. Lyschel Burket has put together a list of Do's and Don't to help anyone who is on the front line and wants to have some healthy guidelines for helpi...

Kids are smart and they can sense or know when Discovery has occured yet they tend to get lost in the shuffle once betrayal trauma surfaces. Carol the Coach interviews Jessica L. Eidens,CSAT, CCPS who is a specialist helping families get through the pain, tension and stress that comes with problematic sexual behavior.

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck who is a specialist in helping couples heal from relational betrayal. She is going to discuss the topic of Micro-Cheating and discussing how you can identify it in your relationship.

Although well meaning, people in your faith community can betray you because they don't have enough education and information about partner betrayal and trauma. Carol the Coach interview's Karen Trifiletti who has made it her mission to help faith communities become more partner sensitive. She helps partners to deal with the retraumatization that can occur with her faith community when well intent...

Happy Thanksgiving...I am with my family today but I am airing a show on partner resources to help guide you to accessing more support. Talk to you next week at our regular time! Carol

Carol the Coach is interiewing Christian Hutcheson, an expert in couples therapy. Dr Christian believes that she has found a technique that moves couples into deeper recovery when they have reached a plateau in their couples work. She believes that she has found the secret to enriching the couples relationship and she wants to share it with you!

I am training Clinicians and Coaches this week so this is a replay of a show that talks about how to build your sexual relationship in a way that makes you feel safe! We will see you back next week for live Betrayal Trauma Radio.

EMDR is a wonderful therapy designed to help you integrate the traumatic experience in a manner that allows you to recall the memory without feeling intense trauma. EMDR was created to help you integrate the traumatic experience so that you process trauma and build more resiliency. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Cheri Hammer who has a specialty of working with betrayal trauma and teaching pa...

Judy Kelly  is an LCSW and a CSAT who is trained in Dr. Brene Brown's work on shame resiliency. She works with couples experiencing sexual addiction and wants to help partners work through emotional self regulation and shame resiliency. Carol the Coach will be inteviewing Judy on her Daring Greatly and Rising Strong Workshops that she does to promote healing and good self-esteem.

While gaslightiing is something that is an issue in many, many relationships, the gaslighting experience is not always the same. Like most things, there is a scale or a degree that a sex addict may use gas lighting to maintain his addiction. Listen as Carol the Coachh interviews gaslighting expert Sarah Morales who wants to share the red flags so that you will be able to identify it. She maintains...

One of the greatest casualties to sexual addiction is when a partner has to deal with triggers. Dorit Reichental  has developed a Trigger Busters technique that sex addicts can use with their partners to assist in managing the triggers. Listen as she and Carol the Coach dialogue about how a husband can be the support she needs to quiet the triggers!

So many partners want to give back to other partners but are not sure how to start. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Coach Cat who shares her own personal story of being a partner, and having limited supports to get her through the crisis. What did she do? She got the needed training to work with partners and give back by becoming APSATS trained and creating curriculum for the Naked Truth Proj...

Partners of sex addicts experience an emotional roller coaster due to the unique and powerful trauma of sexual betrayal. Lisa will be explaining to Carol the Coach the phenomenon of triggering and the potential damage this can cause, outlining her favorite methods for successful namigation of these occurrences i the daily lives of partners.

Anyone who has experienced the trauma of betrayal knows the reality of the dreaded triggers that plague the lives of partners. In the context of the relationship in which the betrayal occurred, these triggers often merge with the addict's own relational trauma scripts which greatly affects a partners sense of safety.  Listen as Carol the Coach interviews "Trigger Expert" Jake Porter, who has a met...

Listen as Carol interviews a sex addict who wants to share his recovery from addiction and the role the polygraph has played in his healing and growth. He wants to communicate the powerful and positive impact the polygraph has had on his recovery and sexual brokenness and the positive impact it has made on his life and marriage.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Tim Stein MFT, CSAT, CCPS who has made it his mission to deal with the aftermath of sexual addiction by using a partner sensitive approach. He will be discussing the benefits to sex addicts, the betrayed partners and the relationships of incorportating a partner sensitive approach into the sex addict's individual and group therapy work.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Lyschel Burket who is a Lead Hope Caster for  Hope Redefined Ministries, an organization that assists Churches in providing partner sensitive guidance when sexual betrayal has occured. Lyschel discovered first hand how churches, although well meaning, did not provide the proper guidance to partners and she has made it her mission to educate churches to minister...

There is a growing awareness, research and appropriate treatment modalities about the traumatic impact of learning of a loved one's addiction, However, there is a distinct absence of research seeking more information about the sexual impact of the addiction on the partner's sexual experience. Carol the Coach is interviewing Jeanne Vattuone who will be helping us understand sexual trauma and how th...

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Evelyn who has a story to share about loving a sex addict who has been in and out of recovery. She wants you to know that despite the intense pain behind her story, she has managed to grow stronger. She has vowed to help other women on this journey. She is currently writing a memoir to help provide a guide that will empower other women.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Marie Kriebs an expert in intimacy disorders, partner betrayal and vulnerability. As an APSATS trained therapist, she believes it is important to educate betrayed partners about healthy intimacy and the importance of personal growth and self awareness. She will be sharing some of the myths about vulnerability and helping our listeneers toidentify how and when t...

Relationship Betrayal Trauma Recovery  is essential for a person to heal from the wounds of being betrayed by their spouse or intimate partner. However, knowing what to do when you discover the secret betrayals can be overwhelmingly confusing. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck who specializes in helping individuals and couples heal the wounds of Relationship Betrayal. Tod...

Things have changed and what we know at APSATS is that once an addict is in good recovery, we need to start working on the early fundamentals of couples work to help the partner feel safe. Listen as Jeanne Vattuone talks about the principles of working with the coupleship after discovery, recovery, and disclosure

Boundaries are essenntial in good sexual addiction recovery. Not only do they keep you safe, but they let your spouse know what the consequences are if they are violated. Carol and Pam have hammered out some good boundaries and consequences that have worked well in Pam's family. Find out how to create healthy boundaries or fine tune the ones you already have!

Carol The Coach will be interviewing David Robbins who is a certified polygrapher and uses them regularly to help sex addicts build trust in their wives and to increase the accountability factor that helps to keep them sober. He has given over 200 polygraphs to sex addicts and finds it particularly helpful after disclosures. Listen to this facinating interview and decide if you want to use polygra...

Carol the Coach interviews Coach Karen who has lived through partner betrayal and shares her inspirational story of how she and her husband healed together. She explains that recovery work is necessary for both the partner and spouse but then they must work on the coupleship to regain the intimacy that they lost. Coach Karen will share some thoughts, tools and suggestions for those who are beginnn...