BecomingU

In this episode of BecomingU, we talk about rejection, what it feels like, the phases we go through, and how we deal with it. I share a bit of my own experience and also bring in what friends had to say. Rejection hurts, but it’s something we all face, and sometimes it even leads us to better places. 00:00 - Introduction to the Podcast and Personal Updates 01:48 - Exploring the Theme of Rejection...

In this episode I share some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 20s, like why support systems matter and why asking for help isn’t weakness. I get real about unexpected expenses, talk about celebrating the little wins, and the dangers of falling into comparison. I also open up about how failure is part of the journey, why investing in experiences pays off, and the messy but beautiful lesson...

Starting over is hard. Like, really hard. Especially after taking a break and realizing your streaks, routines, and adulting plans are all out the window. In this episode of BecomingU, I’m just keeping it real about hitting the restart button, the guilt, the anger, and why consistency sometimes feels like a burden. [00:00] Introduction [02:15] The Struggle with Consistency [05:30] Personal Reflect...

Welcome to the BecomingU Pod, where we talk about the challenges of adulting. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Adult friendships are not as soft and simple as we thought. In this episode, we unpack the emotional rollercoaster of growing, maintaining, and sometimes losing friendships in your adult years. We talk about what it really takes to build solid friendships as adults. 00:00 Introduction to Adulting and Friendships 01:44 The Meaning of Friendship 09:18 Feeling Seen in Friendships 13:25 Friendship vs....

In this episode, Bukky and her cohost Dami have a lighthearted conversation about beauty standards, self-image struggles, and the complicated relationship between money and happiness. They share honest takes on being broke, trying to stay cute on a budget, and the pressure to have it all figured out. 00:00 Navigating Adulting: The Chaos of Growing Up 03:06 Beauty Standards and Self-Image 05:54 The...

We’ve all been hooked with the recent debate about Nepotism and its less privileged alter ego - Lapotism. But is nepotism a good privilege, or are good privileges nepotism? Join us as we talk about all things Nepo. I’m sure you’ll enjoy this one. 00:00 Introduction to Nepotism in Nigeria 02:52 Public Opinions on Nepotism 06:09 Understanding Nepotism: Definitions and Perspectives 08:49 The Impact o...

In this episode of the podcast, we talk about the struggles of adulting, the reality of life after university, and how to navigate career choices. We share our own experiences, the lessons we’ve learned so far, and some advice for anyone entering university feeling unsure. 06:58 Expectations vs. Reality of Adulthood 13:13 Career Aspirations and Educational Journeys 22:18 Reality Checks After Gradu...

In this episode, Bukky and Damilola discuss the pervasive issue of imposter syndrome. They share personal experiences and insights on how self-doubt and comparison impact one’s sense of self-worth. They explore the roots of these feelings, including cultural influences, and highlight the importance of community support. Ultimately, they emphasize the need for self-acceptance and recognising one’s...

In this episode of the BecomingU podcast, we’re talking about identity crisis, you know, those moments when you’re not even sure who you really are. We share our personal stories about feeling lost in adulthood, figuring ourselves out, and dealing with all the societal expectations that shape us. 00:00 — Introduction and Personal Updates 09:30 — Exploring Identity Crisis 18:25 — Generational Shift...

In this episode of the Becoming You podcast, Bukky and Dami share personal experiences and discuss the societal pressures surrounding beauty standards. They explore the impact of colorism on self-perception, the influence of media, and the challenges faced by both dark-skinned and light-skinned individuals. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and the need for societal cha...

In this episode of the BecomingU podcast, we talk what it really means to grow up in Nigeria. From communal living and moments of self-blame to the emotional pressure that comes with society’s expectations. We also reflect on how our religious upbringing shaped who we are today. It’s a conversation about the importance of community, the need to break out of survival mode, and how we can find our w...

Could this be the end of a season? In today's episode, we discuss the importance of taking action and materializing our goals as we wrap up the first season. It has been a great ride. Thank you so much for sticking with the podcast. I'm not so good at goodbyes, so I'm just going to say, 'See you soon.' Enjoy the episode! Welcome to another episode of the podcast ''Becom...

What role do family values play in our lives? Are we truly shaped by our childhood experiences? In today’s episode, my guest and I discuss how our upbringing has molded our personalities. We also contextualize this in the African parenting style and reminisce about childhood memories. Welcome to another episode of the podcast ''Becoming You,'' where we discuss the complexities of a...

Do we all agree that even as independent adults, we all need people who can put us in check? Someone who can boldly talk to us about certain things. However, considering that we receive a lot of advice constantly from people who think they know what is best for us and what we should do, we are constantly faced with handling multiple opinions, which can sometimes be overwhelming. In today's epi...

This is the kind of episode you listen to while sipping a cup of juice. What if I told you that you can physically be an adult but still think of yourself as a child mentally? In today's episode, I, along with other listeners of this podcast, talk about how we realized and accepted that we are now adults. We also briefly touch on what we like about being adults and the things we find annoying....

Hi friends, today's episode can be described as a rant special. The struggles of adulthood can be overwhelming, and as a result of being overwhelmed myself, in this episode, we just talked about various problems faced by adults and how they lead to instability in the life of an adult. Welcome to another episode of the podcast ''Becoming You,'' where we discuss the complexities of adulthood. I'm yo...

How well do you know yourself? Has this knowledge of yourself hindered you or been of great help to you? In today’s episode, we’ll discuss self-awareness and the pros and cons of being too self-aware. Welcome to another episode of the podcast ''Becoming You,'' where we discuss the complexities of adulthood. I'm your host, Bukola. Instagram — ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www....

As adults, we are constantly planning and making arrangements for the future, and worrying about this future or being anxious about it is a common trait among us all. In today's episode, we recognize that the fear of the unknown that lies in the future can do us more harm than good. So, we discuss what this fear is and how we can overcome it. Welcome to another episode of the podcast '&#39...

How do we identify when to stop fuelling our desire for more? You can call today's episode a reverse psychology episode. In today's episode, we discuss discontentment and how it can be helpful and destructive to our well-being. Welcome to another episode of the podcast ''Becoming You,'' where we discuss the complexities of adulthood. I'm your host, Bukola. Instagram — ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https:/...

Happy New Month! Ghosting in communication has become very common among young adults as the fear of commitment rises. Many describe it as a hurtful process, while others see it as a coping mechanism. In today's episode, listeners of the podcast share their personal experiences on ghosting and how it made them feel. Welcome to another episode of the podcast ''Becoming You,'' whe...

In this episode, we discuss how our childhood experiences and upbringing go a long way in determining our level of self-esteem. We also explore how self-esteem can be developed. Welcome to another episode of the podcast ''Becoming You,'' where we discuss the complexities of adulthood. I'm your host, Bukola. Instagram — ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/adeyemi_buk.....

It’s been 30 weeks of podcasting 🙌🏿😊 In this episode, I share my experience facing the fear of starting something new, which happens to be this podcast. Achieving this milestone feels surreal. It’s been a journey of consistency, and I feel immense gratitude. Welcome to another episode of the podcast ''Becoming You,'' where we discuss the complexities of adulthood. I'm your h...

Do you agree with me that it is really not easy to make new friends as an adult? One thing that got more complicated as we grew up is definitely the concept of friendship. Friendship evolved from being a relationship between playful kids to being a sacred, sweet, and exciting relationship that requires lots of commitment. The process of making friends has also not been exempted from this change. I...

We hardly entertain the thought of starting over because we are afraid we’ll be seen as failures and fear the unknown. In today’s episode, we discuss the need to consider starting over when necessary. We also emphasize the importance of prioritizing a happy life. Welcome to another episode of the podcast ''Becoming You,'' where we discuss the complexities of adulthood. I'm your...