Becoming You Again

Domestic abuse isn't going away any time soon. In fact, in Utah, where I live, the first half of this year it was on the rise compared to previous years. Hearing the alarming numbers of domestic abuse, I realized I haven't done much to possibly help. That's where this episode comes in; recognizing abuse in your relationship. Join me in this informative episode where I define and ide...

Have you ever considered what the Barbie movie can teach divorced women about self-discovery, self-love, and self-worth?  I this episode I'm sharing insights inspired by Barbie's movie, where the iconic doll's journey mimics the self-discovery encountered by many women post-divorce. Through the power of metaphor, I'll delve into Ken's struggle to find his identity outside...

Living alone after a divorce is akin to navigating uncharted territory. On this episode, I share my personal story of grappling with loneliness and being alone for the first time in my life. I'll talk about learning how to adjust to life on your own, transforming your living space into a safe space that can serve your emotional, mental, and physical needs.  I’ll shed light on how to develop a...

Do you ever find yourself caught in a loop of overthinking? It can be a real challenge, especially when navigating the emotional turmoil of divorce. Join me as we delve into this issue, unearthing not just the causes but also practical strategies to overcome overthinking. We will explore the three types of overthinking - worrying, rumination, and cognitive distortions, and how they can heighten ne...

As divorced women it can be challenging to find any kind of respite during our day, even if it's just for a few minutes. Well this doesn't have to be your experience any longer. Join me while I interview my guest, Jake Eagle - co-author of the book, The Power of Awe. Jake is a seasoned psychotherapist, mindfulness instructor, and fellow member trainer of the International Association of...

Have you ever had to make a decision and gone back and forth, over and over again trying to decide which one is the 'right' one? It's a crappy feeling when you feel like you just don't know what is going to be best for you and your life. That's where making decisions based on your core values becomes a game-changer.  Because when you understand your core values, you can us...

Were you the one who decided to ask for a divorce? There's so much help and guidance out there for those who were left behind. But for many women, the reality is, we are the ones who made the choice to leave the marriage. There are hundreds of reasons why we may have made that choice, but in the end, the things we deal with mentally and emotionally are the same.   In this episode, I'll b...

When we go through a divorce odds are we will at the least be taken on an emotional rollercoaster and at the most we will have some trauma that needs to be worked through and released. This is where body movement comes in. We know that emotions and trauma are held in the body.  There is incredible power of body movement for ultimate healing and emotional well-being. In this episode I'm going...

Are you ready to regain control of your emotional life after divorce? Listen in on this throwback episode of Becoming You Again, as you learn invaluable tools and insights needed to emotionally detach from your ex in a healthy way. Learn how taking responsibility for your own emotions enables you to change your feelings, even when external circumstances seem out of control. I'm revisiting one...

Whether we're aware of it or not, most of us are unintentionally causing more suffering and pain in our relationships. In this episode you'll discover how embracing the concept of autonomy can help transform your emotional health and stability. Autonomy, or the capacity to make informed, uncoerced decisions, is a fundamental aspect of our human experience. When we truly understand and re...

In this week's episode Karin is exploring the various attachment styles and how they shape the way we connect with others. She will lay out the four primary attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant. You will have a better understanding of how these styles influence your beliefs about intimacy, trust, and vulnerability, and how they may be affecting your ro...

EFT (emotional freedom technique) or tapping is a tool that can be used to help you process through challenging emotions. This technique may be especially useful for someone going through divorce where emotions often run high, the central nervous system is constantly activated and that desired feeling of calm is fleeting. Listen in as Karin and EFT expert and energy healer, Stephanie Hall, talk ab...

One of the most overwhelming and stressful circumstances dealt with during divorce is the financial aspect; how you're going to live now and moving forward.   Learning to be prosperous during financial setback can be a useful tool especially during/after divorce. When I think of prosperity, I think of success, forward movement, abundance, flourishing and growth. Prosperity sounds like a very...

Most of us have an idea of what grief 'should' look like. We've adopted the idea that we must grieve first and then after a certain amount of time and after so many stages, that's when we will finally be able to let go and move on. In this episode Karin will break down three myths of grief that society has adopted as 'the only way' to grieve. You will learn why contin...

Learning to parent as a newly single parent after divorce has its challenges. In this episode I am joined by Darlynn Childress who is a parenting expert to talk about how to raise emotionally healthy children. Darlynn opens up about her four step parenting process. She talks about why learning to emotionally regulate yourself is a key to creating an environment for true connection with your kids....

For someone going through a divorce, feeling triggered can seem like a daily occurrence. The trigger can be somewhat expected, like your anniversary or knowing you'll see your ex in court the next day. And often the trigger will be unexpected, like hearing that song playing in the background at the grocery store, or hearing the tone of someone's voice. When you feel triggered you have th...

Grounding is a way of speaking the language of your body that your nervous system understands. Grounding is a way to intentionally reactivate your parasympathetic nervous system to send your body and brain messages or signals that you are safe. Once you learn how to ground yourself in the language of your body, that’s when you will be able to fully tap into your intuition and understand what you a...

Trauma is a disconnection from ourselves. When we experience trauma we are separating us from ourselves and when we heal that is when we come back to ourselves. We learn to reconnect our mind, our intuition and her nervous system all as one again. This is when we feel safe and give ourselves permission to be truly us. In this episode we explore one way to heal from trauma; through play. Learning t...

Have you heard the statement, where your focus goes energy flows? In this episode I'm exploring the concept of purposely directing your energy toward what you want in your life, instead of focusing on what you don't want.  You'll learn why your energetic potential is limitless and what that can mean for you and your life. You'll come away understanding why being intentional ove...

We've all felt triggered by something during our divorce that alarms our nervous system and pushes us into a flight, fight or freeze mode. We may know what the trigger is or it may be deeper than something we are aware of, but in either case, we know that something feels off inside. We feel off-line, out of sync with ourself. Learning to self regulate is when you are able to manage yourself,...

We've all heard the importance of being grateful. We've all been taught to write in a gratitude journal everyday or keep a running list of things we're grateful for. But when we're really struggling with life altering challenges, like divorce, these types of gratitude practices can fall flat. They either feel dismissive of our pain and heartache or they feel like a shaming tact...

Self love, self like, self acceptance, self esteem, self appreciation, self confidence. They are all basically meaning the same thing which is an an attitude toward yourself and how you think and feel about yourself. However accepting self love (or any of the other terms listed above) is difficult when you've been socialized to believe that you are the supporting role in life to everyone arou...

Divorce trauma is real. You often feel trapped by your past and what you once had, being triggered over and over again by photos, memories, your ex, your home, what you once had. You also feel paralyzed when you think about this future because how can you possibly move forward alone, a single mom, with less income and more uncertainty. People tell you to trust yourself. People tell you everything...

I often have women asking me how to trust again. They are worried that after getting out of a marriage where their partner cheated on them, was addicted to porn, gaslighted them, or abused them in some other way that they won’t ever be able to find a way to trust someone in the future. In this episode I'll talk about what society teaches us trust is and how when we use that definition of it w...

We hit 100 episodes! Thanks to you who continue to come back and listen, learn, heal and grow as you go through your divorce journey. For this episode I asked you to submit questions you had for me about anything. I'd love to get to know you, my listeners, better as well. Tell me your answers to the questions by sending me a DM on instagram @karinnelsoncoaching so I can get to know you better...