Attachment Theory w/Aubrie Sellers: The Podcast

Aubrie closes out Season 1 with the song that ties the whole record together. In a culture that sells self-sufficiency as strength, she makes the case that the need for attachment isn't neediness, it's our nature. She gets into why chronic disconnection carries a mortality risk comparable to smoking 15 cigarettes a day, how co-regulation lets your nervous system borrow calm from the people around...

Aubrie unpacks the myth of "the one," the version of love we've been sold by movies and fairy tales, and why it sets overthinkers up to walk away from real, healthy partnerships. Drawing from Sheva Rajaee's Relationship OCD and research from the Gottmans, she breaks down what Relationship OCD actually is, how to tell the difference between a real concern and an anxious intrusive thought, why ROCD...

Aubrie opens up about being a highly sensitive person, what it actually means, the biology behind it, and how it has shaped her in love. Drawing from Elaine Aron's The Highly Sensitive Person in Love, she walks through the real, measurable wiring difference that affects roughly 15 to 20% of people (sensory processing sensitivity), the fixer trap HSPs fall into when they can feel the wound undernea...

Aubrie replays the first episode of "Attachment Theory" for new listeners while she’s on tour in Switzerland. Stay tuned for a new episode next week! In the first episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie examines dating apps, noncommittal patterns, and the disappearing moral code of modern dating. From swipe culture and emotional unavailability to the rise of situationships and ghosting, she explores...

Aubrie zooms out on the framework that names the album and this whole show, walking through the four attachment styles before digging into the part she hasn't covered yet: the biochemistry of what's actually happening in your body when connection feels euphoric or when closeness feels overwhelming. From the cortisol and dopamine cycle that keeps anxious attachers checking their phone, to the vagus...

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie explores what happens when the love is real but the compatibility isn't, and how to tell the difference between something worth fighting for and something that's a mirage. From the scarcity mindset that keeps us forcing things to work, to the boundaries and self-trust that set us free, Mirage is about learning to stop being a crutch for someone else's g...

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie dives into the ways social media and online communication distort our connections, both with people we're dating and partners we're already with. From the concept of "hyper-personal communication" and why relationships that start online are more prone to breakups, to navigating phone privacy, secret accounts, and the boundaries we forget to set, Look Up...

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie examines what happens when past relationship wounds and emotional triggers take over a connection. From anxious-avoidant push-pull dynamics to the addictive cycle of “frustration attraction,” Trigger Happy explores why some relationships feel intense but unstable—and why learning to trust someone’s actions over their words can reveal whether real intima...

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie explores the moment when you’ve seen the full picture of someone. Their wounds, their patterns, their habits, and their “little rooms,” and have to decide whether to stay or walk away. Through attachment theory and personal reflection, this episode unpacks how to tell the difference between normal human imperfection and dynamics that slowly erode your p...

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie explores the quiet ways criticism can erode intimacy—how sighs, tone, nitpicking, and passive negativity slowly chip away at safety and self-worth in relationships. Drawing from attachment theory and personal experience, Subatomic looks at how avoidant patterns often show up as subtle judgment rather than overt conflict, and how learning to communicate...

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie explores what happens when attraction turns into fantasy, and we fall in love with who someone could be instead of how they actually show up. Through personal reflection and attachment theory, this episode unpacks romanticizing, dating potential, and the ways we rewrite red flags to protect hope and avoid disappointment. From confusing anxiety with chem...

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie examines dating apps, noncommittal patterns, and the disappearing moral code of modern dating. From swipe culture and emotional unavailability to the rise of situationships and ghosting, she explores how today’s dating systems reward detachment and keep many people stuck in cycles of confusion and self-doubt. Blending personal experience with attachment...

Attachment Theory is a podcast about modern relationships—why we stay, why we leave, and why so many of us keep repeating the same patterns. Hosted by singer-songwriter Aubrie Sellers, each episode is inspired by a song from her upcoming album of the same name, using music as a starting point for honest conversations about attachment, dating culture, communication, and the emotional realities of m...