AwakenYou in Your Marriage

Send us Fan Mail I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how many couples quietly stop having fun together—not because they don’t care, but because life gets heavy and serious and… well, slowly you start feeling more like you’re running a household than living inside a relationship. You’re managing schedules. Paying bills. Getting through the week. And one day you look up and realize… the lightness...

Send us Fan Mail There are moments in marriage when something small hits a tender place inside of us, and suddenly our reaction feels much bigger than the moment itself. If you’ve ever surprised yourself during an argument or wondered why you “snap,” this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. In this conversation, I break down the deeper emotional and physio...

Send us Fan Mail If it feels like you’re the only one doing the emotional work in your marriage—planning the date nights, initiating the hard conversations, circling back after conflict—you are not alone. In this episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage , I’m unpacking the quiet weight that builds when one partner carries all the relational responsibility. I share a real-life coaching story, offer a...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever started working on your marriage — maybe reading the books, having deeper conversations, or getting professional help — and suddenly everything feels heavier instead of lighter? You’re not doing it wrong. You’re doing it right. When couples begin opening up about what doesn’t feel right, emotions that have been buried finally come to the surface. It can feel like thi...

Send us Fan Mail Learn how to stay in love in marriage through daily intentionality, self-growth, and simple habits that keep connection alive. In this final episode of the Falling Back in Love series, Christine Bongiovanni-Stiff shares what it really takes to stay in love in marriage once the spark returns. Drawing from her own story and five seasons of facilitating Re|Engage , Christine explores...

Send us Fan Mail So often, couples tell me, “If we could just fix our sex life, everything else would feel better.” And while that makes sense—because when physical intimacy fades, everything feels off—the truth is that sexual disconnection usually begins long before the bedroom. When we lose emotional safety, trust, or connection, our bodies follow. In this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your...

Send us Fan Mail Do you ever feel like you’re the only one trying to fix your marriage? You’re reading the books, listening to podcasts, showing up differently—and your spouse? They’re just going about life as if everything’s fine. It’s one of the loneliest and most discouraging places to be. You start to wonder if there’s any point in all your effort. In this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Yo...

Send us Fan Mail If you've ever caught yourself thinking, “This isn’t what I imagined it would be,” about your marriage then this is for you! Maybe you’ve felt the spark fade, the connection slip, or the weight of distance between you grow heavier as time goes on. If so, this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast is especially for you. In Episode 236, “Falling in Love with...

Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How do we start feeling close again?” — this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast is for you. We often think falling back in love takes something big: a grand romantic gesture, a perfect date night, or our spouse suddenly changing. But true connection rarely starts that way. In Episode 235, “Tiny Sparks: Reigniting Emotional Conn...

Send us Fan Mail If you’re wondering how to rebuild love after years of disconnection, this episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast will encourage you. Many husbands and wives quietly ask, “Is it possible to fall back in love after feeling so distant?” The truth is more hopeful than you might think. In Episode 234, “Can You Really Fall Back in Love?” , I share one woman’s real-life journ...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever whispered the words to yourself: “I don’t feel in love anymore” ? It’s a thought that can feel frightening, even shameful—like you’re the only one carrying it. But the truth is, almost every couple will walk through seasons where love feels distant. In this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast , I’m starting a brand-new series: Falling Back in Lov...

Send us Fan Mail When you hear the word “betrayal,” you probably think of infidelity. But there’s another kind of betrayal that can wound just as deeply, and often goes unnamed: emotional betrayal. It happens when your spouse turns away instead of toward you… when the trust that they’ll be emotionally safe with you gets broken. Sometimes it looks like confiding in someone else instead of you. Some...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever noticed how some of your biggest arguments seem to happen on the weekends? Everything feels fine during the week, then Saturday comes—and suddenly you’re at each other’s throats over something small. You’re not alone. This happens to so many couples, and there’s a reason why. During the week, we’re busy and distracted. Little annoyances get pushed aside, but they don...

Send us Fan Mail Do you ever look back and wonder… what happened to the romance? When you were dating, it seemed so natural—the late-night talks, the thoughtful gestures, the spark of being pursued. But somewhere along the way, after the relationship felt secure, life got busy. Careers, kids, and responsibilities took over, and the pursuit faded. And with it, sometimes desire will fade too. This w...

Send us Fan Mail One of the quietest but most painful dynamics I hear from women is this: “He says he wants sex… but he never actually asks.” It leaves you feeling invisible, unwanted, and confused. And for him? Silence can feel safer than facing rejection, insecurity, or the shame that often hides beneath the surface. In my latest bonus episode, “He’s Not Asking—Now What?” I explore what might re...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wondered why sex seemed so natural in the beginning, but now feels complicated—or even avoided? For many couples, sex was the hook that brought them together. For her, giving herself felt like the way to keep his attention. For him, receiving her felt like proof that he was wanted. It worked—at least for a while. But over time, that script creates a painful standoff:...

Send us Fan Mail What if the very questions you’ve been afraid to ask about sex… are actually the ones that could open the door to deeper connection, healing, and understanding?  This week’s episode wraps up the Let’s Talk About Sex in Marriage series with something powerful: 💬 Real questions. Honest answers.   These aren’t surface-level questions. These are the kind of questions you ask when you...

Send us Fan Mail This couple had an intimacy breakthrough most couples miss. He was frustrated they weren’t having sex. She felt used and emotionally abandoned. He said, “I’m always open to sex—she just never initiates.” She said, “It doesn’t feel like love. It feels like pressure.” Like so many couples, they were stuck in a painful standoff—both wanting connection, but waiting for the other to ch...

Send us Fan Mail What if the way you initiate sex… actually turned your spouse on ? Not because of a clever move or perfectly timed suggestion—but because of the energy behind it. Too often, initiation becomes about asking for something. And for the person being asked? It can feel like pressure. One more thing on the to-do list. One more demand to meet. But what if initiating wasn’t about getting...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever loved your spouse deeply but felt your body shut down when they reached for you? Maybe you’ve wondered… “Why don’t I want sex the way I used to?” “Why does my mind feel so distracted—or even resistant—when I want to feel close?” If that’s you, I want you to take a deep breath and hear this: 👉 There's nothing wrong with you. 👉 Your desire isn’t gone. 👉 Your bo...

Send us Fan Mail There was a season in my marriage when we were having sex… but something still felt painfully off. We weren’t fighting. We were doing the “right” things. But emotionally, we were disconnected — and I felt it most clearly in the bedroom. We were going through the motions — like fast food intimacy. It gave us temporary relief but left us hungry for something deeper. Maybe you know w...

Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage , I’m talking about something most of us have never taken the time to unpack— what we learned about sex… and how those lessons still live in our bodies, our minds, and our marriages today. For many of us, sex was never talked about at all. For others, the messages we received were shame-based, fear-driven, or wrapped in unrealis...

Send us Fan Mail If sex feels awkward, distant, pressured, or just off in your marriage — you’re not alone. In fact, over 50% of married couples say they’re dissatisfied with their sex life… and many haven’t talked about it in over a year. Not because they don’t care. Not because there’s something wrong with them. But because sex often carries a lifetime of silence, shame, and confusion. That’s wh...

Send us Fan Mail You want to be more affectionate. You want to initiate connection. You want to soften, speak kindly, reach out… But when the moment comes—you freeze, shut down, or hold back. And afterward, you wonder: Why didn’t I just do the thing I actually wanted to do? In this episode, we’re exploring the emotional tug-of-war that so many of us face in marriage—the dissonance between how we w...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever pulled away from your spouse’s affection… —even though part of you wanted it? Or maybe they offer something kind—a compliment, a hug, a moment of connection—and your whole body tenses or recoils? You’re not alone. And you’re not broken. This week on the podcast, I’m exploring a concept that’s been deeply eye-opening for me—and for so many of my clients: What if you’r...