Avoidance and Control

Do you struggle with getting good sleep? Do you often wake up in the middle of the night and annoyingly can't get back to sleep? Meredith Louden is a transformative sleep coach dedicated to helping driven professionals reclaim their sleep and unlock peak performance. After overcoming 16 years of chronic insomnia herself, Meredith has helped hundreds of clients overcome insomnia naturally throu...

Ever wonder why you said yes when you wanted to say no? If you tend towards helping others before helping yourself, this is the episode for you. In this Episode we chat with Allie Andrews about Fawning, why people-pleasing shows up, and much more. Allie helps individuals and couples have better sex and feel happier and more secure in themselves and their relationships. Allie is a Certified Somatic...

Ever think about how different you are from your parent's beliefs or values? This happens to us all, especially those of us on a personal growth journey, and those of use taking steps to break old cycles. In This Episode: "Stability" defined by Me and My Mom Navigating Differing Beliefs with Love/Compassion Reflection Questions to support Separation/ Detachment Monique's Socials...

Ever felt blame or self-hatred for doing or saying something because you were upset or felt attacked? Have you ever regretted a choice you made when you had big feelings? This is called Reactions, this episode will help teach out why most of our decisions are not "Choices" but Reactions from our over active nervous system. In This Episode: Choice VS Reactions Neruopathways Rule our &quot...

Do you ever get that pre-anxiety of all the ways something could go wrong? Do you struggle with internal validation because of how you were raised? We explored all of these topics with my friend Ashley! In This Episode: Boundaries with Family & Work Internal Validation Seeking Support Ashley Mina, COO for Online Businesses & in her own home. After getting laid off in 2023, she used her 13+...

We all try to control how others see us, but have you ever tried letting it go? Have you tried getting to deeply know yourself? Michelle gives us all her tools. Michelle A Burke, recognized as The Hot Mess Alchemist, is a dynamic speaker and bestselling author celebrated for her transformative insights and visionary wisdom. With a remarkable ability to turn life's chaos into opportunities for...

Ever wonder why you cannot stop worrying about the people you love and care about most? love is a hell of a drug, and our anxious nervous system tries to control everything others do.. for us to feel safe. In This Episode: Review of Neuropathways and Old Beliefs 2 Things to do Today to Stop Worrying Reflection on Efforts to Control Links: ⁠⁠Book A Gifted Consultation⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Awareness Plan Membership⁠...

Ever space out when your boss or mom is talking to you? Have you ever had an out-of-body experience? In This Episode: Symptoms of Disassociation Normalize Natural Brian Process Stress Management Links: ⁠Book A Gifted Consultation⁠ ⁠Awareness Plan Membership⁠ ⁠Compassion Club (free Resource) Socials Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠LinkedIn⁠

Have you ever been called a jerk or asshole by others? Are you a male who feels like you want to heal generational cycles? In this episode, you will hear about: Machismo Energy What Men Can Do for Themselves and Their Communities How to Start the Inner Work Ian Simon is the Founder of Thine Athletics. Thine Athletics is a holistic wellness and fitness platform, whose mission is to help humanity be...

Ever wonder how come we get so angry or frustrated when someone says "You need to calm down"? Or whenever you have a strong emotion and want to say something but you burst into tears? In This Episode, we break down why we avoid feelings and how our brain responds We also include: Reflective Questions for You to Answer on Avoidance Patterns and How Our Brain Works Other Connected Episodes...

Ever wonder how come we get so angry or frustrated when someone says "You need to calm down"? Or whenever you have a strong emotion and want to say something but you burst into tears? that is because your nervous system is running the show, which isn't a "bad" thing. this isn't a malicious bully being the puppet to your life. it's your brain's natural reaction s...

Are you curious about how I help my clients process trauma without retelling their worn-out trauma stories? Although this work can be done by anyone, we all carry these significant experiences that have skills for us to use now and in the future. My friend Amanda Fortin, who is a Self-Care Empowerment Coach and Reiki Master has agreed to experience the work that I do with my clients. In this episo...

Have you ever worked really hard at kicking an old bad habit just to have it come back when you are most stressed? Old patterns you thought were buried in the past, can come back. It's not because you lack discipline or focus, it's because of something called neuropathways. In This Pattern Series, you will hear: How Neuropathways Work Generational Patterns Coping with High Stress How &quot...

Have you ever been curious about spiritual guidance? or how to tap more into your intuition? I do this through reiki/ energy healing and reflection with my clients. In this raw Episode: Racoon Meanings & Interpretations Generosity/Giving Stories Journal Prompts for Self-Reflection Resources/ Links ⁠Book a Gifted Consult Detail on Awareness Plan Membership - Includes Discounts on Reiki&Refl...

Ever wondered about therapy or hiring a life coach but have no idea how or which one to choose from? While therapy is becoming less stigmatized; so many therapists are pivoting into coaching (like myself) or adding coaching as a service to help clients in a holistic way to promote health. In This Episode We Will Go Over: -Similarities and Differences in Clinical Work versus Coaching - Clients with...

Have you ever said, "I am never going to do that to my kids"? Yeah, crushing generational patterns starts with some education on how we grow and connect. In This Episode, you will hear - History of Attachment Theory - My Clinical Story of Attachment - What Needs to Happen in Mental Health Treatment for Client Success Resources and Links Gifted Consultation https://goldenhandsmassageaz.co...

So many “Pop psychologist Influencers” who have a lifetime of therapy love to define Trauma and judge others, I'm here to tell you the truth based on science and facts. In this episode, I will answer what trauma is by -explaining the critiques from Pop Psychologist Influencers -explaining how trauma affects the brain - explaining the old definition of trauma Resources and Links https://dtheal....

Welcome to the Avoidance and Control Podcast. Avoidance and Control Podcast is for people who are ready to stand in their power and authentic truth rather than the false beliefs society or our upbringing conditioned us in. I am your host Monique Gomez, a Former Mental Health Clinician turned Certified Trauma and Resilience Life Coach here to help you befriend your nervous system to work WITH you,...