BEST FOR ME (VALIDATING NARCISSIST ABUSE SURVIVORS AND DAUGHTERS W/NARCISSIST MOTHERS)

This episode talks about the worst thing that can happen to you when you are involved in a narcissist relationship. The narcissist will steal your identity by having you doubt yourself and lose your self-worth. Narcissists will turn others against you having you feel that you are the problem or that something is wrong with you. Find out what the narcissist does that causes you to lose yourself and...

In this episode, Shayla recaps No Contact from previous episodes and breaks it down even further with the what, when, how, and why to go no contact. Shayla describes going no contact as the ultimate boundary when dealing with a narcissist, but agrees going no contact is not for everyone. You must be strong to maintain no contact but when you decide to go you will feel you should have done so a lot...

In this episode, Shayla continues to discuss going no contact with a narcissist family member and the impact going no contact has on the family. Shayla also shares what experts say you cannot do when going no contact with a narcissist under any circumstance. EVERYONE is welcome at Best For Me and especially anyone that has experienced narcissist abuse, emotional abuse, being gaslit (gaslight), has...

Going no contact is necessary but is not for everyone. Shayla identifies the situations when no contact may not be an option for you. Shayla also talks about her experience going no contact with her narcissist mother and her golden child brother. EVERYONE is welcome and especially anyone that has experienced narcissist abuse, emotional abuse, being gaslit (gaslight), has a narcissist mother, who i...

In this episode Shayla weighs in on the Brooklyn Beckham news that is trending. She will answer the question, "is Victoria Beckham a narcissist mother" before she begins discussing the topic of self-love and self-care. Stop people pleasing. Love yourself more than you would love anyone else. You deserve love and it is not cliche', you really do have to love yourself before you can love someone els...

This episode talks about the worst thing that can happen to you when you are involved in a narcissist relationship. The narcissist will steal your identity by having you doubt yourself and lose your self-worth. Narcissists will turn others against you having you feel that you are the problem or that something is wrong with you. Find out what the narcissist does that causes you to lose yourself and...

This episode helps you start your journey to heal from narcissist abuse. This is a new year and the perfect time to make this a new you. To begin healing we want to accept our reality. We want to live in our truth and break cycles. You will not be able to heal from the abuse without accepting your reality. After acceptance, you live in your truth, you set your boundaries, continue to educate yours...

In this episode you will hear how to get your power back when dealing with the narcissist for 2026. Find out 10 of the most common boundaries to set with narcissists or anyone that disrespects your boundaries. You'll be in control of the relationship instead of being the one that is controlled. When you know yourself, what is important to you, and believe that you matter, you can gain strength to...

In this episode we add to the narcissist profile discussed in previous episodes: narcissist traits, manipulation tactics, who the narcissist targets, and why they hurt the people they should love, Now let's look at the narcissist's cycle of abuse. Love Bomb, Devalue, Discard, and Hoover. Listen to see how the narcissist operates and find out why going no contact is the only option for breaking fre...

In this episode we recap with a summary of the traits of the narcissist and the weapons of destruction used by the narcissist. We add to the discussion who can be a narcissist, (anyone), who the narcissist targets, and why the narcissist hurts the people they should love. Please comment on this podcast. Do you think you. have received valuable information? Let me know if this is something you woul...

In this episode, I talk a little more about my book, You're Not My Mother, You're a Narcissist. The e-book is available with most retailers so you can read it on your favorite reading device. The book is being discounted for Narcissist Abuse Awareness month, so now is the time to buy it. If you are interested in true crime, child neglect, child abandonment, narcissist abuse, and family secrets it'...

In today's episode I share more of my personal experiences having a malignant narcissist mother. As promised, I read an excerpt from the book and tell how I spent the night in Gallatin High School in Gallatin, TN because I did not want to go home to my mother for more mistreatment. Those days were so hard for me, but I still didn't know what I was experiencing was abuse until I was an adult and mu...

December is Narcissist Abuse Awareness month and we've been talking about how to identify a narcissist by their traits and the manipulation tactics narcissists use to control us and destroy our relationships. I've also been sharing my personal story having a narcissist for a mother. If you're interested in reading my e-book, You're Not My Mother, You're a Narcissist, click on the link below to fin...

This episode continues episode five where we begin discussing the narcissist' manipulation tactics. We go even deeper to discuss more manipulation tactics. We're getting the information out on narcissists and narcissist personality disorder in observance of Narcissist Abuse Awareness Month and to give you what you need to overcome the narcissists. Be sure to check out my book, You're Not My Mother...

Narcissists use several tactics to manipulate others and control situations for their benefit. In this episode we begin to talk about isolation and gas lighting. These two tactics are very powerful by themselves but it is only the beginning of our discussion on the weapons the narcissist uses to attack our well-being, and keep us separated from the truth. Here at Best For Me were validating narcis...

Today's episode further exposes the traits of the narcissist. Particularly narcissist mothers. Shayla shares her childhood experiences having a malignant narcissist mother. Her mother would deprive her of food, basic necessities like soap and deodorant and even sanitary pads for her menstruation. If you would like to hear the full story of Shayla's childhood as well as experiences with her narciss...

We continue the discussion on how to recognize a narcissist. We've exposed them being evil, incapable of loving others, manipulative, pathological liars, and have an over exaggerated sense of entitlement. I explained how narcissist personality disorder is on the spectrum so we all have narcissist traits. This information has been provided in episodes 1 and 2 so go check it out if you haven't alrea...

We are continuing our discussion on narcissist personality disorder, breaking down the traits of a narcissist. We've talked about how narcissists are claimed to be evil in their nature and that they are incapable of love. This episode talks about the narcissist's self-entitlement, manipulation, and deceitfulness. Go and get my book, You're Not My Mother, You're a Narcissist to read my story on how...

December is here and we're recognizing Narcissist Abuse Awareness month. It seems the word narcissist is frequently being used to describe people. This is because narcissist personality disorder is on the spectrum so, we all have narcissist traits. When narcissist traits are so extreme that it significantly impacts your relationships and how you treat others it becomes problematic. Listen to Shayl...

Hey we got through the Thanksgiving holiday. I had a great holiday. NO Narcissists. I'm thankful. What are you thankful for? See how I spent my holiday and find out what songs I had on repeat and which one resonates with narcissist abuse survivors. EVERYONE is welcome and especially anyone that has experienced narcissist abuse, emotional abuse, being gaslit (gaslight), has a narcissist mother, who...

We're breaking from the narcissist conversation just to talk about what we're doing for the holidays. It's fun to see what people are doing for the holidays and since Tradition is Cancelled as I mentioned in a previous episode, people are doing things differently. Some of you may be having a Friendsgiving, or going shopping Black Friday. Find out what I like to do for the holidays in this episode...

Hey it's Shayla. Together we're going to get ready for the holidays dealing with these narcissists. Todays's topic is about setting boundaries. Yes, we've got to set boundaries with family too. Your family doesn't get a pass to disrespect you, hurt you, or devalue you just because they are family. Setting boundaries is for you and not the narcissist. Listen to find out how to set your boundaries a...

There are many people including myself who believe going "no contact" with the narcissist in your life, even when the narcissist is a family member, is the best way to overcome the narcissist. This may not always be an option for you, especially if you have kids and have to co-parent with the narcissist. This episode discusses 5 Strategies to overcome the narcissists and maintain your peace of min...

Not everyone is looking forward to the holidays. When you're dealing with narcissists and toxic family members, you may be dreading the holidays because it is not a happy time for you. Don't allow yourself to feel obligated to be around people who do not respect you. Even when those people are your family, you have every right to do what is best for you and if going around toxic family hurts you o...