American Sex

Why are dark, disgusting fantasies that are in direct opposition to our moral beliefs some of our biggest turn-ons? How can what's 'so wrong' be 'so RIGHT'? Mollena Lee Williams-Haas tells us what's behind this on episode 170 of American Sex Podcast. If your porn search history is twisted, you're not alone. Taboo kinks are quite normal. We touch on: why the BDSM community can surprisingly be the m...

Jaki Griot gives us the real talk on femme dominants on ep 169 of American Sex Podcast. In the kink world, they're often disrespected, devalued, and held to higher standards than their masculine counterparts. Femme doms of color, even more so. This undercurrent is present in lifestyle play, sex work, and community leadership. Jaki talks about their experiences both in the lifestyle and in sex work...

Polly Superstar is a sex culture revolutionary and she's also our guest on episode 168 of American Sex Podcast. Over the last 14 years her legendary event, Kinky Salon, has spread to 16 cities around the world. Some describe it as a sex party but it's actually so much more—theatrics, erotic exploration, an opportunity to embrace ridiculousness in the safe container of creativity and community, to...

Daddy play is hitting the mainstream and Luna Matatas joins us on episode 167 of American Sex Podcast to talk about the many flavors of this role-play. Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to engage in age play to enjoy the daddy archetype. It's not always a DDLG dynamic, although it can be. Luna explains why we find this kink so hot, the different types of daddy archetypes we can portray, w...

Last month, news of OnlyFans explicit content ban rocked the world. What was behind it? Were they sanitizing the platform to court new investors? Was their grand plan to exploit adult creators to grow the site only kick them to the curb once it gained mainstream appeal? Were payment processors pressuring them? And how were they able to reverse their decision so quickly? In episode 166 of American...

Kink trailblazer Midori joins us for episode 165. Now at the helm of the first Kink Informed Professionals Certification of its kind, Midori recently partnered with the Sexual Health Alliance to bridge the gap between BDSM and mental health/care professions. Once pathologized, kink has recently become a serious area of professional interest and study. In this conversation, Midori tells us how myth...

Ep 164 of American Sex Podcast is SHOCKING! Sunny talks electric play with Emma & Cass from the Honeydew Me Podcast. If you think e-stim is all about pain, think again! Electrosex devices are incredibly versatile. With just a simple setting adjustment you can go from a hardcore BDSM scene to gentle, sensual, hands-free orgasms! In this conversation, we start with the basics of TENS units and viole...

Ep 163 of American Sex podcast is jampacked with so many practical tips and insights for new & experienced kinksters alike! When Erik got into kink less than a year ago, he didn't realize how profoundly it would change his life both inside and outside the bedroom. Joined by his partner & mentor Catie, Erik walks us through his transformative journey of self-discovery. We discuss strategies for neg...

Kinky religious play is the ultimate taboo. But why is it so popular? Go on to any porn site and you'll find countless sexy latex-wearing nuns or roleplays that start with "forgive me, father, for I have sinned" and feature the naughty penance that follows. On ep 162 of American Sex Podcast Danarama and Arielle Aquinas explore why this kind of play is so popular, how you can engage in it without s...

On Ep 161 of American Sex Podcast, Justine Cross helps us navigate our emotions around getting back to dating, traveling, and attending sex parties in a post(ish)-COVID world. Although many of us are vaccinated and the CDC has relaxed social distancing guidelines, we're having unexpected mixed feelings about integrating back into our real-life sex-positive communities. Introverts that thrived onli...

You're invited to our puppy pile! On ep 160 of American Sex Podcast, Amp Somers from Watts the Safeword joins us to talk puppy play. This episode is your ultimate pup resource! Find out exactly why so many people enjoy this role-play plus learn what kind of gear you need, how to join community & who's welcome, how consent works when your words are barks, dynamics between pup and handler, switching...

Have an idea for a new sex toy design but no clue how to actually produce it? Let this conversation with Glenise Kinard-Moore be your inspiration! A couple of years ago Glenise was an average person with an off-the-cuff idea and today she's the founder of the lifestyle tech startup, SkiiMoo. Her flagship product, VDOM, isn't only a pleasure tool, it's also a groundbreaking gender-affirming prosthe...

The word "manipulation" has a very negative connotation. But is all manipulation abusive? Does it always have the potential to undermine consent? On ep 158 of American Sex Podcast Kitty Stryker joins us to analyze how manipulation shows up in sex, relationships, and kink. It turns out we manipulate a lot more than we realize and sometimes it can be for noble intentions. But what differentiates pos...

Syphilis is making a comeback. In the last 4 years cases have increased by 81%. On Ep 157 of American Sex Podcast Danarama joins us to talk about syphilis past and present. Learn about the stages of this disease, how it's treated, and how to protect yourself. Plus its long and tragic history, from its start coinciding with the genocide against the Indigenous Peoples in the Americas right up throug...

Did you know the average person has 13 secrets? On episode 156 of American Sex Podcast, Therapist Kate Loree joins us to examine the role secrets play in our lives. Find out: When are secrets good? When are they bad? How can we tell the difference? What does keeping secrets do to our relationships? Our friendships? Our physical and emotional selves? When should we reveal our secrets? And is tellin...

Ep 155 of American Sex Podcast explores the intersection of gaming, BDSM roleplaying, and healing. Guest, therapist Nicki Line, uses TTRPGs like Dungeons & Dragons in her practice.  Learn how playing therapeutic games can reveal how you approach relationships, experience anxiety, or become triggered. It's also a great way to explore hidden parts of ourselves in a safe way without real-world conseq...

On Ep 154 of American Sex Podcast, trans activist & content creator Rosalynne Montoya tells us about her journey of self-discovery. Seeing real LGBTQ+ people sharing their lives on YouTube was a lifeline for Rose coming of age as the child of a pastor in a conservative town. When she started sharing her own transition journey online, she became a role model for so many people with no transgender a...

On ep 153 of American Sex Podcast, Kevin Patterson & Dr. Liz Powell talk about the complexities of both finding a therapist knowledgeable about non-normative lifestyles/identities and becoming a therapist who is. Learn why non-monogamous people shy away from therapy, questions to ask practitioners when searching, and how to handle a judgmental or uneducated health professional or coach. Find out i...

Episode 152 of American Sex Podcast is jampacked with tips for fantastic fellatio! In our conversation with Carly S we start with the psychology of BJs-- does viewing it as a dominant or submissive act affect our enjoyment and technique? Also learn important penis anatomy, which lube is best, what to do with the balls, gagging, how to handle foreskin, deep throating tricks, how to combat sore jaw...

If you think the latest round of internet censorship doesn't affect you, think again. Social media TOS changes, Visa/MasterCard halting services on Pornhub, and Section 230 being wrapped up in our COVID relief bills affect not only sex censorship but everyone who uses the internet. What happens when sexual assault survivors can't easily search for resources because the word "sex" is no longer perm...

Rope bondage can be visually stunning. But many of us leave erotic human macrame to the experts because the prospect of doing it ourselves is so intimidating. Do we need specialty rope, impeccable technique, and the confidence to go with it all? No according to Midori! On Ep 150 of American Sex Podcast Midori guides us through rope bondage for beginners with items we all have at home. Learn about...

Butt play is for everyone. It doesn't have a gender or orientation. So many folks are curious but don't know where to get safe information. Who better to ask than a gay GI doctor who not only knows the medical side of things but is no stranger to butt stuff himself?! On ep 149 of American Sex Podcast, Dr. Carlton tells us everything we need to know about the back door. We discuss enemas, considera...

Whether it's for long-distance play during quarantine or to replace lost income using sites like Only Fans, more people than ever are using the internet for sex. Many are shocked when their accounts are shut down after using Zoom for a date, storing thirst trap content on Google Drive, or posting PG-13 content on mainstream social media. Why does this happen? In this conversation, Sunny Megatron d...

On episode 147 we talk with Bekah Rose about abuse in the kink community and in kink relationships. How do we most effectively deal with habitual abusers in our spaces? Is it always possible to make room for people that abuse to change and heal? What are the most common types of abuse we see within the kink community? In intimate relationships why is it so hard to spot subtle abusive tactics like...

In the kink world a mindf*ck involves ethically using mental manipulation to bend a bottom's reality. Whether it's the subtle twisting of details to enhance a sensory experience or an elaborate rouse akin to an erotic practical joke, minf*cks can greatly enhance kink & role play. On ep 146 Sir Ezra deconstructs this psychological tool. Learn why mindf*cking gets a bad wrap, what steps to follow wh...