Bachelor to Boyfriend

Ever felt stuck in decision-making especially when it comes to relationships? There's no need to worry because I've got a super simple method that'll help you figure out what you really want, without all the stress. By the end of this episode, you'll feel way more confident about making these decisions. So, tune in. Your future self will thank you. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: How to a...

Ever felt the struggle with pelvic issues that no one seems to understand? I hear you. In this episode, Dr. Susie Gronski and I unravel the secrets to free you from the grip of pelvic challenges. It's more than physical. Tune in to find out why your emotions matter in the world of pelvic health. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: how stress impacts your intimate life and discover the keys to achieving mind...

Ever wondered why dating can sometimes feel a bit tricky? Well, in today's episode, I'm breaking down the top 5 dating mistakes I see inexperienced men make. It's like getting a secret map to make dating way better! Hit play now – your dating life's about to get a serious upgrade! WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: Why being clear about what you want is super important! How to tell someone w...

Imagine your brain as a superhero filter, letting in only what it thinks is crucial. In this episode, let’s learn how it decides what's important in dating, impacting your choices without you even realizing it. Understand how your thoughts shape your feelings in dating. And, I'll show you how to edit your narrative for a more empowering dating life. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: how the stories w...

Stuck in the "Let's Just Be Friends" whirlwind? And wonder how to decode this loaded phrase? If yes, don't miss this episode! It's a topic that's been causing unnecessary drama and confusion in the dating realm. And I’m here to bring clarity and make the dating process smoother than ever for you! WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: Difference between true friendships and mere acquai...

If you are afraid of asking a person out because the probability of something happening is low and holding back seems the best option available, then this episode is for you. Let's explore how the mindset of possibility vs. probability helps radically change how we approach dating and creating a relationship. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: The key difference between operating from a place of probabilit...

This week I am talking with therapist and meditation teacher Jeremy Mohler about a topic that's often underestimated in the world of dating – boundaries. We tend to think of a boundary as something that pushes people away, but Jeremy's examples show how it can actually be a way of bringing someone in closer. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: How embracing boundaries can be your ultimate tool for esta...

In today's episode, we dive into a topic that's crucial for every man navigating the dating world – the idea of "leading someone on."  Join me as we break down the concept of leading someone on and uncover what it truly means. We'll distinguish between genuine connections and the pitfalls of miscommunication. This episode is packed with valuable insights to help you naviga...

This week we're taking a deep look into a fundamental truth that can change the way you approach dating and relationships forever.  Have you ever wondered why certain words or actions from others seem to affect you so intensely? Well, here's the thing – it's not about them; it's about you. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: Real-life examples of how interpretations shape your emotions and af...

Join me, Erika Davian, on this episode of the Bachelor to Boyfriend podcast as we take a look at the idea of the friend zone. If you've ever felt confused, hurt, or stuck in this zone, this episode is a must-listen!  Join me to learn how to escape the friend zone and embark on a journey of self-discovery, connection, and fulfilling relationships. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: Unve...

In this episode, we delve into the often misunderstood field of coaching in comparison to therapy. As a dating and sex coach for men, I have had the unique opportunity to experience both therapy and coaching, and I want to shed light on their similarities and differences. Join me in this episode as we explore the similarities and differences between coaching and therapy, uncovering how each modali...

This week I am responding to one of the questions I most commonly hear: “What do women want?” I’ll discuss why you probably don’t want to be asking yourself this question, as well as what you DO want to focus on instead. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: Why this common question is so problematic Why it won’t help you figure out how to date better 3 questions that will help you instead Want to take your invest...

I am beyond thrilled to share with you this episode of a conversation between me and one of my former clients. Dominic is in his 30s, on the autism spectrum, and prior to completing the Bachelor to Boyfriend program, had never had a girlfriend before. He recently wrote me to tell me he is now officially in a relationship with his first girlfriend ever. Tune in to learn how he made this happen. WHA...

Dating is a process. It has ups and downs and often comes with lots of disappointment. This week’s episode will help you make the shift from seeing your goal as “unlikely” to “inevitable” so you can keep going even when there is no hope in sight. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: Why having clarity around what you want is so important. How to cultivate a feeling of inevitability, even without proof from the pa...

This week we’re fixing a common misconception: the idea that we should all want to be happy 100% of the time. Even if this were possible, I would never want this for you. Tune in to hear what I think is even better than being happy in order to create the results you want. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: Why I would never want you to be happy 100% of the time, even if it were possible. Why an effective mindse...

This week we’re talking about the label of virginity. I work with men from all kinds of backgrounds, but one group I hear from frequently are adult virgins. There is so much shame and anxiety around being a later in life virgin, and I want to share some insights from my work as a dating and intimacy coach for men. Join me as we break down this label and have you feeling a little bit better by the...

Disappointment is inevitable. It is going to come up at some point in dating and sex, so let’s talk about how to work with it! Whether you've experienced heartbreak, rejection, or unmet expectations in the dating world, understanding how to deal with disappointment is crucial for cultivating resilience and moving forward. What you will learn: How intensity of our feeling is determined by what...

Our love lives are created by the countless decisions we make in dating and relationships. In this episode, men’s dating and intimacy coach Erika Davian shares personal stories and experiences to show the importance of managing your mind in decision making, so you can make decisions quickly and confidently, without looking back.  WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: - What makes something a "right" or &...

This week, we're delving into the powerful connection between your mind and your quality of sexual experiences. Regardless of your experience level, this episode is packed with valuable insights for you. We'll address common unhelpful thoughts that can trigger negative emotions and hinder your ability to enjoy sex. By reshaping your thoughts now, you'll be better equipped for incred...

While an erection is something that you experience in your body, it is largely a product of your mind. This episode breaks down the phrase “it’s all in your head” to help you understand the relationship between your body and brain and why it is so important to change what is in your head if you want different results in bed. What you will learn: How the parasympathetic nervous system regulates ere...

If you notice yourself holding back because you're afraid of getting yourself into relationship that you don't really want to be in, then this episode is for you. Whether you're new to the concept or consider yourself a pro, dating and intimacy coach for men Erika Davian breaks down how to create super simple, healthy boundaries that will lead to deeper connections and make sure you...

In today's episode we talk about a common concern many men share: how women will react.  This easily ranks high among the things that I see holding good men back from pursuing connections with women they like. Tune in to hear how you can shift this concern (and where to focus your energy instead.) Things you'll learn: The real reason why you are worried about how she will react What you...

We have a general sense that lowering our standards when looking for a partner is a bad idea… but is it? This week I’m challenging this idea to help you see when it makes sense (and when it doesn’t) to lower your standards in love. Things you’ll learn: Changing your standards can be downright strategic To recognize the kind of thoughts you How to know when you are playing big and when you are play...

This week, I’m going to cover the 5 biggest reasons I have seen in my clients for why they are stuck in dating or sex AND I’m going to explain the antidote to overcome each of them. Things you will learn: How to recognize where you are stuck That you are not broken The five most common reasons why it feels hard to move forward How to move forward from where you are here, today Want to take your in...

We say we’re planning to go on vacation, quit our job, or buy a house… why don’t we say we are planning for love? This week explores why having a mindset of planning vs. hoping helps radically change how we approach dating and creating a relationship. Things you will learn: The difference between planning and hoping for something to happen (and why it matters) How your energy and intention shifts...