Becoming Whole

Send us Fan Mail You’ve probably heard it said here before that breaking a habit of unwanted sexual behaviors goes beyond “Behavior Management.” Setting up filters or throwing away devices might eliminate the cues to your addiction, but it still leaves you exposed. There’s deeper work to be done. Ultimately, to change your behavior you need to understand the why’s to your behavior. The actions you...

Send us Fan Mail The term “Accountability Partner” can carry a high cringe factor.  Yes, they are meant for good - offering space to confess to one another, to pray with one another, to hope for the best for each other. But, if not handled well, Accountability Partners can cause more harm than good. The enemy would love nothing more than for you and your partner to focus on your behavior, smother...

Send us Fan Mail Your life tells a story. And you are the main character. But what if you’re battling an ongoing porn addiction , unwanted same sex attraction or can’t stop hooking up? This is where an understanding of who you are meant to be and the story your life can tell is powerful. If Satan has taken over as the role of co-author, you are believing a false storyline.  Don’t let his whispers...

Send us Fan Mail As you do the work of pursuing sexual integrity, cultural messages keep watering down God’s heart for you as His creation.  So, let’s pause for a deeper sense of what it means to be a man or to be a woman.  Both the mystery and the glory of being man or being woman have been lost in our society. Christ is inviting you to stop and consider the creation story, the very beginning. Yo...

Send us Fan Mail Sexual integrity is about you becoming whole.  You are made up of many parts – mind, body and soul. And in your journey to becoming whole, it is key to address all the parts that make you, YOU. In the last episode, we examined the role of the body.  This week, we’ll learn more about the role of emotions. There is a direct link between your unwanted sexual behavior and your emotion...

Send us Fan Mail Sexual Integrity Starts Here. Integration is a big word describing the large task of becoming whole. Over the next couple of episodes, we’ll dedicate time to understanding the mechanics of sexual integrity.  You are a complex, marvelous being with many layers and even more moving parts.  When it comes to sexual integrity, you may assume your body is the enemy, the source of sexual...

Send us Fan Mail God’s design for sex includes your questions and desires and hopes. But, if pornography was your sex-ed teacher, you absorbed imagery and ideas that changed your brain. On top of that, your heart is probably holding onto shame too.   We live in a world where pornography is literally at our fingertips. If you started watching it as a kid, we hope the message is clear for you to sto...

Send us Fan Mail We’re moving closer to Christmas. Ironically, this is about the time when ads and expectations and schedules pull us further from Christ. For sure, there is an abundance to this season but not in the commercial way you may be thinking.  Strip away the fussy garland and the must-have linens and the coordinated outfits.  Let’s listen for the call to you and me; inviting us to a more...

Send us Fan Mail We are in a season of waiting for the arrival of Jesus. And, while we count down the days of Advent by eating chocolate or reading devotions, the anticipation builds.  In the area of sex and relationships , waiting can lead us to a place where we are really tempted to compromise.  As a culture, we are too short-sighted and impatient. Where are your sights set this season? Experien...

Send us Fan Mail Mary, the mother of Jesus, is an important figure in every way. After all, it was her body that ushered in the tiny body of our Savior, Jesus, into this world. Still there is controversy among us, as believers, on the amount of time we should dedicate to her. For now, let’s spend a few moments meditating on Mary. Because, if we make too little of Mary, we miss out on more of God....

Send us Fan Mail “And the Word became flesh.” Let's discuss An Embodied Advent ! As the holiday hustle and bustle begins, let’s consider how the season of Advent highlights the relationship between God and your body. Your flesh is so important to God that He became flesh. Your body is central to who you are and God cares deeply about it.  So, this season allow the Light of the world to reveal...

Send us Fan Mail When temptation comes knocking, you have more options than slamming the door and running away. In fact, fleeing can actually contribute to the cycle of sexual sin. Here are 5 Steps to Shutting Down Temptation. So, let’s face temptation head on with feet firmly planted. In this episode, Josh offers 5 steps to help you shut down temptation.   While the enticement can be loud and diz...

Send us Fan Mail Seen, Soothed, Safe and Secure -these are key elements for a healthy relationship and 4 Reasons to Open Up about your Sexual Past.  But when it comes to your unwanted sexual behavior; it might feel like a secret you should just keep hidden.  Is your relationship secure enough for you to tell your boyfriend or husband about your sexual history?  Do you really want your girlfriend t...

Send us Fan Mail Talking about sex - yikes - Nobody really wants to talk about sex.  It’s private. It’s personal. It’s painful. It’s none of your business.  As awkward as it may feel, we need to be talking about sex. Together let’s better understand why we don’t talk about sex and consider why we should.  In this episode, Josh will be exploring two reasons you avoid the topic.  For more reasons, h...

Send us Fan Mail From the beginning, our story reveals we were created by God’s love. God’s immense love is moving, it is powerful and it is good BUT… and that’s where we pick up in this episode, with the weighty ‘however.’  Does God’s Love Save You? Because reducing God’s love for us to a mere feeling subtracts the power and freedom and consequences we have been given the ability to choose.  Also...

Send us Fan Mail There’s a story, a set of rules and ideas that you’ve accepted as truth for your body and your sexuality . You might not even be aware. It’s ok, we’ve all done it.  But, what if we were to UN-do the story? Authors Linda Noble and Linda Stewart join Josh on the podcast to pull apart the narrative and present you with an invitation to The Body and Personhood. There are no rules here...

Send us Fan Mail There are times in this journey towards sexual integrity for teaching through a lesson and maybe even assigning homework. And yet, sometimes the most powerful lesson can come from a voice saying, “I understand. Me too.”  If you find yourself wrestling with lust, we hope you’ll allow this episode to come alongside you.  Lust is blinding.  Let’s unpack a vision for seeing the way Go...

Send us Fan Mail Maybe you’ve heard or you’ve said these words: “If you don’t have sex with me, I’m going to be tempted to stray.” Either way, we encourage you to stay and listen. Let’s, together, start Moving Beyond Marital Manipulation . On this journey to sexual wholeness, the world is eager to bombard you with “facts” and “studies say” and “research shows.”  The world discredits who God made y...

Send us Fan Mail Do you want to look at porn?  The pull of pornography is devilishly strong. Whatever your reason is for seeking it out, let us offer you 5 reasons to NOT look this time.  Don’t let the cycle continue to dull your senses in this life.  You are created and meant for living fully alive, fully loved and loving, and fully whole.  We hope this episode spurs you towards conviction withou...

Send us Fan Mail If you find yourself here, you are battling more than sexual sin . You are fighting to become whole.  And that is why, at Regeneration Ministries , our mission is to help you face your issues and break free from patterns holding you captive.  Together, we are doing more than just kicking a habit.  Satan is loud and thick with shame, grabbing at you to keep you from breaking your h...

Send us Fan Mail The habit loop, for good or bad, goes something like this: Trigger. Craving. Response. Reward. Let's get Practical About Recovery. When it comes to unwanted sexual behaviors , that loop slides shame in just after the reward. That’s why you’re here now. You’re doing the work to break the cycle. But sometimes, the work feels annoying, unnecessary, and even boring. If you wish y...

Send us Fan Mail There’s an exclusivity in the topic of sexual abuse and rape as something that only happens to women. That is simply false.  Men, let this episode invite you in, giving you space to consider what may have felt “weird” or called “lucky” as perhaps, abuse.  Allow this time to clearly define your understanding of what sexual abuse and rape can mean for men. You are not meant to be le...

Send us Fan Mail Most of us battling unwanted sexual behaviors teeter between Option A- Resist or Option B-Give In. Which option do you choose?  If you’re wrestling with issues of pornography , lust or masturbation ; this episode explores another Option.   Jesus is inviting you to see more, not to see less.  As St. John Paul II put it “there is no dignity when the human dimension is eliminated fro...

Send us Fan Mail In your journey towards sexual integrity, it matters what you’re looking at, it matters what you’re looking for. Focus on the Cross! In this episode, we hope to encourage you to fix your focus on the Cross . As you’re doing the work to become whole, to break old patterns, to make new choices; set your eyes on Jesus on the Cross.  Don’t let shame or hopelessness take your eyes off...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s continue the conversation on Identity and Sexual Orientation.  This matters because becoming whole includes radical change for our sexual orientation. But, we live in a sexually confused world, one that has decided on its own words and definitions. In this episode, Josh offers more on the topic through a Christian lens.  We’re diving deeper into Sexual Orientation, the conce...