AwakenYou in Your Marriage

Send us Fan Mail Leaks in your marriage commitment often go unnoticed. An extra hour at work. A little extra time spent at that volunteer event. Bringing the kids to that last-minute event even though you had a date night planned. That extra cardio session at the gym. That conversation with that co-worker of the opposite sex that really gets you. Over time, these little leaks add up to a neglected...

Send us Fan Mail Many of us married our partners because we thought they would heal all of our old heart wounds. Of course, you didn't say that to yourself 🤣, but if you take a moment to think about it, it makes complete sense. Then they do something that makes you pull back and protect your heart. Maybe they started staying at work longer than you thought they should. Maybe they didn't...

Send us Fan Mail I have a fantastic teacher who has told me that in everything you read, you can find a concept that applies to intimate relationships. At first, I thought she was a bit insane, but I learned she was right over time. Somehow that seems to be the theme of my life, and this week we will apply that teacher's philosophy to the principles of improv. When a colleague of mine, Lisa S...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever looked back at something that happened in your life which at the time seemed like a tragedy, but now you're able to see the gift of that experience?  It makes me think of the story about the Chinese farmer; if you haven't heard it, you can check it out here .  There are so many messages to take away from this parable. My takeaway is to be present to all the...

Send us Fan Mail I wish someone would have shared this little nugget with me, and that's why I'm sharing it with you. Knowing that EVERY single intimate relationship will fall "out of love" could have saved me from so much of the shame I felt when, once again, I thought I was destined to end another relationship to continue the search for the "right one."  First, ther...

Send us Fan Mail I think it's too bad that society sets us up to believe that if we had the "right person," the feeling of falling in love would never go away. Society has set us all up to think that we're all doing it wrong and that if we find our true soulmate, we'll walk off happily ever after. What if you wouldn't ever find your true love until you figured out how...

Send us Fan Mail I have had such a positive response to my first Marriage Success Story that I have a lineup of people willing to share their marital stories. I hope these stories will give each of you some hope to discover and find your marital magic success story.   I met this week's guest Nadina Cojocaru, DVM during the live portion of my life coaching certification, and I know you will lo...

Send us Fan Mail It's easy to love our partner when they: 💜 lift us up 💜 share hugs without prompting 💜 tell us how much they love us when we aren't expecting it 💜 bring home something heartfelt 💜 ask us if they can massage our feet after a long day Would you agree with me? Especially that last one!! But what about when they aren't doing these things and haven't for so lon...

Send us Fan Mail Close your eyes and imagine it.  What does falling in love feel like?  "A deep inhale of the crisp fall air."  "A warm hug in front of a cozy fire." "Safe, comfortable, open, free..." How would you describe it? Now think of your spouse, does that feeling in your body remain? For many of you, that feeling you felt with your eyes closed, imagining what...

Send us Fan Mail There's an excellent reason why you react the way you do in your marriage - even if that reaction makes you feel down on yourself. The thing that drives your reaction could be as "little" as them coming through the front door after a day at work. You dream of being kind and loving, yet something has you withdrawing and sending "leave me alone" vibes. Let m...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to the first of what I am currently calling the Marriage Success Story episodes. In these episodes, I am sharing other people's marriage journeys in an effort to inspire you into believing that the marriage you dream of, the marriage that seems impossible and so far away, is actually possible. Everyone's marriage journey is different but through talking about our...

Send us Fan Mail Maybe you are thinking, "I don't lie; I tell the truth at all times, Christine." Maybe it's true. I don't. Sometimes I lie, and I don't even realize it. Like when my husband asks if I mind if he works on the one night he doesn't have to work. This time I didn't lie, and it was amazing. In this week's episode, I talk about the little lie...

Send us Fan Mail This week I did something fun on the podcast, something I've wanted to do but hadn't until now.  I overviewed the newly released book US by Marriage Therapist Terry Real . I now know why I hadn't done this until now; IT'S HARD!! The books I read on relationships and self-growth ALWAYS blow my mind; there is SO MUCH good information in them that I find it diffic...

Send us Fan Mail Aimée Gianni , MS, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Love Relationships. She teaches her clients The Art of Intimate Connection and helps them create strong, loving, joyful relationships and meaningful lives that they love, full of authenticity, connection, passion, fulfillment, and physical well-being.  It’s her favorite thing to d...

Send us Fan Mail One of the main reasons happy relationships turn "bad" is because you've lost your sense of self. You have lost yourself in the relationship and are desperately looking to your partner to do something about it. Then you get bitter when they don't. All because you've never learned how to find safety within, a solid connection with yourself, and confidence t...

Send us Fan Mail This week I want to turn your mind upside down regarding how you feel about your marriage.  Feeling disconnected, boredom and low levels of passion after the honeymoon ends are normal. Yes, it's normal.  Nothing has gone wrong. Well, something has gone wrong, but it isn't what is happening in your marriage now; it's what happened when you were madly in love. This we...

Send us Fan Mail It's time to stop trying to prove who's right and who's wrong! IT DOESN'T MATTER. Nobody cares, nobody is keeping score, and if you are, please stop. You are in a relationship. A successful relationship means team thinking , not ME and YOU thinking. When the boat has been rocked the best action is to apologize for your part instead of fighting for it. FOR THE S...

Send us Fan Mail It makes sense that you wonder if you'd be happier with someone else when your radar is focused on those characteristics that drive you crazy. And this wondering has ZERO positive outcome.  Either you decide it's time to leave and figure it out, Or you fully invest in figuring out how to be happy right where you are. UNLESS, of course, you're ok with being unhappy,...

Send us Fan Mail More marriages fail because of this one thing. Marriage is a funny thing.  When you get married, you are so in love with your spouse that you will do almost anything to prove your love without any expectations or need for reciprocity.  You suddenly realize that you're doing these "anythings" with a bit of anger and resentment.  Maybe you even stop doing the "th...

Send us Fan Mail When you see your marriage through the lenses of disappointment, frustration, and dissatisfaction, it's what you are constantly looking for: why you're disappointed, frustrated, and dissatisfied. Even when we do something to bring our marriage together, those lenses tend to make the "good" things filter away while left seeing all the ways things went wrong. And...

Send us Fan Mail When you feel a sense of lacking in your marriage, it's like a horse with its blinders on; you are zeroed in on what it is you aren't getting enough of. And when you are zeroed in on what you aren't getting, your brain goes wild with fear, anxiety, and suspicion about what it is you should be getting more of. More help. More attention. More love. More sex. More supp...

Send us Fan Mail This week I'm spending some time contemplating "taking a break" and the impact it has on our future life and marriage. The more I contemplate, the better I understand why so many of you keep pushing taking a break to the bottom of your list of things to do. The more I contemplate the fear of taking a break, the better I understand why couples are afraid to "tak...

Send us Fan Mail The human brain is sneaky. Your human brain is SO smart. It's SO good at figuring out all of the problems. But the problem with you trying to figure out all of your own problems is that your brain has a bias. Your brain's bias uses everything from your past to protect you and produces evidence from what is happening around you to prove its perspective. You convince your...

Send us Fan Mail Conflict exists between all of us. It doesn't need to be a problem. But for most of us, it is. We keep it bottled up, pretending it doesn't matter. We argue for our perspective. Or we just walk away. There is a better way, and when we understand that conflict is normal and why it's there, we can start looking at it. When we can take an honest look at it and find the...

Send us Fan Mail Caroline Holke has always had a pretty good life on paper- happily married with 2 kids, a leadership position in corporate marketing, and plenty of good friends and family. But she wasn't quite happy. This led her down the path of self-discovery which started with examining her relationship with alcohol.   Today she is a Drink Less Coach. She helps women get rid of the sh*tty...