AwakenYou in Your Marriage

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever found yourself spiraling after something your spouse said or didn’t say? It might’ve seemed small—but the emotional response inside of you? Felt big. And maybe you even asked yourself, “Why did that hit me so hard?” This week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage is all about what happens when current pain stirs up something deeper —and how learning to tend to thes...

Send us Fan Mail It feels like nothing is changing… but it is. There’s a moment on the journey of growth that can feel downright cruel. You’re showing up. You’re doing the work. You’re staying present, using the tools, praying through the pain… And still, nothing seems to be changing. Not fast enough. Not visibly enough. And that old voice whispers, Why bother? If that’s where you are right now, I...

Send us Fan Mail What if the clutter in your home is quietly draining the energy from your marriage? In this week’s episode, I sit down with decluttering and mindset coach Kerryn Simmons to talk about how the spaces we live in impact how we feel in our relationships. We explore what “clutter capacity” means, how childhood messages about organizing shape us, and how couples can begin to talk—withou...

Send us Fan Mail When your marriage feels heavy or disconnected, it’s easy to believe you’re the only one going through it. You look around and assume other couples must have it figured out, while you quietly carry the weight of your own disappointments behind closed doors. But here’s the truth I wish more people knew: Suffering in silence won’t move you forward. Healing begins when we step out of...

Send us Fan Mail You open up about something emotional… and your spouse completely misses it. They try to fix it, change the subject, or talk about someone else instead. And just like that—you shut down. This is how emotional intimacy quietly unravels in marriage. Not with a big fight, but with a missed moment. A break in connection. A silence that grows. In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in You...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been in a moment with your spouse where you felt a swirl of emotions? You’re hurt. Frustrated. Disappointed. But underneath all of it—you know that you still love them. That’s exactly where I found myself the day after our 20th anniversary. I had planned the evening. Jeff gave me flowers… a day late. And the way he handed them to me? Let’s just say it didn’t land the...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever had that moment in your marriage where you feel like… "What’s the point of trying anymore?" Maybe you’ve done the work. You’ve been patient. You’ve read the books, had the talks, maybe even tried counseling. And yet, the connection still feels out of reach. The effort still feels one-sided. You still feel… stuck. If that sounds familiar, this week’s episode...

Send us Fan Mail This week’s episode is a tender one — one that honestly surprised even me as I lived it. Inside the episode, I share a brand-new break that happened in my marriage recently — a quiet, significant shift that exposed a dynamic I’ve lived with for years, often without fully realizing how much it impacted my heart. You’ll have to tune in to hear exactly what happened. But more importa...

Send us Fan Mail In many marriages, there’s a quiet, often invisible dynamic that keeps one person shrinking and the other wondering why they feel so alone — even when both partners care deeply. It’s called the “one down” position. And it’s more common than you might think. Sometimes it looks like always apologizing… Or saying, “You deserve better than me.” Or hiding behind a wall of withdrawal an...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever gone through a season in your marriage where things felt… quiet? Not in a peaceful, cozy way — but in a Where did we go? kind of way.  Maybe you’re in that season right now. Conversations feel dull or distant. You’re both going through the motions. You’re wondering if the connection you once had is gone for good.  This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a reflection th...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s say you bought something this week—a new pair of shoes, a few Amazon “add to cart” moments—and didn’t tell your spouse. Not because it was a big secret, but because… what’s the point, right? Guess what... Most of us aren’t intentionally lying in our marriages. But we’re often not fully telling the truth either. We leave out the small stuff—spending, frustrations, unmet needs...

Send us Fan Mail Resentment and blame can quietly build in a marriage until one day you realize you’re not just frustrated—you’re disconnected, discouraged, and maybe even questioning whether things can ever feel good again. In this episode, we take a gentle but honest look at how resentment starts, what it looks like in everyday marriage dynamics (even the “small” stuff), and why it leaves you fe...

Send us Fan Mail You know that subtle ache when your spouse is right there… but still feels far away? This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m talking about what it really means to reconnect in your marriage—and why it so often feels harder than it should. Because for many, it’s not that you don’t want to feel close again… it’s that you’re not sure how to bridge the growing gap—especially when...

Send us Fan Mail I know the journey to a healthier, more connected marriage can feel slow. Sometimes it feels like you’re doing the work, showing up differently, choosing patience, and yet… nothing seems to change. Maybe your spouse still reacts the same way. Maybe old patterns resurface. Maybe you wonder if all this effort is even worth it. I want you to stop for a moment. Breathe. And hear this:...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wished your spouse would just see their part? You try to talk about the struggles in your marriage, hoping they’ll acknowledge how their actions (or inactions) are affecting you. But instead, they dismiss it. Defend themselves. Maybe even turn it back on you. And you’re left feeling unheard, unseen, and like you’re carrying the weight of the relationship all by yours...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like you’re the only one trying to improve your marriage? It seems as though you’re constantly reflecting, adjusting, and trying to make things better—while your spouse seems unaware or unwilling to see their part? Maybe they shut down, get defensive, or act like you’re the one making a big deal out of nothing. It’s frustrating. Exhausting. And it can make you feel compl...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever brought up something important to your spouse, only to suddenly find yourself on the defensive ? Maybe you wanted to talk about feeling overwhelmed with household responsibilities, and before you know it, the conversation flips—now you’re reassuring them that they do enough. Or perhaps you ask for more quality time together, and instead of responding to your request,...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever had a moment where your spouse did something small—ignored a request, seemed distracted, didn’t respond the way you hoped—and suddenly, you found yourself way more upset than you expected ? Maybe you lashed out, shut down, or felt deeply hurt over something that, logically, didn’t seem that big. It happens! And there’s a reason this happens. In those moments, your re...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wanted to bring something up with your spouse but hesitated—afraid it would lead to an argument, defensiveness, or even more distance? This is a common relational dynamic and today I want to help you break this cycle so you can break through to the relationship you desire.  Many couples struggle with confrontation because they’ve never learned how to approach tough c...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever sat across from your spouse on a date night and felt… nothing? Like you should be enjoying yourselves, but instead, the conversation feels forced, surface-level, or stuck in logistics? Or maybe you’ve stopped doing date nights altogether because, honestly, what’s the point if they don’t feel special anymore? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many couples qui...

Send us Fan Mail What do you want your marriage to feel like this year? More connected? More joyful? Easier to navigate together? In my latest episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage , we’re talking about setting intentional relationship goals that actually stick. Whether you’ve never set goals for your marriage or feel like past attempts haven’t worked, this episode will inspire you to try again—th...

Send us Fan Mail What if one word could guide your entire year—helping you grow, make decisions with clarity, and deepen your relationships? That’s what we’re diving into in this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage ! In this episode, I’m sharing: How my Word of the Year for 2024, vulnerability, shaped my life, including my relationships, career, creativity, and finances. Why I chose peace...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever found yourself frustrated with your spouse during the most ordinary tasks—like running errands, cleaning, or working on a project together? Maybe you’ve thought, “Why can’t they just figure out what to do?” Or maybe your marriage feels like it’s in a cold, quiet season—a winter where nothing seems to grow, and you’re left wondering how to feel close again. I’ve been...

Send us Fan Mail The New Year is here, and with it comes a renewed sense of motivation to try new things and focus on what truly matters. If you’re ready to create more connection and intimacy in your marriage, my latest podcast episode is for you! This week, I’m sharing a personal story about how a simple 5-minute activity brought my husband, Jeff, and me closer—and how you can do the same in you...

Send us Fan Mail A New Year, A New Beginning for Your Marriage** 🥂 To Self-Trust and Deeper Connection. As the New Year approaches, many of us reflect on the areas of our lives that feel unfulfilled—the places where we long for more. If your marriage has felt distant or stuck, you might be wondering, Can things really change? I want you to know they absolutely can. And not only can they change—th...