Becoming You Again

Self doubt is very common amongst divorced women. There are many factors that influenced the conditioning of women to feel self doubt, and even as we are seeing an upward trend in the equality of women and men, the most important work to be done has to start with the individual woman and learning to believe in herself and her capabilities. In this episode I'll teach you three steps to take to...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Anonymous wants to know more about letting go of what she can't control. She's struggling with her mind always wishing she could be in her old life and missing being with her kids...

Going through something that’s challenging in your life, like a divorce,  makes everything around you seem consumed by that challenge. It can become really easy to think that everything is surrounded by hurt, negativity, and spiraling overwhelm. You may have to work harder to find the goodness in life. Using thankfulness and gratitude as a grounding practice to help you recognize what is good abou...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Cindy is struggling with knowing what to do when her kids don't listen or follow the rules. She feels like she's the problem and ends up feeling like a failure as a mom. Listen in...

There's a pattern that is common in women who go through divorce when it comes to making decisions. Many women have learned to defer making decisions to someone outside of them believing that they know better or they have more authority or knowledge. This pattern keeps them small. They believe that their opinion isn't worthwhile or valid. The problem is when a divorce happens, this cycle...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Getting over a break up and being able to move on can be challenging, even if you're the one who asked for the divorce. Listen in as I help Jeanine look inside herself for the answers,...

The holidays can be a tough time of year for women who are divorced. I hear this all the time, ‘I used to love the holidays and now after my divorce I hate them. I dread them coming up.’ Or women will come to me and tell me that even though they don’t miss their ex at all, they still feel a lot of sadness around not being a family that’s all together during the holidays. Because this is so common...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Do you feel like your ex left the marriage and then continues to reject you by making a great life for him, his new girlfriend and your kids? Are you constantly feeling like you were never e...

Forgiveness is something that can have a lot of emotional attachment to it. Some people believe that they have to forgive or should forgive because of religious or cultural backgrounds, but struggle to find forgiveness from that kind of guilty pressure. Others believe that if you forgive someone it means that you're condoning or redeeming the hurt or abuse that was done to you. No forgiveness...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Anonymous is struggling with filing for divorce or staying in the marriage. She initially decided to leave but is now struggling because she doesn't want to hurt or break up her family....

You've been there. It's 2 AM and you've woken up in a panic worrying about the many unknowns of the divorce that are weighing heavy on your mind. You're desperately tired. This is fourth night in a row where you've done this and each night it got harder and harder to fall back asleep. You sick and tired of being, well, tired and groggy the next day. You just want to get so...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. After a breakup most of us are afraid that we'll never be able to trust a future partner again. But what about the even more important question of how do we learn to trust ourselves aga...

When we are the ones who were left behind it feels very painful. Usually this is because we tell ourselves that it was our fault in some way. We weren't good enough or pretty enough. We didn't have sex often enough. We just couldn't make them happy. We adopt the idea that we've been thrown away like a piece of trash especially if the marriage was a long one. Being the one left...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Deciding that you're ready to make changes in your life and start listening to your own inner knowing is a cool place to find yourself. But when we don't get the support and excite...

Codependency is an attachment style where you need the other person in the relationship to give you approval in all the positive ways. You need other people to validate you as a person. You need their words to remind you that you have worth. To remind you that you are lovable and worthy and valuable.  When you are codependent you use other people’s emotions to gauge how you are allowed to emotiona...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. For many of us, being alone when the kids are with our ex is our least favorite thing. It's been so long since we've been alone that we don't know how to do it. We get bored....

Have you ever noticed what you say to yourself when you make a mistake, or when you child gets mad at you, or when your ex texts you something nasty? Do you notice that you're kind and loving and compassionate with yourself? My guess is, you're like most of us who do the exact opposite of that, and instead become our own worst enemy, flinging self criticism and judgement around until we...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Bitterness toward your ex may feel justified for a little while. The problem is, when you carry the bitterness around it makes you feel bad. Feeling bitterness toward your ex isn't maki...

Conscious thinking is when you become aware of the thoughts that your brain is offering you on autopilot and you intentionally decide whether or not you want to continue to choose to think that way or decide to think something different. Conscious thinking is a skill that can serve you in any challenge or difficult circumstance that you're facing in your life.  In this episode I'll be te...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Being sick as a divorced single mom can feel stressful and overwhelming. We judge ourselves for being sick, for not being the mom we usually are, for making the kids be less structured, for...

Transactional self love is when you withhold love for yourself until you meet certain requirements to be "worthy" of kindness, compassion and love for yourself. You're more likely doing this and don't even realize it. Transactional self love can sound like, I'll think you're pretty once your hair is dyed and you look more like that person on Instagram, or I'll th...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. How often do you feel like you're carrying the weight of the world (yours and your kids) on your shoulders? How many times have you bit your tongue around your kids so you don't &a...

Often we tell stories from our past in a way where we continue to be the victim and feel victimized. When we do this we feel powerless to make changes in our life now and moving forward. One of the most effective ways to stop feeling like a victim of your past and of your life is to rewrite the stories of your past, and specifically your divorce story.  This exercise isn't so that you can gas...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Do you have someone in your life that is super critical of you, but they tell you it's because they want you to be the 'best you' you can be? Or maybe you're the one that...

The divorce process is a scary, confusing journey. When we are faced with divorce we often don't know what to do, where to find help, what kind of help we'll need, who to trust, etc. Our mind can spin in confusion and indecision about the divorce which ends up shutting us down and keeping us stuck.  On today's episode I'm talking with Ryan Davies, owning and founder of Utah Div...