Banish the Lies: Outsmart Your Inner Critic

We all have habits that offer temporary relief but never quite satisfy. Whether it's scrolling, overeating, shopping, wine, or simply staying busy, what if the habit isn't the real problem? In this episode, Tania explores one quote that transformed how she understands addiction, coping, and the needs hidden beneath our everyday behaviours.  Send me a message

A ring becomes tangled with a bracelet in the middle of the night, and an ordinary moment becomes an unexpected metaphor for how old beliefs can quietly attach themselves to the life we're trying to build. In this Monday Moment, Tania reflects on the gift of awareness and why sometimes the first step isn't untangling everything, it's simply turning on the light.  Send me a message

For decades, Carmen Walsh was the supporting actor in her own life, the woman everyone could count on. After years of people-pleasing, burnout, and unhealthy relationships, she finally understood she was never here to follow or carry anyone else. She set herself free and became her own joyful authority. Today, Carmen is a speaker and writer who helps women reconnect with themselves, let go of self...

What if feeling joy while someone you love is suffering isn't selfish, but necessary?  In this Monday Moment, Tania explores the hidden belief that joy can feel like a betrayal, and why giving ourselves permission to experience both love and joy may be one of the most compassionate choices we can make.  Send me a message

Tania shares a very real moment from her own life: lying in bed, exhausted, judging her "chicken wing arms" and wondering why self-criticism continues to demand so much of our attention. What begins as a late-night conversation with herself about chicken wing arms, cellulite, and menopause quickly turns into a deeper exploration of self-judgment, the stories we tell ourselves, and the hi...

In this Monday Moment, Tania reflects on an unexpected experience with envy while scrolling social media. What if envy isn't something to avoid, but something worth paying attention to? A short reflection on comparison, curiosity, and the surprising places our emotions can lead us. Send me a message

In this episode of Banish the Lies, Tania shares the story of a 10-day silent meditation retreat that challenged everything she thought she knew about peace, healing, and the voice in her head. What began as a search for relief from emotional pain became an unexpected lesson in observing thoughts rather than automatically believing them. Through humor, honesty, and reflection, Tania explores the d...

In this Monday Moment, Tania reflects on a simple realization from her recent birthday: what made the day special wasn't what happened, it was how she chose to experience it. From receiving kindness to letting "enough" be enough, this episode explores the power of deciding how you want to meet the day before the day starts deciding for you.   Send me a message

As she prepares to facilitate a conference workshop, Tania finds herself face to face with a familiar thought: "I'm not ready." In this reflective episode, she explores why we expect to feel ready before doing something new, and why nerves, hesitation, and uncertainty may not be signs to stop. If you've ever delayed a conversation, opportunity, or dream while waiting to feel mo...

In this Monday Moment, Tania reflects on a simple passage that sparked a deeper question: what would it mean to truly live these next 24 hours as though they were precious? Through reflections on COVID, aging parents, busyness, and the people we love, she explores how easily we assume there will always be more time, and why that assumption deserves a second look.  Send me a message

Why do some decisions feel impossible to make? In this episode, Tania shares a personal story about a seemingly ordinary decision that consumed far more time, energy, and worry than it should have. What began as a question about repairing an aging car eventually revealed something much deeper. As Tania reflects on why this decision felt so difficult, she uncovers an insight that changed the way sh...

 Today is Tania's birthday, which got her wondering: Why has she always resisted celebrating it? What began as a reflection on birthdays turned into a deeper exploration of receiving, gratitude, worthiness, and the stories we tell ourselves about taking up space.  Send me a message

In this episode of Banish the Lies , Tania reflects on an unexpectedly hot spring day, a wool sweater she didn’t need, and the deeper realization that many of us stay emotionally bundled up long after difficult seasons of life have passed. Through stories about perfectionism, relationships, emotional detachment, hypervigilance, self-protection, and recovery from an eating disorder, Tania explores...

In this Monday Moment, Tania shares a simple journaling prompt that unexpectedly shifted the entire energy of a dark, rainy morning. Inspired by the phrase “like a kid in a candy store,” she explores how small choices, like music, color, movement, scent, and simple rituals, can help bring more joy, lightness, and play into everyday life. If you’ve been feeling heavy, stuck, or like you’re waiting...

In this episode of Banish the Lies , Tania explores how easily numbers can become tied to our sense of worth. From the number on a scale, to money in a bank account, to podcast downloads and social media metrics, external measurements can quietly start shaping how we see ourselves. After noticing herself becoming emotionally attached to fluctuating podcast analytics, Tania reflects on self-worth,...

This Monday Moment explores the idea of “letting” things into our lives, fun, ease, enoughness, even messiness, and the hidden beliefs that may quietly prevent them. A short reflection on heaviness, permission, and what might change if life didn’t always have to feel so hard. Send me a message

In this episode of Banish the Lies, Tania sits down with poet and author Safire Rose, whose poem ‘She Let Go’ has resonated with people around the world.  Together, they explore the deeper meaning of letting go, the difference between surrender and self-abandonment, why we cling so tightly to control, and what becomes possible when we release attachment to how we think life should unfold. Through...

In this Monday Moment, Tania reads “She Let Go” by poet and author Safire Rose, a deeply loved piece about release, acceptance, and putting down the weight we carry. Shared with permission from Safire herself, this reflective reading offers a quiet invitation to soften our grip on fear, control, and the stories that keep us holding on. Links to Safire’s work: “She Let Go” by Safire Rose https://sa...

In this episode, Tania explores the quiet belief: If you’re not okay, I can’t be okay. What can look like empathy or support can sometimes be something deeper, a need to fix, soothe, or stabilize others in order to feel settled ourselves. Tania reflects on the internal pull to step in, the relief that comes from helping, and the uncomfortable question that surfaces when she doesn’t: If I’m not fix...

 Tania reflects on a simple phrase she can’t stop thinking about: be where your feet are . In this Monday Moment, she explores how easily the mind drifts into worry disguised as preparation, and what shifts when you come back to the moment you’re actually living. A short, grounded reflection on presence, rest, and letting go of the pressure to be everywhere at once.  Send me a message

In this episode, Tania shares what happened when she tried to listen back to a podcast interview she had done… and immediately wanted to hide. What started as self-criticism turned into something more revealing. A pattern where tearing herself down was actually serving a purpose. Tania explores how self-criticism can act as a form of protection, why these reactions often feel bigger than the momen...

In this Monday Moment, Tania reflects on a recent experience of being caught in an escalating conversation, where the urge to respond immediately felt almost automatic. She explores the internal pressure to fix, explain, and manage situations in real time, and what shifted when she chose to pause instead. This short episode invites listeners to notice the difference between urgency and intentional...

Tania sits down with Dana Hunter Fradella for a powerful conversation about the hidden patterns that keep women playing small… often without realizing it. Together, they unpack the pressure to prove ourselves, the lie behind “I should just be grateful,” and the subtle ways we minimize what we truly want. Dana also shares a question she knows well… “Is this too much to ask?” … and how that one thou...

In this Monday Moment, Tania reflects on a simple challenge that turned out to be anything but easy. After trying (and failing within minutes) to stop complaining, she noticed just how automatic her words can be. This short reflection invites listeners to pay attention to what they’re saying throughout the day, and whether it reflects the life they say they want. Send me a message

Ever have a moment where something goes wrong… and you instantly feel like you’re in trouble? In this episode, Tania shares a real-life experience that caught her off guard. What seemed like a simple problem quickly turned into a surge of urgency, pressure, and fear. But it wasn’t really about the situation itself. Tania explores how quickly the mind can jump to worst-case interpretations, especia...