Below The Circle

Have you ever walked into a buffet and overloaded your plate, only to realize later it was too much? That’s how Dr. Phyllis felt for years—saying "yes" to everything, thinking it would bring fulfillment, only to feel exhausted and unsatisfied. When we fill our lives with too many tasks and commitments, it often leads to frustration and burnout. As Christian women, we're natural caregivers and go-g...

Have you ever felt completely drained—like you’ve poured out every ounce of your energy and there’s just nothing left? If you’re nodding, Sis, you might be experiencing compassion fatigue. It’s a term often linked with therapists, first responders, or medical professionals, but it can affect anyone who invests deeply in others without replenishing their own well-being. Life pulls us in a million d...

Resilience is often misunderstood. Many think it’s about constantly pushing through, checking off tasks, and never slowing down. But this kind of resilience can quickly become a cycle—one that leads to burnout. So, what truly fuels resilience? It’s a question worth asking, because the answer can open up a new perspective and vision for life. Resilience doesn’t have to come from enduring everything...

Moving into 2025 is an opportunity to step forward with hope and purpose. While 2024 may have brought its share of breakthroughs and setbacks, it’s important to see it as a chapter in a much larger story. The lessons of last year are tools for growth, not limits on your future. What did 2024 teach you about yourself? Maybe it revealed strengths you didn’t know you had or opened your eyes to areas...

In life, we often put a lot of pressure on ourselves to succeed. We feel like every choice, every project, and every decision needs to be perfect. But here's the truth: not everything will work out, and that's okay. The concept of “fail fast and move on” is a powerful tool for growth and resilience. It's about recognizing when something isn’t working and not wasting any more energy trying to make...

Living life on autopilot can feel a lot like running on a treadmill—always moving but never truly getting anywhere. Tasks pile up, expectations mount, and before you know it, the days blur together in a flurry of doing. Everything on the surface might look fine, but underneath, there’s a quiet ache—a sense that something’s missing. This state of functional overwhelm is often mistaken for resilienc...

The holiday season is here, and along with it comes a never-ending string of parties, events, and gatherings. Invitations pile up, and so do expectations—both our own and those we think others have for us. It’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to do it all, only to find yourself stretched thin, burnt out, and wondering how you got here in the first place. Sound familiar? Maybe you’ve RSVP’d “y...

During the holiday season, everything seems magnified. The joy, the connections, the gratitude—but also the pressure, the grief, and the exhaustion. You’re juggling so much that it feels impossible to think clearly. Maybe you’ve caught yourself snapping at the smallest things or retreating because everything feels too overwhelming. Perhaps you’ve felt that heavy, unshakable sense of impending doom...

As resilient women, we wear a lot of hats. Caregiver, professional, friend, partner, mentor—the list goes on. We juggle roles with grace, but sometimes, in the rush of it all, we forget to take a breath. We move from one responsibility to the next without pausing to exhale, let alone change hats. And over time, everything builds up. We don’t realize how much we carry from one role to another until...

We live in a world that’s anything but quiet. The endless notifications, the to-do lists that never end, and the constant pull to keep going can drown out even our own thoughts. But there’s a quiet invitation waiting for you—a sacred garden of silence where you can meet Him. Are you carving out the time to step into it? No one is going to tell you to pause. No one is going to hand you the permissi...

When was the last time you sat in complete silence? Not just a moment without conversation but a true pause- a space free from background noise, notifications or that buzz from daily life. For many of us, silence feels strange, even unsettling. We’re so used to the noise of the world- that silence can feel like a void we don’t know how to fill. But what if that discomfort is actually an invitation...

What if the heavy burdens you’re carrying were never meant to be yours? Many of us find ourselves shouldering responsibilities that don’t belong to us, whether it's in our homes, relationships, or work.  Today’s episode is a call to action — to stop being the excuse and start empowering others to take responsibility for their own actions. When we take on what belongs to others, whether in par...

As resilient women, we often carry the weight of shame—shame over past experiences, unmet dreams, or goals left unachieved. We’re strong, we’re determined, but sometimes we feel burdened by lingering feelings of “not enough.” We’ve gone the extra mile for others, faced storms head-on, and shown up time and again. Yet, there are moments when we feel stuck, as if we’re spinning in place rather than...

Every day, it feels like something new comes at you. Some mornings, you just want to pull the covers over your head and hide from it all, but you still get up. You keep going because there's something within you – a spark of resilience that God placed there, a superpower that propels you forward. Today, let’s celebrate that. You were created to be resilient, a woman with a big heart and a deep cap...

As we journey through different stages—whether it’s personal growth, healing, or simply choosing to do things differently—not everyone around us will understand or support the changes we make. Some people may not be able to come with us into this new season, and that’s okay. But it raises an important question: Who is walking beside you, and who is holding you back? You have the permission to choo...

Have you ever felt overwhelmed, stretched in every direction by responsibilities at home and work? It’s easy to feel like life is living you instead of you living your life. Your brain is on overload, and saying no feels like an impossible task. You might be wired to be a go-getter, eager to meet others’ needs, but constantly saying yes can lead to burnout. It’s crucial to recognize that you’re no...

It feels like we’re constantly reacting—emails, notifications, the never-ending to-do list. It’s easy to get caught up in the rush, but living in this reactive state drains you. Psalm 46:10 reminds us to "Be still, and know that I am God." This isn’t just about slowing down; it’s about intentionally creating space to be present with God. When you pause, even briefly, you allow yourself t...

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly falling short or questioning your abilities? It might seem like imposter syndrome, but maybe the issue is that you simply have too much on your plate. We often confuse being overwhelmed with self-doubt when, in reality, it’s the never-ending to-do list and unrealistic expectations that are dragging us down. It’s not that you’re not capable – it’s that you’re...

Are you feeling stuck or unfulfilled despite your efforts? In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis offers an uplifting message for Christian women facing life’s challenges. Reflecting on Romans 5:1-5, she reminds us that “nothing is wasted.” Every struggle—whether in your career, family, or personal life—helps build resilience, character, and hope. You can find more profound joy and purpose by trusting Go...

Are you a Christian woman feeling stuck, even though everything looks fine on the outside? In this uplifting episode of The Resilient Woman Podcast, Dr. Phyllis offers practical encouragement to stop seeking approval from others and start fueling your life with God’s joy and purpose. She invites you to permit yourself to dream again and take steps toward the life God has planned for you. Listen in...

Is apologizing holding you back? In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis helps you explore the real reasons behind constant apologizing and how it could signify people-pleasing. She shares her journey of overcoming the need to say “sorry” for everything, highlighting the emotional cost of taking on unnecessary guilt. Dr. Phyllis invites listeners to reflect on how often they apologize and whether it’s gen...

Are you living the life you’ve always dreamed of? In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her journey of discovering that there’s more to life than the roles we fill. She encourages women over 50 to reignite their passions and dreams, reminding us that it’s never too late to live fully. Listen as she shares valuable insights on resilience, joy, and finding purpose beyond our day-to-day routi...

Do you ever feel like life is running you instead of you running it? In this episode of The Resilient Woman Podcast, Dr. Phyllis, a seasoned life coach and physician, invites you to explore the power of resilience. Discover how to reset, grow, and align with your purpose despite life’s challenges. Whether you’re a busy caregiver, a loving wife, or simply trying to keep up with the demands of every...

Are you feeling tired and questioning your self-worth? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis reminds you that it’s okay to love yourself, especially for Christian women who often struggle to put themselves first. She discusses why self-love is crucial for your growth and resilience. Learn how to embrace who you are, own your worth, and prepare for the new season God is calling you into. Whether you’re stru...

Are certain friendships keeping you from where God wants you to be? In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her wisdom on recognizing and letting go of relationships that drain your energy and hold you back. With compassion and understanding, she guides you on gently releasing these friendships so you can move forward in your life with strength and peace. Learn how healthy boundaries can hel...