Behind the Paddle

Send us Fan Mail Episode Description: In this episode of *Behind the Paddle*, host Porcelain Victoria shares her recent experience at the highly anticipated Femdom Ball, an exclusive event organized by Madame Caramel. This three-part gathering included a meet and greet with fellow mistresses, an elegant high tea, and, of course, the main event—the Femdom Ball. Porcelain Victoria gives us a glimpse...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode we will be continuing the story of Gentleman Jack, where we uncover the captivating life of Anne Lister and her trailblazing romance with Ann Walker, celebrated as the first recorded lesbian marriage in the UK. Through Anne's detailed diaries, we follow the couple’s passionate journey, from their secret marriage vows to their daring travels across Europe, all...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive into the world of Halloween costumes, slut-shaming, and the evolution of gender norms around dressing up. We'll unpack the origins of the “sexy costume” as a queer culture celebration, explore Halloween’s roots and the influence of gender stereotypes, and examine the fortune-telling rituals of 1800s Scotland and Ireland when busy women sought glimpses...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode we explore the extraordinary life of Anne Lister better known as Gentleman Jack, a daring lesbian diarist from the early 1800s, who documented her romantic, carnal adventures and pioneering spirit across Europe. Known for her sharp wit, rebellious nature, and a unique secret code she developed at private school, Lister's diaries reveal the boldness of a woman...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Emily Sin continues to interview Porcelain Victoria, a professional dominatrix and sex worker, to explore the dynamics of client etiquette in the world of BDSM and sex work. Victoria shares candid insights into her experiences, discussing the fine line between a respectful client and one that crosses boundaries. With real-life stories from her work, she delves int...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Porcelain Victoria professional dominatrix and seasoned sex worker pulls back the curtain on the unspoken rules of client behavior in the world of BDSM. Through candid conversation and first-hand stories, she breaks down what separates the respectful, well-prepared submissive from those who cross boundaries or waste time. From the art of approaching a Domme to the...

Send us Fan Mail  In this episode, we take a deep dive into the world of unusual kinks and paraphilias, from age play to puppy play and beyond. Porcelain Victoria, shares intriguing stories from her experiences in the sex work and kink community, shedding light on how these practices emerge in her work. Plus, we invite you to play along as we try to guess different kinks based on their scientific...

Send us Fan Mail In this compelling episode of Behind the Paddle , Porcelain Victoria, tells all about the unique challenges of dating while working as an escort and dominatrix. Together, we dive deep into the personal and emotional complexities of balancing a career in the sex industry with romantic relationships. We explore critical questions such as: When and how do you disclose your profession...

Send us Fan Mail What does the Japanese Penis Festival (Kanamara Matsuri), Disney's Moana, and the cult horror film "Teeth" have in common? They all reflect aspects of ancient cautionary tales about sexuality, power, and fear. In this episode, we explore the ancient and fascinating concept of vagina dentata—the myth of a toothed vagina found in folklore around the world. We dive int...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive into the current consultation in Scotland, where a pivotal decision is being made about the future of sex work in the country. The Scottish government is considering whether to introduce the Nordic Model, a controversial approach that criminalizes the purchase of sex but not the selling. We explore what this could mean for sex workers' rights, public...

Send us Fan Mail  In this week's episode join us for a captivating interview with Miss May , a professional dominatrix based in London, as she delves into the intriguing world of BDSM and the nuanced differences between working in the scene in the UK and Germany. Broadcasting from her fully equipped dungeon in E1, known as E1 DARKROOM , Miss May shares her insights into the art of domination...

Send us Fan Mail On this week's episode, we sit down with the insightful and irreverent Kaytlin Bailey, founder of Old Pros Online and host of The Oldest Profession Podcast . Kaytlin takes us on a wild ride through her latest show, "Whore's Eye View," a captivating and fast-paced exploration of 10,000 years of sex work history. Along the way, she shares deeply personal stories...

Send us Fan Mail On this week's episode we discuss our recent trip to Fetfest, swingathon and onlyfest as well as the feedback and comments we received from other attendees through our questionnaire! We dive into the highs and lows of each festival, offering perspectives from attending the festival as both a customer and a trader. Join us as we share the roller coaster experience of our journ...

Send us Fan Mail On this week's episode we will be joined by Moth; Founder of Moth to Flame events and Co-creator of the Uncensored Market in Glasgow! We will be discussing their new monthly drag show; Pai-slay. Showing the best of Scotland's drag performers with new guests each month! Grab your tickets for the next one at https://www.skiddle.com/whats-on/Paisley/The-Bungalow-Bar/Pai-Sla...

Send us Fan Mail This week, we continue the previous week's discussion!  We will discuss our personal experiences of these groups within the bdsm scene as well as some of the research done on this topic. How many boxes do you tick? 😉 Support the show Check out our socials! Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wondered why so many neurodivergent individuals find solace and community within the kink world? On today's episode of Behind the Paddle, we unravel the fascinating connection between neurodiversity and the BDSM community. We start by sharing our personal experiences at some of Scotland's most intriguing kink events, including Club T at the Polo Lounge in G...

Send us Fan Mail On this episode of Behind the Paddle we discuss why escorting more stigmatized compared to other forms of sex work. What activities and roles fall under the umbrella of sex work? And where does being a sugar baby fit into this spectrum—can it be considered a form of sex work?  Join us as we unpack these questions and explore the nuances and societal perceptions surrounding the div...

Send us Fan Mail What if the most misunderstood force in the world was flowing through our bodies every month? In this episode of Behind the Paddle, we explore the raw, untamed power of menstruation from ancient myths of death and fertility to cutting-edge research in medicine and longevity. Can periods repel natural disasters? Kill with a glance? Or are they simply nature’s most potent secret, di...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when pleasure is prolonged… or completely denied? On this episode of Behind the Paddle, hosted by Porcelain Victoria, we enter the tantalising realm of edging and chastity two deeply psychological practices rooted in control, submission, and the exquisite ache of anticipation. We break down the techniques, mental states, and dynamics involved in these rituals of restr...

Send us Fan Mail On this episode of Behind the Paddle, hosted by Porcelain Victoria, we dive into the shadowy world of financial discrimination. From closed accounts to denied services, we expose how banks treat sex workers and adult creators, share raw personal stories, and uncover what the government really has to say about it all. Why are our bank accounts really being shut down and who benefit...

Send us Fan Mail Does kink deserve its place in Pride? Let's find out. Let's go back to the very beginning of Pride: when did it start, who helped start it, and what is Pride all about? Support the show Check out our socials! Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan Mail In the electrifying debut episode of Behind the Paddle, host Porcelain Victoria is joined by two experienced kinksters for a deep dive into the world of electric play. From essential safety protocols to the tools that tingle, sting, and seduce, this episode explores how controlled currents can create unforgettable sensations and psychological intensity. Whether you’re curious abou...