American Sex

The most popular place to learn about kink is the internet. Social media platforms have become a wealth of BDSM information for newbies and beginners alike. While websites and pop culture have made kink more acceptable and accessible, they are also allowing potentially dangerous misinformation to spread like wildfire. On ep 145 Safiya Darling talks about the plusses and pitfalls of learning about...

Age players are not only often misunderstood by those in the vanilla world but even by the kink community. On ep 144 Mako Allen sets the record straight. Age play often involves tapping into a particular state of mind and vulnerability and he explains why this is so appealing. We discuss if and how age play might be tied to rewriting childhood trauma, the existence of dominant littles, what benefi...

What does it mean to be a switch in BDSM? This week Queen Ana Algos brings us into the world of switching. We talk about switch erasure--some people think switches don't exist, they're just confused doms and subs that haven't picked a side yet, or that they aren't really good at topping or bottoming because their heart is never really in it. Ana busts these myths and a lot more. Learn about switch...

After more than six months our COVID situation isn't getting better. While we may have started this journey as isolation superstars, the need for human contact is growing stronger. Sarah Sloane joins us to talk about how we can date in kinky, polyamorous, and vanilla situations. How do we safely meet new people? How do we assess our COVID risk profile and match it up to others with similar values?...

The way we perceive the world physically and mentally has profound effects on our sexuality. Sadly, this is something we rarely talk about. On episode 141 of American Sex Podcast, Catie Osborn discusses ADHD, sex, and BDSM. We cover adult diagnosis, how hormonal changes and menstrual cycle affect ADHD, why kink is appealing to neurodiverse people, how ADHD can affect libido and ability to orgasm,...

When we talk about "the kink community" or BDSM as a general practice, it's assumed these things have the same meaning for everyone. But do they? This conversation explores sex-positive philosophy & BDSM theory as we deconstruct the question, "What is Kink?" It sounds pretty simple but as we peel back the onion layers we find infinite answers. It turns out each of our subjective meanings of "kink"...

On episode 139 of American Sex Podcast Luna Matatas explores the practice of CBT (cock & ball torment/torture).  She busts testicle torment myths, explains the various reasons people are into it, and describes ways it can be done--from gentle sensuous play to extreme discomfort. Luna also gives excellent tips & ideas for perverting the preciousness of the penis and balls. Learn about cock bondage,...

On episode 138 of American Sex Podcast Marla Renee Stewart teaches us the art of teasing and pleasing. Learn about seduction learning styles, which are kind of like love languages for flirting, and how to use them to wow your partners. We talk about why determining consent style is key when flirting with new partners, how to flirt using technology during this time of social distancing, how folks t...

On ep 137 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with mother-son duo, Cam & KarenLee Poter of the Sex Talk With My Mom podcast, about what's happening with our sex lives in 2020. Some of us have lost our libido and others are hypersexual wanting to use every moment to explore new things. KarenLee & Cam tell us how isolation has affected their sex lives plus give tips for relaxing under pressure, opening...

On episode 136 of American Sex Podcast, we talk about the intersection of race and kink with Luna Matatas and Marla Renee Stewart. Learn how casual and not so casual racism shows up in structural, cultural, and interpersonal contexts in the BDSM scene; if and when the labels Master/slave are appropriate; and if race play is taboo in all contexts. We discuss the hypocrisy of claiming kink spaces ar...

What's it like being the Siskel & Ebert of porn? Find out on ep 135 of American Sex Podcast! Yvette d'Entremont and Alice Vaughn from the Two Girls One Mic podcast tell us how they stumbled into porn reviewing and where it's taken them. We talk about the plots and details of classic adult films like Behind the Green Door, Deep Throat, and Debbie Does Dallas, plus analyze how well they've aged. We...

On ep 134 of American Sex Podcast, we learn about pelvic pain during sex with Sophia Wise one. Vaginismus isn't the only condition responsible for painful sex and it can happen to people with penises too. Sophia gives us a fascinating pelvic anatomy lesson, tells us about the many origins of pelvic pain both psychological and trauma-related, gives us tips for connecting and relaxing this part of o...

On ep 133 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Madison Young about her transformation in the Anthony Bourdain of kink. Madison wrote, directed, produced, and hosted a new kinky travel TV show called Submission Possible. She tells us about the difficulties of filming during a pandemic and delves into the sexual subculture of her first stop on her televised traveling kink journey, New Orleans.  We...

On ep 132 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Diaperperv. This self-professed diaper boy groupie isn't into wearing diapers herself, she prefers to play with and discipline those who do. She tells us how omorashi (female urination desperation fetish) lead to her love of watching others wear diapers. Diaperperv explains how her role differs from a typical dominant, how diaper fetishes can differ...

In just a few months OnlyFans newbie, Savannah Solo, catapulted to the top of the platform's most successful creators list. On episode 131 of American Sex Podcast Savannah explains how her unique mix of comedy and boobs unexpectedly made her a social media sensation. Get insight on the comedic alter egos she plays in her video clips-- like Jim Jim, the stereotypical clueless client, and the 1940s...

On episode 130 of American Sex Podcast, Aida Manduley introduces us to attachment theory and explains how it impacts our daily lives. It turns out the way we connect in adult relationships is influenced by how we related to our caregivers as kids. Find out which best describes you--secure, anxious, avoidant, fearful? Aida also adapts attachment theory to polyamorous relationships, tells us how att...

On episode 129 of American Sex Podcast, Cecilia Tan tells us about an infamous post-geek-convention play party organized through the first online BDSM community, alt.sex.bondage in 1991. We explore how this budding virtual leather community went on to shape sex & kink positive culture and how other contributions of Gen X set the tone for the world we live in now. Cecilia also spills the tea on the...

On episode 128 of American Sex Podcast, we speak with Amy Jo Goddard about the challenges we're facing during isolation. Quarantine is pressing us to reevaluate our biggest life decisions-- where we live, our careers, our relationships. Although we have some commonalities, many of us are having vastly different experiences. It seems as if we're either on the verge of breakdown or unexpectedly thri...

Episode 127 of American Sex Podcast is a gamer geek and sex geek wet dream! We're joined by Sharang Biswas & his eo-editor who are   the editors and co-contributors of Honey and Hot Wax, an anthology of RPG games about sex, and Dr. Kit Stubbs, Founder of the Effing Foundation for Sex Positivity. We discuss how assigning sexual acts to game mechanics helps normalize conversations about sexuality, r...

On ep 126 of American Sex Podcast, Midori teaches us about sensuality and seduction. This pandemic has set the stage for us to revaluate our emotions, reset our intimate motivations, and really examine what it means to be an erotic being. Midori explains why seduction is the art of not just creating desire but also of being desired. She teaches us how to slow down, cultivate our sensuality, and se...

Many of us are sheltered in place with partners, family members, or roommates. Some are thrilled about the quality time spent with loved ones, others not so much. We're bickering, tense, and in some situations, the isolation is a breeding ground for abuse. On Ep. 125 of American Sex Podcast Dr. Chris Donaghue gives us coping and communication strategies we can use with people we're quarantined wit...

Health departments are now recommending we stop seeing partners that live outside of our own homes. So many of us miss dating, our polyamorous partners, sex parties, tinder hookups, dungeon playtime, and more. Many are even starting to "quarantine-dial" exes (stop that)! We're craving intimate companionship right now more than ever. In this episode, we give you safe alternatives for getting it on...

Does COVID-19 have you spiraling? Then DROP EVERYTHING. You need to listen to episode 123 of American Sex Podcast STAT. Kate Loree, LMFT dishes out practical advice for dealing with Coronavirus anxiety and gives tips for soothing distressed loved ones. Many of us are experiencing PTSD reactions from pandemic panic plus it's affecting the mental health of those in alt-sex/relationship communities l...

Episode 122 of American Sex Podcast is a wonderful resource for those curious about non-monogamy or seasoned pros with bumps in the road. Dr. Liz Powell and Kevin Patterson discuss  how the toxic monogamous ideals we bring into polyamorous relationships trip us up, give advice for poly breakups, and answer to the question "can you cheat if you're polyamorous?" You'll also get tips for managing res...

On episode 121 of American Sex Podcast, Sydney Leathers talks about her fallout from the Anthony Weiner sexting scandal. In what was one of the biggest political sex scandals of the last decade Sydney was cyberbullied, hounded by the media, isolated from family and friends, shunned by members of the adult industry, and slut-shamed by her own therapist. She tells us how she eventually came out on t...