American Sex

Great sex and mind-blowing kink must include clear communication and thorough negotiation. Sometimes, however, the process can seem impersonal and not very sexy. In this episode, Midori teaches us surefire techniques for laying groundwork before a sexy scene that doesn't feel like negotiation at all. She explains her signature engaged collaborative consent model, gives specific steps for flirtatio...

On Episode 71 Miss Quin opens up about all things clown fetish! What's the appeal? How do you find partners that don't think it's weird? What's behind the sudden popularity in clown porn? We also talk about her latest venture, Cam Girl Camp. The turnover in the cam world is high-- most performers quit within the first 2 weeks. Miss Quinn tells us the reasons why & what she's doing to change that....

Choosing a sex toy can be overwhelming. There's so many different types! How can you figure out which is the best one for you? This week we deviate from our regular format to spill all of Sunny's secrets for finding the perfect sex toy. She drops gems about sex toys facts and myths, determining which materials are safe, and how to figure out your body's specific pleasure response and match that up...

For our 69th episode, we talk everything 69 with guests Dirty Lola and Jim Marcus. Whether you're on #Team69 or not, you're going to learn a lot from their unique and differing perspectives. We cover positions for comfort, overcoming size differences, combating the distractibility factor, 69ing being a secret tool of the patriarchy, period sex, face sitting, the dominant/submissive nature of the a...

A findom is a dominatrix that hits you where it hurts most-- your bank account. If this sounds like a made up fetish or something highly unethical, it's actually neither. Mistress Harley, otherwise known as the Techdomme, is a high-profile findom. She's appeared on The Doctors and profiled in The Washington Post, Engadget, and more. During this fascinating conversation Mistress Harley demystifies...

Brianna Rader gives us a behind-the-scenes look at the sex tech startup world. It turns out it's not as easy as it seems. Facing restrictions at every turn and nonsensical business standards (i.e. promoting penile erectile solutions is allowed but discussion of vaginal sexual function is not), Brianna stopped at nothing to bring her revolutionary idea, Juicebox, to life. We talk about how she got...

Kevin Casters is a casting fetishist that lets us into his fascinating world. He tells us why he believes casts turn him on and how his fetish manifested, about the underground casting fetish community, the dominant/submissive aspect of casting, how much money he spends on his hobby, the different ways he plays out his fetish, what part of casting has sexual components, boudoir casting fetish phot...

This week BBW adult performer, Kendra Lee Ryan, shares her experiences as a sex worker. She's done various forms of sex work including dancing, camming, escorting, and adult films. Kendra tells us why she's so passionate about sex work, how it affects her own love life & libido, and what her most rewarding client interactions entail. We also discuss how SESTA/FOSTA has made sex work more dangerous...

Statistically speaking you're probably a Sex Nerd Sandra fan. Her wildly popular sex podcast has over 15 million downloads! You also may have noticed she vanished during the last couple of years. Ken & Sunny catch up with Sandra and get all the details about her upcoming Sex Nerd Sandra podcast reboot. Sandra also shares what prompted her hiatus and the important things she learned about herself w...

Body positive activist, musician, and Youtuber, Meghan Tonjes, tells us about the #BootyRevolution her very first Instagram butt photo sparked. We also talk about the good and bad in the body positive community, middle school bullying, dealing with online haters, how we're all products of our past experiences & traumas, the importance of telling your loved ones how much they mean to you, and more....

Hudsy Hawn is not your typical dominatrix. She tells us how discovering BDSM in her 30s after tragedy and divorce changed her life. Careerwise kink took her literally from Disneyland to the Dungeon. It also healed personal wounds in unexpected ways. Hudsy shares how these experiences lead to her hit musical stage show geared toward vanilla audiences. We also get a peek into the pro-BDSM world and...

Amy Jo Goddard specializes in women's healing & empowerment and after the week our country has had, this conversation is perfectly timed. Sunny & Amy Jo discuss the impact of age of #MeToo has had on various members of society--women, survivors, allies, non-binary folks, men, people of color, etc--and how our roles in it all intertwine. Their discussion zeros in on how these factors affect women's...

Intimacy Coach Stella Harris is a healthy communication rockstar and just released a new best selling book on the subject. In this episode Stella teaches us: what to do when one partner isn't putting in the effort, boundary & expectation setting in the early part of relationships, how communication differs for vanilla & BDSM situations, navigating consent without ruining the mood, sexual improv ti...

Dr. Chauntelle studies the sociology of sexuality and sex work. This fascinating conversation integrates the economics, ethics, psychology, politics, and marketing of sex--all critical components of sexual freedom we're not accustomed to thinking about. We discuss: Why researchers shy away from studying sexuality, how our social & cultural discomforts with sex permeate everything, Stormy Daniels &...

The folks from Black People Kink Podcast, Dominus Blue & jaemina, drop tons of gems in this week's episode.  They open up about their 24/7 total power exchange Dominant/submissive BDSM relationship and explain how the dynamic isn't so different from vanilla couples. We talk monogamy vs. polyamory; dropping the racial terms black & white for melanated & demelanated; why jaemina views her submission...

Science has never been so sexy! Adult performer, Fem Domme, and Infectious Disease professional, Bella Bathory gives us a peek at safety protocols in the adult industry. She tells us about the incredibly effective systems performers use to minimize STI transmission on porn sets. We also talk about HIV stigma. Last week an adult performer tested HIV positive and brought to the surface myths and bia...

Ken and Sunny dive into their mailbag to answer listener sex questions this week for their first ever Q&A episode! They cover subjects from vanilla to extra kinky-- erotic asphyxiation, electric play, blow job tips, orgasm issues, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships, desensitization from vibrators, how to go on after a good dick down, intro to BDSM, compromise in the bedroom, what to do with the b...

This conversation about sex and disability is essential listening for every human on the planet! Andrew Gurza helps us sit with and work through our discomforts around disability.  We talk ableism, inspiration porn, and the reason he chooses to identify with words most people find uncomfortable. Andrew tells us about his own difficulties as someone with cerebral palsy navigating queer spaces and d...

This hour with Amberly Rothfield is essential listening for anyone who's ever considered being a phone sex operator, telephone dominatrix, cam performer, or XXX content creator.  Amberly gives us tips from her book "How I Made $10k a Month as a Phone Sex Operator" (the electronic version is free right now BTW, get it!). She covers: working for services vs. being independent, how to remain anonymou...

minimus maximus is an experienced submissive and one of the hosts of the popular Off The Cuffs: A Kink & BDSM Podcast. We delve into the how's and why's of some of his favorite kinky activities like chastity play, Female Domination, cuckolding, CFNM parties, and extreme humiliation. He takes us through the most intense scene he's ever had (and it was a real mindf*ck!), we discuss why the BDSM life...

We sat down with BDSM & rope bondage superstars, Graydancer & Naiia, to talk about the BDSM "scene". Some assume this group is ripe with open communication, ethical behavior, and clearly negotiated consent because those concepts are cornerstones of BDSM. It turns out kink communities have their fair share of toxicity and inequity too-- just like most other social groups. Gray & Naiia share some in...

Typically women in the U.S. are on the losing end of an uneven division of labor. We are expected to give a f*ck about everything. This isn't only for those that are parents or in heterosexual marriages. These rigid gender roles seep in at work, in school, in friendships, etc-- even when we're consciously trying to break free of them. In this episode, Airial Clark teaches us How to Be a Woman And...

This is our jam-packed relationship episode! Dr. Jess zeroes in on the real issues we need to focus on for better relationships. She explains the chemistry of love and why things seem to go south after the honeymoon period is over, why taking calculated risks is vital to the longevity and quality of your relationship, how to battle the resentment and criticism that pop up in arguments, why address...

Jimanekia Eborn takes a heavy subject and makes it feel like a breath of fresh air. Overcoming sexual trauma can be incredibly difficult. Jimanekia tells us about her journey of healing from her own trauma and the work she now does with other survivors*. She also discusses the ways in which people of color can experience trauma differently and why. This episode is jam-packed with ideas for working...

Looking at Paul Fishbein you'd never guess he's "the porn guy." Fresh out of college in the early 80s Paul was working at a video store when he spotted an unaddressed need in the adult movie industry. He went on to found AVN-- the magazine, organization, and awards show otherwise known as "The Oscars of Porn." Paul shares stories from the heyday of x-rated moviemaking and the personal tragedy that...