AwakenYou in Your Marriage

Send us Fan Mail If you've ever wondered if you married the wrong person, then you're considering an option other than the one you're with. If you've secretly wondered if life would be better if you left in the heat of conflict, then the option to give up is playing in the background. If, on a lonely Friday evening, while your spouse is still at work, you've played with th...

Send us Fan Mail Everything you do in your relationship with your spouse is about receiving love.  Yep, when you blow up because he didn't bother to plan anything for Mother's Day, again, it's all because you want love. When you don't make plans to do something with your partner because they never bother, it's because you want love. It's because you want love when you...

Send us Fan Mail When people think about building a balanced support system with their spouse when they've been married for years without one, you can imagine they're not all fired up about the idea of digging in.  It does sound a bit exhausting.  But what's your alternative? Continuing on the way things are? How about divvying up all of your things and moving on? Our brains will te...

Send us Fan Mail The first step to healing your marriage is probably not the first thing that would come to mind when you're unhappy in your marriage. The first place most people turn when unhappy in their marriage is their spouse. They tell their spouse they're unhappy; usually, the spouse is not surprised because they're not happy either, and they need to see a counselor. Not an e...

Send us Fan Mail If you are unhappy and unsatisfied with your marriage, this week, I will help you start the process to start feeling happier and more satisfied.  This week is a shortie with a powerful punch. It is the foundation of everything I do to help my clients create the marriage they crave. When you realize how much power you have to turn your marriage around, you will be unstoppable when...

Send us Fan Mail With traumatic events, I find myself going within and taking time to reflect, which I have been doing plenty of lately.  Sharing my story has been on the agenda for a while. Still, I like to let things fall into place naturally, so that is up this week on AwakenYou in your marriage, my marriage mini-revival story. Richard Bach says it best, "We teach best what we most need to...

Send us Fan Mail Marriage is a beautiful bond that brings two people together in love and companionship. However, it's not always sunshine and roses. Sometimes, things don't go as planned, and unhappy marriages can be the result.  So now what? That's what I'm talking about this week on the podcast, your three choices. AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 112, Three Choices In An...

Send us Fan Mail I did it! I did another book highlight podcast because you all LOVED the one I did in Episode 81 highlighting the book US by Terrance Real . Never mind that it was seven months later, but I did it, and it was SO much easier this time! I think you will love this one even more, so pull it up and listen because I have collected the best from Terri Cole's incredible book Boundary...

Send us Fan Mail The easiest way to tell if you are aligned in your integrity in your marriage is by examining how you're feeling about: the last interesting conversation your spouse initiated the previous activity or date they planned for the two of you the way they expressed their love for you yesterday Think about something in your life that you feel amazing about; maybe it's somethin...

Send us Fan Mail Most likely, you currently, or have in the past, believed a version of each of the lies I talk about this week in AwakenYou in your marriage .  In the magical event that you have never fallen for any of these lies, take some time to pay attention to the words you hear others speak about their marriage or the influences you expose yourself to: in that series you're currently w...

Send us Fan Mail Pride, selfishness and ego are love's enemy, but this one thing can overcome all three. Humility is the one thing that can overcome the enemy of love (ego and the pride accompanying it). If you want to experience love again in your marriage, you must learn to embrace humility. Humility can't be embraced when you don't have a solid inner foundation of self-trust and...

Send us Fan Mail This week I am sharing a super powerful conversation with Nicole Ellis, a Certified Success Life Coach for Dads . Nicole does magical things with men to help them live up to the role they dream of having in their marriage and in their family without succumbing to the fears that have them pushing their dream away by avoiding and withdrawing. Nicole Ellis empowers men who are feelin...

Send us Fan Mail Are you carrying all the load? What do you do when it seems as though all the household management tasks fall in your lap? I hear so many women talk about this relational dynamic which is killing their enthusiasm for life and, surprisingly, their relationship. For most of them, it was a decision early on in their relationship, a decision they were on board with. Until they weren&a...

Send us Fan Mail The only thing you need to create the marriage you crave is the desire to do so. Once you desire something different, you can start working on a plan with strategies to achieve success. That's what I help you do in this week's episode of AwakenYou in your marriage : First, we define the problems you are struggling with Second, we decide which problem you want to work on...

Send us Fan Mail Eleni Economides is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of NY, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School.  She runs a full private practice where she sees individuals and couples for relationship and sex therapy, and a coaching practice where she helps women who feel stressed about sex develop sexual confidence so...

Send us Fan Mail Does a trip to the tropics in the middle of a long cold winter help warm up your soul enough to make the season manageable? What would it be like if that could work the same in your marriage when it seems things need a slight thawing? I think it works the same in relationships as it does with seasons. Imagine Minnesota winters ALL YEAR LONG 🥶. A short trip to Florida won't d...

Send us Fan Mail The center of most relationship problems is an inability to communicate what you want so that your partner can actually hear what you say.  If you want to do something fun with your spouse on Valentine's Day but haven't done anything since 2010, and you're bitter about it, then you need a plan to get what you want.  If you want more help with the household chores bu...

Send us Fan Mail Try explaining something you don't understand; you can't do it without laughing or wanting to cry. Let me explain. You're in a funk, but you're not sure why; I mean, life is going really well right now; you should be partying like it's 1999! You can't explain it to your spouse, so you withdraw, which could be understood through their lenses as you&apo...

Send us Fan Mail Sure, you can ask Google how to set relationship goals, and you will get all sorts of information; try it! Maybe you even take a stab at one or two of the suggestions you discover. You might quickly discover the Google suggestion felt awful and awkward, and your spouse didn't respond as you hoped. Maybe you've already given these tactics a go, and your new year healthy e...

Send us Fan Mail The kids are getting ready to leave, and for many, this period of life has people a bit concerned about what's next. You see that you have more time than you've had for years. They get their license, have their own group of friends, and suddenly, time with your spouse feels awkward. You're starting to ask yourself questions like: Who am I?  Do I want to do something...

Send us Fan Mail This week I had the most enjoyable conversation with Angel Adams about something every one of us battles.  ANXIETY.   For some, it's less of a problem than it is for others, and then there are those where anxiety tends to take over the show. No matter where you are on the anxiety spectrum, learning how to recognize it, understand it and manage it are game changers.  People li...

Send us Fan Mail What they did hurt. Disappointment, frustration, resentment. They all lead to anger, bitterness, and disconnection. Maybe it's time. To forgive. I know; it seems like forgiving is giving in. It seems like it's telling them that what they did was ok. It seems like we're telling them they don't need to change. Forgiveness is none of that. Forgiveness is about fre...

Send us Fan Mail When you learn how to do this, things that don't make sense in your marriage will start making sense, and your frustrations will turn into empathy. When you learn how to  feel, identify, understand, process and then regulate your emotions, things will start to make sense. Probably not the magic solution you were hoping for, huh? If you think feeling your emotions is for wimps...

Send us Fan Mail When you get married, you have expectations about what your spouse will or won't do, but do you even realize what those expectations are and how much pain and suffering they create for you? First, there are all those lovely things they did when you were dating that you expect them to keep doing.  Then there are those things you assumed they would do, inherited beliefs from th...

Send us Fan Mail Several weeks ago I interviewed Sonia Dhaliwal for what I thought would be another Magical Marriage Success Story episode but as I edited this conversation I decided to highlight her cross-cultural marriage journey instead because it's that good! You heard Sonia interview me on her podcast Weight Loss for Teacher Moms, where we talked about marriage and all of the things. As...