Becoming In the Middle

Principle: Where we put our attention determines the life we create. In this episode, I explore a simple but powerful idea: complaining isn't the problem—it's a signal. It reveals where your attention has been resting. Most of us don't realize how often we rehearse what's wrong, especially in quiet, internal ways. But where our attention goes, our experience of life follows. Complaining can feel r...

For a while I've wondered why I keep showing up to this podcast when I don't have a business to promote or offers to sell. In this episode, I share the realization that changed everything. I explore why I believe our greatest work is becoming who we were created to be, how ordinary experiences can teach us profound principles, and why learning to see our lives differently may be the beginning of r...

In this episode, I walk through three simple but powerful principles that helped me regain momentum when fear, doubt, and hesitation showed up. These principles are not about forcing change, but about learning how to move with greater awareness, trust, and intention when life is calling you forward. This episode is for anyone in a transition season—career change, identity shift, relationships, per...

How does awareness restore agency? In this episode, I explore the connection between self-awareness, personal growth, intentional living, and creating meaningful change. When we become aware of the thoughts, beliefs, and patterns influencing our choices, we gain the power to respond intentionally rather than react automatically. Awareness isn't the destination—it's the doorway to greater agency, g...

In this special birthday episode, I'm reflecting on what 52 years of life have taught me so far. I'm keeping it simple: 3 gifts, 3 lessons, and 3 questions I'm carrying into the year ahead. Join me as I look back with gratitude, inward with reflection, and forward with curiosity. Whether you're celebrating a birthday, navigating a season of change, or simply thinking about the person you're becomi...

In this episode, I share a personal experience that taught me two powerful lessons about applying the principles of creation in everyday life. While my application wasn't perfect, the experience revealed something important: the principles still work. Even in imperfection, I still saw meaningful results, which deepened my understanding of how reliable and consistent these principles truly are. I d...

In this episode s , I share a simple but meaningful gift from my daughter that reminded me how deeply the ordinary moments of life shape us. As summer begins and excitement builds around vacations, celebrations, and big plans, I reflect on the quieter days in between — the everyday moments where connection, presence, and love are actually formed. This episode is an invitation to reconsider what re...

  In this episode, I share an experience helping clean out my in-laws' home and the emotions that surfaced while deciding what to keep and what to let go of. What started as a practical task became a deeper reflection on attachment, memory, identity, and the meaning we assign to things.  As I processed the experience, I realized something deeper: so much of our emotional life is shaped not by the...

Resharing a talk I gave in church a few months back. We are so good at being helpers. But when it comes to being on the recieving end...we could use some practice! Want to hear more of my thought, follow my writing on Substack .  

I had an experience where I didn't show up as I wanted to for my friend. In addition to feeling guilty, I'm trying to figure out how I can do better. Interesting in more of my thoughts? Follow my writing on Substack .

Why is obedience considered the first law of heaven? That is the question I recently sat with. The answer finally came and I'm so excited to share the insight I got. This episode is heavy on my spiritual beliefs, so here are some links if you want to learn or understand more of where I'm coming from: What is the Temple? What is the Endowment? What is the Plan of Salvation and Exhaltation? Obedienc...

Obligation can be a good thing when it comes to a job, or respecting the law. But sometimes obligation can rob us of joy. Lately I've noticed where obligation feels more preformative then authentic. Obligation is driven from external forces. Agency comes from the inside first and is reflected outward. When obligation is unexamined and unquestioned, it tends to lead to resentment and in the end, ro...

This episode was born because of a dream I recently had. The invitation I want to share is to be brave enough to evaluate the underlying motivations to our actions. Whether it's feeling disappointed in someones gratitude, or lack of; or whether it's taking an honest look of what's really going on when we are offended. I'm getting vulnerable on this episode. I'm not proud of the truth, but I can't...

Recently I've been feeling a little lost in my day to day. And I've started to wonder if 'surrendering' some of my titles/roles was a mistake. Did I make the wrong choice? This is a peek into what feels scary about this process of making space for something new. And I'm realizing, the real work I'm doing isn't what I thought it was. Join me on my Substack to follow my writing jourey.

I thought insecurities were only for the young and inexperienced. But putting myself in the job market has introduced insecurity on a new level. But I'm choosing to notice that insecurity means that I'm trying willing to get out of my comfort zone and try something new. Sure, it's uncomfortable, but that's the price to be paid for growth. Here is the article I mentioned, if you want the background...

I thought I understood what identity was, until I took an ax to mine. As I've surrendered different roles over the last few months, I've had to go deeper to understand what identity truly is. I'd love to know your thoughts on identity. You can join the conversation over on Substack .

A recap of my pause and what identiy pieces I was surprised to surrender. Also a introduction of sorts for Season 2...how things will look a little different. Join me on Substack here to read more of my long-form thoughts. Reach out at AliciaJHowardCoaching@gmail.com to share your own observations with me!

Welcome to Season 2! Some changes you may notice: Instead of speaking authoritatively, I'm speaking from my real-time lived experience. It won't be tidy, it won't be scripted, just me sharing what's true for me today. It may feel random because I'm sharing whatever I'm currently metabolizing. I'm letting go of time and order and structure--mostly. I'm sharing observations more than conclusions. I'...

The final episode of Season 1! In this episode, I share how my life is lived in 7-year cycles. As I've felt the current cycle coming to a close, I've been pondering what comes next. Just as trees loose its leaves in the fall, letting go of past growth is an important process of resting and preparing for a new season of growth. With this observation of nature, I am taking a pause before I jump into...

What happens when the kids are mostly grown—but not quite gone? In this honest heart-to-heart conversation, Alicia sits down with two friends who are walking through the same season of life: launching some kids into adulthood while still raising the last few at home. Together, they share the honest ups and downs of this in-between phase—what's been surprisingly hard, unexpectedly beautiful, and wh...

In this conversation, I sit down with Gregory Jack, a coach for young adults, to explore the unique struggles facing today's emerging generation. From loneliness and dating challenges to friendship struggles and the pressure of feeling behind in life, Gregory shares insight into the emotional world of young adults—and how parents can show up in supportive, meaningful ways. Together, we discuss: Wh...

Do you find yourself drawn to drama, overthinking, or trying to control everything around you? You're not alone — and your brain isn't broken. In this episode, we explore why the brain becomes addicted to negative emotions like drama, worry, and control, and how these patterns actually feel like safety to the nervous system. You'll learn: The neuroscience behind emotional addiction — why your brai...

If you've ever asked yourself, "What's next for me?" — you're not alone. In this episode, we explore the beautiful invitation that comes when one season of life ends and another begins: the chance to rediscover purpose. We'll talk about why having a purpose matters so deeply — how it gives direction, energy, and meaning to our days — and why it's especially vital in midlife, when roles and routine...

You thought this season would bring more space. But between grown kids who still need you, aging parents who rely on you, and a body that doesn't bounce back like it used to… you feel stretched thin. You love your people deeply. But if you're honest, exhaustion, disappointment, and guilt have crept in. It's not that you've lost your faith — you've just lost your footing. In this episode, we'll tal...

In this episode I explore the powerful principle:  how it is anywhere is how it is everywhere. The patterns you notice in one part of your life often show up in other areas too. Maybe the way you speak to yourself about your body also mirrors how you approach your relationships. Or the habits you carry at home ripple into your work and faith. I'll share personal examples of where I've seen this pr...