Are You Relentlessly Resilient?

Little things can add joy to our life. They can also turn into big things if we ignore them. In this podcast I talk about how ignoring the little things can change your life focus and trajectory. Being true to yourself leads to being your best self. Listen and learn why.

Fall is one of my favorite seasons. Everything is bright and beautiful, a swan song before the onset of winter's barrenness. With new moon tomorrow, this episode examines setting intentions that will manifest weeks, even months from now. I'm back in touch with my intuitive, natural, sensual self and ready to fully embrace and embody the gifts and talents I have been blessed with. Each of u...

Want to know your future? Look at your thoughts. If you're thinking about lack, expect it to show up. If you're catastrophizing a situation, expect it to turn out terribly. If you're focusing on what's not working, expect more of the same. Our thoughts are soooooo powerful! They are the gateway to creation. So get out of your head and get into your heart and start believing in what...

An oxymoron? No. It's what's required to prepare for the next level. We have to lean into the discomfort and build our resilience muscles to move forward and succeed. Are there days I want to give up? Yes. I'm human. But being relentlessly resilient means getting up one more time than you're knocked down. Be blissfully uncomfortable and move forward. You are closer to your dream/go...

You work like crazy to accomplish a goal, complete it, and it isn't as fulfilling as you thought. You berate yourself because it's not enough and then set the bar higher. Sound familiar? Welcome to the formula for burnout, depression, and dissatisfaction. If we forget to celebrate, we don't get the dopamine hit that completes the cycle of accomplish. So we push harder thinking the next...

There is value in taking small steps towards a goal. They just mean it takes longer to get there. Big bold actions can be a catalyst. What works for you?

It's human nature when faced with insurmountable obstacles to want to give up. We believe we are incapable of the task or of solving the problem we face. That's B.S. - your belief system. In this episode, I encourage you to give up - but not in the way you may think. Enjoy.

Who do you spend the most time with? And are they a positive or negative influence on you and your life? We often go along with the crowd, preferring to fit in rather than stay true to ourselves and our goals. Let's talk about the company you keep and whether they support your goals and dreams or keep you right where are you are.

You're probably thinking "The chicken or the egg." Nope! Which came first - the thought or the emotion. The two are inexorably linked. Thoughts lead to emotions. And emotions lead to thoughts. What is exciting is you have control over both once you understand the link between them.

I'll be honest, last week kicked my butt. Crazy busy. Flat tire in the middle of nowhere (and my hybrid doesn't have a spare). A 3 a.m. trip to the ER because of a freak mishap. Felt hopeless behind on everything. I was down and it felt like life was kicking me. Until, I realized everything that happened had a "miracle" solution attached to it. I was able to drive on the flat tir...

A beloved extended family member who has since passed on used to answer questions with "Why not?" Whether it was in response to an offer of a piece of cake or an invitation to an outing or excursion, his "Why not?" response always brought a smile to the faces of those around him. John's joy and enthusiasm about new possibilities was contagious. "Why not?" is an an...

When life gets good, why do we sabotage the efforts we work so hard at? Welcome to the cycle of self-sabotage. It's our psyche's way of regulating emotions with an unhealthy pattern we have learned to distract ourselves from our imposter syndrome, anxiety, loneliness, or fear. Now, we can see what we're doing and create new patterns of behavior and healthy ways to deal with unpleasant...

Is being relentlessly resilient turning into a grind? It's time to call in some unexpected, delightful, surprises. As we bounce back from life's challenges and choose to be relentlessly, resilient, you may feel like it's too much, too hard, to continue. We've all been there at some point . This week I've had unexpected, delightful, surprises occur spending time with new friends...

How often do we delude ourselves by saying "I tried." In a conversation with Luke Skywalker in one of the Star Wars movies Yoda said: "Do or do not. There is no try." Yoda was right. You either do something or you don't. You either commit to something and see it through, or you don't. Try to move a pencil. You either move it or you don't. This is a great way to eval...

Sometimes life feels like it's too much. Our dreams are dashed. The one we love is in love with someone else. A relationship changes or ends. We don't get the job or the promotion. It feels like the world is against us and we are powerless. That's the time to dig deep, practice discipline, and see just how much grit and determination you really have.

Do we really have to hit rock bottom to turn our lives around? Of course not! Recognizing you have choices and can make changes ensures you don't have to hit rock bottom to turn your life around. Each choice has a trajectory that is either moving you closer or further away from what you want. Which is changing your choices or cleaning up the mess when your life implodes. It's a no brainer.

We have all heard the saying "practice makes perfect". But that's a lie! Perfection is an impossible standard driven by ego. If we strive for perfection we will constantly miss the mark. Instead, stive to improve steadily over time, and you will. When I taught piano, I asked my students to practice for just 15 minutes a day. Why? I knew if they spent 15 minutes practicing rather than...

Sometimes when we're discouraged, we want to give up. But when we do, our story ends. What if you decided to give yourself grace, feel the feelings, and decide to rewrite the ending? So often we give up five minutes before the miracle. Add a new life chapter by adopting new thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, and actions. When you do, you're adding to your story and allowing yourself to rewrite...

When you are asked to do something outside your comfort zone is your default answer "NO"? It's easy to turn down and new idea or activity. But when you do what are you missing out on and why are you rejecting the new possibility? Maybe you don't want to look bad or feel uncomfortable. Maybe you need more information. Or maybe saying "No" is a habit. When you know your n...

In a conversation this morning with my dear friend Mare, I recalled a time in my 20's when I rescued a drowning woman in a lake. When I swam out to her, she grabbed on to me and pulled me under, almost taking me out with her. I pushed her away and told her that until she flipped on her back and floated, I wouldn't help her. She finally did and I was able to begin to swim to shore with her....

Some days we're in a funk. We're not the best version of ourselves and we wallow in it. We have a toolbox full of ways to help us get out of this malaise, but we forget, or discount, what we know. In a world that rewards running ourselves ragged, one of the tools I avoid is rest. Gotta get 'er done! But how effective am I when I'm tired? Will I make mistakes? Yes. Will it take me l...

On the previous episode of this podcast, I encouraged you to get your ask in gear and promised I would not only do the same - I would report back about what happened. Wow! Just listen to what happened.

Ask and it shall be given unto you. The Bible makes that straightforward and bold declaration. It also says "You have not because you ask not." Whoa. What part of us is afraid to ask for what we want? To ask for an improved relationship, deeper connection, more money, a better job, respect. This episode explores what happens when you're willing to ask and make bold requests. Are you...

Focusing on what's wrong is easy. Looking for what's right? Not so much. But seek and you will find. Look for what's wrong and you'll find it. Look for what's right and you'll find that, too. Which would you prefer? Looking for what's right or what's wrong.

We live in a noisy, often chaotic world. Experiencing silence can be daunting. We are finally still enough to hear what's going on in our head - and that can be either good or bad. We've all experienced the awkward silence of a difficult conversation, or have had intrusive thoughts that invade when we're still. It doesn't have to be this way. Silence can be a powerful opportunity t...