Beat Your Genes Podcast

Most people assume friendships get harder in adulthood because everyone is busy. Dr. Lisle says that's not the real reason. Friendships are insurance policies, and when you already have a stable pair bond, healthy kids, money in the bank, and a high-functioning brain, the village stops offering you anything you actually need. The flatness you feel is not a failure. It's an accurate cost-benefit re...

How do we make such great friends? We'll answer this question by going over an article called "Why Men Are Better at Friendship Than Women"

A humorously scientific look about what men say vs. what they mean.

A humorously scientific look about what women say and what they really mean.

We will discuss: - Why Do Relationships Fail? - What your partner says vs. what they mean - Comment on ways to "Hack Your Relationship"   ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Feel free to call with your own story, question, or comment at 657-383-0751.  We are live on Wednesdays at 8:30pm PST.  Or email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com

Social psychology has been telling couples for decades that "similar people attract" and long-term love depends on shared values and secure attachment. Dr. Lisle says that framing misses what's actually happening. People are not drawn to similar people, and they are not drawn to opposites. They are drawn to value, and they wind up with whoever they can actually afford on the evolutionary market. I...

Listen in as we go over a few real examples from our listeners of relationship conflicts.      If you have a situation you'd like some help with please email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in to the show live on Wednesdays at 8:30pm PST at 657-383-0751

Listen in as we go over a few real examples from our listeners of relationship conflicts.      If you have a situation you'd like some help with please email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in to the show live at 657-383-0751

Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle discuss common dating traps that men and women find themselves in.   We will also go over some listener comments/emails.    If you'd like some advice from Dr. Lisle, feel free to email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in live at 657-383-0751 at 7:30pm PST on Wednesdays.

Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle discuss common dating traps that men and women find themselves in.   We will also go over some listener comments/emails.    If you'd like some advice from Dr. Lisle, feel free to email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in live at 657-383-0751 at 7:30pm PST on Wednesdays.

We discuss which type of people hooks up the most.

A listener named Nigel calls in convinced he's found a third option between monogamy and casual sex: deep, meaningful romantic connection with more than one person at the same time. Dr. Lisle tells him it's not a strategy that flies, and he explains exactly why your female partner's brain cannot register "deep meaning" and "shared with others" in the same breath. What follows is one of the cleares...

Have the dating games changed in 2 million years?  Dr. Lisle reacts to a funny clip about why dating is so frustrating for women in the modern world.  Why do women complain about men? Why do men complain about women?   The next question Dr. Lisle goes over is a GQ article that asks "How much should a man spend on a first date?"   Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld            ...

In terms of human history, how did the idea of "locking someone into a relationship" develop? Dr. Lisle discusses the evolution of relations in the human species eventually getting to why are people  winding up in a relationship that they feel they have to stay in.  There is a brief discussion about the book Sex at Dawn and the argument for polyamory.   We find out that the modern world brings mod...

Part 2 from last week's episode: You might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying.  Last episode, we went over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. This show, we'll get to all the listener comments and questions about how to make yourself more attractive. Join Nathan Gershfeld and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designe...

You might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying.  In tonight's episode, we will go over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.   Join Nathan Gershfeld and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designed to help you find happiness and navigate the modren world with what you've got.  A show where you'll learn how to outsmart your...

Following up from last week's episode, Dr. Lisle continues to discuss the psychology of behavior through listener questions such as:  Why can people get so offended when told that human nature drives their behavior?  Can we improve our marketability in dating/relationships? How are men and women different from one another regarding relationships?    Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan G...

A follow-up to last week's episode, we will be going over more common mistakes that we all make in the mating dance that is dating.   If you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way.  This is a double-edged sword.  On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on...

If you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way.  This is a double-edged sword.  On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on the other hand, it may be detrimental to long-term happiness.  We have evolved to enjoy the pursuit of love & sex through dating and r...

Ever have a pushy friend that's trying to get you to do something you don't want to?   It may seem like the only way to get them to understand "no" is to be rude or leave.   In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD discusses how to get along without going along.  For a variety of scenarios it is in our best interest to get along with our friends, family members, and co-workers.  However, that does not...

Everybody loves a personality quiz, but most of what the culture teaches about personality is wrong. Dr. Lisle says astrology is worthless, Jung was off, and Skinner was off, and the actual science was quietly settled at the University of Minnesota in 1985. Your personality is almost entirely genetic, and that one fact rewrites everything people believe about relationships, arranged marriages, sel...

In 2005, Harvard president Lawrence Summers lost his job for saying something Dr. Lisle calls scientifically non-controversial: that men and women have psychological differences rooted in biology, not just socialization. Dr. Lisle unpacks why the evidence on this is overwhelming, why polite society refuses to look at it, and how those differences quietly run every dating dynamic you've ever experi...

Most people assume political conflict is about values, policy, or who is morally right. Dr. Lisle says it is actually about one ancient question your Stone Age brain has been asking for 100,000 years: share or not share. Every other issue is a historical accident sitting on top of that core divide. In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle walks through the evolutionary psychology of politics, drawing on th...

Most therapists treat the survival of a relationship as a good thing. Dr. Lisle calls that idea insane. Your Stone Age brain is running an algorithm designed to protect a pregnant woman in an environment of scarcity, and that algorithm will keep you attached to a man who isn't right for you, long past the point where every other signal is telling you to leave. In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle unpac...

Most parents believe heaping praise on a child is a gift. Dr. Lisle says it is often a trap. Telling a kid they are brilliant, gifted, or a straight-A student when the evidence is shakier than that quietly sets an expectation they cannot safely meet, and the motivational system's best response is to stop trying altogether. What looks like laziness, procrastination, or self-sabotage is usually some...