Becoming You Again

Discover a powerful grounding technique that can help you find stability and emotional resilience during challenging times. In this week's episode of Becoming You Again, I'm back from a refreshing break and ready to introduce you to "Centered Hands," a simple yet transformative exercise designed to reconnect you with your body and inner self. Whether you decide to stand or sit,...

Have you ever found yourself caught in the emotional whirlwind of single parenting after a divorce, trying to juggle your feelings while managing your child's outbursts? Being a single parent after the end of your marriage can feel daunting and foreign. In this episode you will learn two main strategies to help you through the challenges of single parenting. You will learn strategies to help...

Struggling to regain your footing after a divorce? In this greatest hits episode, you'll discover powerful strategies to manage the overwhelming emotions and life situations that often follow such a life-changing event. You'll learn how to recognize what you can control and make conscious choices to prioritize your well-being. You'll learn about common patterns like procrastination...

Having expectations for our kids feels important, useful and a type of guide to the often mysterious and dismaying act of parenting. But what happens when your kids don't meet or live up to your expectations? What happens to your parent child relationship? Do you define yourself as a parent on their outcomes? Do you blame them for your emotional disregulation?  Find out more in this episode w...

Is your partner manipulating you? In this episode you will learn how to spot five common manipulation tactics, how they may be showing up in your relationship and how to decide what to do for yourself if you find yourself being manipulated by your partner. You will learn practical steps to recognize and combat these manipulations, ensuring you can navigate your relationships with confidence and cl...

Ever wondered why negative thoughts grip you so tightly during and after a divorce? In this episode you will learn to recognize and transform these thoughts to shift your perspective, bringing more calm and authenticity into your life. By understanding the trickery of these negative thoughts, you can start to build emotional resilience and navigate the challenges of divorce more effectively. Explo...

Ever found yourself in the throes of an argument, feeling defensive and misunderstood? What if you could transform those moments into opportunities for deeper connection? This week on "Becoming You Again," I tackle the intricate and often misunderstood topic of defensiveness in relationships. I share personal stories from my own marriage, revealing how quickly defensiveness can arise whe...

What if moving beyond the pain of divorce could lead you to an entirely new level of empowerment? In this transformative episode of "Becoming You Again," we unpack the intricate process of breaking free from a victim mindset. You will learn crucial steps to take to move beyond the victim mentality while still acknowledging and validating your experiences without blame.  Each step plays a...

Part of healing from your divorce is learning to actively listen to your body's wisdom. In this episode you'll learn exactly how to listen to your body and learn it's unique language. You will discover how embracing your body's language will be a catalyst for personal growth, wisdom and reconnection after years of neglect. I'll guide you through grounding exercise where yo...

Ever wonder how your body’s automatic functions can impact your emotional health, especially during tough times like a divorce? This episode of "Becoming You Again" promises to shed light on the surprisingly profound connection between your autonomic nervous system and your mental well-being. Having a better understanding of the nervous system and how it affects our emotional states can...

This episode is all about mindset and thought work - specifically the impact intentionally choosing your thoughts will have on you and your emotional life right now and moving forward after divorce. Did you know that the thoughts in your brain are not just truths being handed to you? Your brain gathers thoughts, ideas and beliefs in two main ways; through your life experiences, teachings, socializ...

When you're feeling so overwhelmed by your divorce - you can't see any hope in sight - just remember that spring is on its way. When things are really hard we can beat ourselves up thinking that we need to know the end game; that we need to see the next steps play out; we need to know how it's all going to work out. When things are hard it feels like winter - cold, hard, and dark an...

Can all the people pleasers raise their hands? Yes, mine is right up there with you. I am what you might call a recovering people pleaser and if you struggle with people pleasing, you can be too.  By the end of this episode you'll know exactly what a people pleaser is, why we do it and a few tips on how to break free from the people pleasing trap, especially after your divorce. To schedule yo...

Have you ever had a thought like this cross your mind..."Good mothers don't yell at their kids." "Good mothers don't have kids who get bad grades." "Good mothers aren't divorce." "Good mothers aren't away from their kids 50% of the time." "Good mothers are there to tuck in their kids at night." "Good mothers don't make...

There is an enemy to grief is judgement; judgement of yourself,  where you are at on your grief journey and what your unique grief journey looks like.  If you've been feeling like you 'should be over him by now' or 'it's been long enough - just get over it', then you may have some unacknowledged judgement of yourself and what you're feeling. This judgement can ke...

Have you ever found yourself feeling anxious, stressed - even to the point of panicked during your divorce? If you answered yes, then this week's grounding exercise may be the perfect fit for you. I'm walking you through a grounding technique called Box Breathing. You will first be introduced to what box breathing is, the science behind it and why it is so effective on helping you feel l...

Haunted by the echoes of decisions past, we've all faced the ghost of regret, especially in the aftermath of a marriage ending. In this episode, I'm opening up about the often unspoken sorrows of divorce, the 'what ifs' and 'if onlys' that can cling to us like chains. Your journey through divorce is one of healing and growth, and in this episode, you'll be armed ...

This week I'm joined by the vibrant Jessica Frew who shares her story of marriage, betrayal, divorce and so much more. Jessica talks about the moment she knew divorce was right for her and how she tapped into that knowing. She shares how she and her ex were able to come up with a 'divorce plan' for the sake of their daughter.  You'll learn the importance of coming back to yours...

The uncertainty of divorce feels scary, worrisome and anxiety ridden.  In this episode we're going to understand the innate human quest for predictability and how that can be both a curse and a source of empowerment during divorce. I'll walk you through how evolutionary biology plays a huge role in the pain we feel around uncertainty and what you can do to move through the uncertainty of...

Have you ever worried that the decision you make will be the wrong one, and so you stay stuck making no decision at all? Have you ever beat yourself up for "saying the wrong thing" or "doing the wrong thing"? Have you ever second guessed a decision during divorce? Have you ever  taken the blame for something that seemingly "went wrong"? If so, you're not alone. T...

We've all thought it about some aspect of our married life before: woulda, coulda, shoulda. In this flashback episode I'll be talking about my own experience of reliving the past over and over in my present day life and how doing that was creating more pain and suffering for me. I'll teach you how to recognize when you're living in the past and how to let go of those painful st...

I'm talking everything triggers today. If you're going through a divorce, then you know how often triggers show up - sometimes expected but more often unexpected. These triggers, when you're not equipped to manage them, can rock the rest of your or sometimes the rest of your week. But don't worry, in this episode I'll give you a comprehensive guide to understanding these e...

This week I'm giving you another somatic practice called 'anchoring in blue'. This is a grounding exercise designed to steer you through the emotional waves of divorce towards more peace and self-assuredness. In this  episode, you'll learn to reconnect with your body's own language and find calm in the midst of divorce storms. Use the art of anchoring in blue to anchor you...

Grief has been on my mind lately as I struggle with my own personal grieving as my father is coming closer to his end of life. My experience reminded me that no matter the reason for our grief, it is essentially the same feeling that each one of us feel. Grief is often a misunderstood emotion with many societal preconceived notions of what grief should look like. I'm breaking down the myths o...

Feeling the heat of anger simmering through the veins of your post-divorce life? In this episode, we're going to step into a space where we confront the anger that bubbles up during and after divorce, an emotion too often dismissed or suppressed due to social stigmas. I'm going to teach you more than just how to 'vent', since we all know venting isn't really about allowing...