Becoming You Again

This episode is all about mindset and thought work - specifically the impact intentionally choosing your thoughts will have on you and your emotional life right now and moving forward after divorce. Did you know that the thoughts in your brain are not just truths being handed to you? Your brain gathers thoughts, ideas and beliefs in two main ways; through your life experiences, teachings, socializ...

When you're feeling so overwhelmed by your divorce - you can't see any hope in sight - just remember that spring is on its way. When things are really hard we can beat ourselves up thinking that we need to know the end game; that we need to see the next steps play out; we need to know how it's all going to work out. When things are hard it feels like winter - cold, hard, and dark an...

Can all the people pleasers raise their hands? Yes, mine is right up there with you. I am what you might call a recovering people pleaser and if you struggle with people pleasing, you can be too.  By the end of this episode you'll know exactly what a people pleaser is, why we do it and a few tips on how to break free from the people pleasing trap, especially after your divorce. To schedule yo...

Have you ever had a thought like this cross your mind..."Good mothers don't yell at their kids." "Good mothers don't have kids who get bad grades." "Good mothers aren't divorce." "Good mothers aren't away from their kids 50% of the time." "Good mothers are there to tuck in their kids at night." "Good mothers don't make...

There is an enemy to grief is judgement; judgement of yourself,  where you are at on your grief journey and what your unique grief journey looks like.  If you've been feeling like you 'should be over him by now' or 'it's been long enough - just get over it', then you may have some unacknowledged judgement of yourself and what you're feeling. This judgement can ke...

Have you ever found yourself feeling anxious, stressed - even to the point of panicked during your divorce? If you answered yes, then this week's grounding exercise may be the perfect fit for you. I'm walking you through a grounding technique called Box Breathing. You will first be introduced to what box breathing is, the science behind it and why it is so effective on helping you feel l...

Haunted by the echoes of decisions past, we've all faced the ghost of regret, especially in the aftermath of a marriage ending. In this episode, I'm opening up about the often unspoken sorrows of divorce, the 'what ifs' and 'if onlys' that can cling to us like chains. Your journey through divorce is one of healing and growth, and in this episode, you'll be armed ...

This week I'm joined by the vibrant Jessica Frew who shares her story of marriage, betrayal, divorce and so much more. Jessica talks about the moment she knew divorce was right for her and how she tapped into that knowing. She shares how she and her ex were able to come up with a 'divorce plan' for the sake of their daughter.  You'll learn the importance of coming back to yours...

The uncertainty of divorce feels scary, worrisome and anxiety ridden.  In this episode we're going to understand the innate human quest for predictability and how that can be both a curse and a source of empowerment during divorce. I'll walk you through how evolutionary biology plays a huge role in the pain we feel around uncertainty and what you can do to move through the uncertainty of...

Have you ever worried that the decision you make will be the wrong one, and so you stay stuck making no decision at all? Have you ever beat yourself up for "saying the wrong thing" or "doing the wrong thing"? Have you ever second guessed a decision during divorce? Have you ever  taken the blame for something that seemingly "went wrong"? If so, you're not alone. T...

We've all thought it about some aspect of our married life before: woulda, coulda, shoulda. In this flashback episode I'll be talking about my own experience of reliving the past over and over in my present day life and how doing that was creating more pain and suffering for me. I'll teach you how to recognize when you're living in the past and how to let go of those painful st...

I'm talking everything triggers today. If you're going through a divorce, then you know how often triggers show up - sometimes expected but more often unexpected. These triggers, when you're not equipped to manage them, can rock the rest of your or sometimes the rest of your week. But don't worry, in this episode I'll give you a comprehensive guide to understanding these e...

This week I'm giving you another somatic practice called 'anchoring in blue'. This is a grounding exercise designed to steer you through the emotional waves of divorce towards more peace and self-assuredness. In this  episode, you'll learn to reconnect with your body's own language and find calm in the midst of divorce storms. Use the art of anchoring in blue to anchor you...

Grief has been on my mind lately as I struggle with my own personal grieving as my father is coming closer to his end of life. My experience reminded me that no matter the reason for our grief, it is essentially the same feeling that each one of us feel. Grief is often a misunderstood emotion with many societal preconceived notions of what grief should look like. I'm breaking down the myths o...

Feeling the heat of anger simmering through the veins of your post-divorce life? In this episode, we're going to step into a space where we confront the anger that bubbles up during and after divorce, an emotion too often dismissed or suppressed due to social stigmas. I'm going to teach you more than just how to 'vent', since we all know venting isn't really about allowing...

When the weight of divorce presses heavily upon your shoulders, you may discover an unexpected friend in the form of self-compassion.  By treating ourselves with the same care and understanding we would offer to a dear friend, we implement a powerful tool for healing and growth. This conversation about self compassion is about learning to be an inner ally and learning to quiet the inner enemy duri...

Embark on an insightful exploration of the tumultuous emotional landscapes portrayed in Netflix's "Beef" with me. I'll examine the emotional survival of the main characters, Danny and Amy, and uncover profound lessons in emotional resilience that you can apply to your own life. You learn how unchecked anger and impulsivity can mask the deep-seated pain and disconnection we face...

When you're in the throws of divorce it can be hard to stay focused on anything useful. So often it seems like we have to put so much effort into figuring out who gets what, how we're going to pay the bills, and how much we'll miss the kids that we don't have any more time or energy to remember some basic key things that can definitely help ease the turmoil of divorce - even ju...

You're in for a treat this week because I am giving you a sneak peak into my divorce coaching course. In this course I help you understand why you feel stuck over your divorce and how to get moving. This divorce course has been over a year in the making and is to be released later this year and now is your chance to get an idea of what this course has to offer, how it can help you reconnect t...

Finding a divorce attorney that you know is on your side can feel scary and daunting, amongst all the other things that you have to think about, plan and deal with during your divorce. But finding the perfect attorney for you doesn't have to be hard. In this week's part two episode my guest, Lauren Fair, a family law attorney and life coach will take you through the last two and half tip...

Hiring the right divorce lawyer can feel like a labyrinth of uncertainty and emotions, but don't worry because I have invited my previous guest, Lauren Fair, back. Lauren is an esteemed family law attorney and life coach who is going to give you everything you need to look for when hiring a divorce attorney.  Her guidance on selecting the perfect divorce lawyer promises to transform confusion...

In today's episode I'm going to guide you through a simple, yet powerful somatic practice. Through somatic practice you will be able to create a more safe way to feel those hard to feel feelings that are so prevalent during divorce. You will also learn the art of pausing in the middle of intense moments to intentionally choose more aligned reactions to the person you want to be. Make sur...

Are you navigating the choppy waters of life post-divorce and wondering how to rebuild and set goals that resonate with your new chapter? Let's shatter the myth that change can't happen until the New Year, or on a Monday morning, and instead, decide that any moment is the perfect opportunity for transformation. In this episode, I revisit the poignant lessons from episode number 40, offer...

Guess who's learned to juggle at 45? That's right, it's me! This episode is a celebration of defying societal expectations that try to box us into a certain age group. I chat about the new, joyful adventures I've undertaken this year, from becoming a card-carrying member of the Taylor Swift fan club, grasping the art of juggling, to fulfilling my baking dreams. But hold on, the...

Join us for part two of my conversation with Cathy Butler Teichert  who has triumphed over the emotional turmoil of divorce and successfully rebuilt herself. Cathy's story serves as an inspiring testament of overcoming codependency and making peace with past relationships. Her journey, rich with valuable insights about commitment, trust, and the power of self-love, is a beacon of hope for tho...