All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind

Welcome to episode 120, dedicated to couples who are navigating porn addiction, betrayal trauma, emotional disconnection, or intimacy challenges — and who are ready for a deeper, embodied path to healing. Hosted by Katie Ziskind, LMFT, a somatic, sex-positive, kink-aware couples therapist and founder of Wisdom Within Counseling & Coaching, this episode explores how somatic couples therapy retr...

The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, laughter, and connection—but for many, it can feel overwhelming, exhausting, or even painful. If you find yourself dreading the holidays, struggling with family dynamics, coping with grief, or feeling isolated in your marriage or relationships, you are not alone. On this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, we explore the emotional challe...

In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy , Katie Ziskind dives deep into how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help couples heal from childhood trauma, C-PTSD, emotional neglect, infidelity, and deep attachment wounds. Feeling frustrated and exhausted, feeling stuck in repeating cycles of conflict, withdrawal, invalidation, and emotional disconnection? These patterns often have roots in...

In this deeply healing episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist, Gottman Level II specialist, and certified sex therapy-informed professional, explores the hidden emotional roots beneath porn addiction, alcoholism, infidelity, and betrayal trauma. This episode is for couples and individuals who are tired of surface-level advice like “just stop...

The Gottman Method is based on over 40 years of relationship research. It helps couples build what Dr. Gottman calls the Sound Relationship House—a metaphor for emotional connection, conflict management, and shared meaning. Trust is the foundation of this house. Every betrayal is like a crack in that foundation—but the good news is that it can be repaired, brick by brick. Gottman’s approach offers...

In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy , Katie Ziskind, LMFT, RYT500, Certified Sex Therapy-Informed Professional, and Imago Relationship Therapist, explores the deep emotional symptoms of betrayal trauma after infidelity or sex addiction. When infidelity, lying, or sex addiction shatters trust and breaks down your couple bubble, it creates deep emotional pain known as betrayal trauma. In...

In this episode, Katie Ziskind, shares how to shift from self-pleasure to real-life partner sexual connection. She shares her expertise in sex-positive, couples-focused counseling and marital coaching. For one, she normalizes self-pleasure as a natural, healthy part of sexuality but it can be self-isolating if there is shame, guilt, fear, or anxiety around it. If you are accustomed to self-pleasur...

Welcome to episode "113: How Avoidant Attachment Style Fuels Pornography Addiction. Sex Addiction, Lying, and Disconnection in Marriage - Rebuild Emotional Intimacy and Rebuild Sexual Intimacy Through Marriage Therapy," on the All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast with Katie Ziskind. Katie Ziskind is a certified sex therapy-informed professional, complex trauma and CPTSD specialist, and G...

In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy , with Katie ZIskind, we explore the complex, often confusing, and deeply painful world of narcissistic abuse. Narcissistic abuse can take many forms — from rage, aggression and explosive anger to manipulation like gaslighting, silent treatment, harsh criticism, and emotional invalidation. Many survivors of narcissistic abuse and emotional violence d...

Are you a wife, mom, or stepmom who feels like you’re constantly giving to everyone else—yet when it comes to your own needs, you’re left begging for the bare minimum effort in your marriage? Do you feel exhausted, tired, angry, frustrated, misunderstood, and unheard? In this powerful episode of All Things Love and Intimacy , I, Katie Ziskind—East Lyme marriage therapist, couples counselor, and se...

In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy , Katie Ziskind talks about one of the most common struggles in heterosexual relationships: when the man has a higher sex drive and the woman feels like her sexual desire has faded—or vanished completely. Are you a male partner wanting more frequent sex? Are you a husband who is wanting to support your female spouse in building a sexually embodied an...

Welcome back to All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind, LMFT, certified sex therapy-informed couples specialist and relationship coach. In this deeply restorative episode, we’re exploring the transformational power of meditation for couples , especially when your relationship is caught in painful cycles of fighting, disconnection, or emotional shutdown. If you and your partner are struggl...

Why do you and your partner keep having the same fight—one yells, the other shuts down, and nothing gets resolved? In this episode, Katie Ziskind breaks down how anxious and avoidant attachment styles, shaped by your childhood, fuel painful marriage conflicts. Learn how inner child wounds show up in your arguments—and how to begin healing them together. Are you and your spouse getting stuck in fru...

Feeling disconnected? Learn why mismatched sexual desire happens, how to reconnect emotionally, and reignite intimacy in marriage. Is your sex life starting to feel like another awkward item on the to-do list? Maybe one of you wants it more often, and the other feels pressured, touched out, or just... not interested. You’re not alone. In today’s episode, we’re diving into the quiet heartbreak and...

If you’re someone who struggles with high anxiety, perfectionism, or people-pleasing… and you’ve ever felt like intimacy in your relationship is more terrifying than tender, you're in the right place. If you’re anxiously attached, you may cling, overthink, or fear being abandoned. If you’re avoidantly attached, you might shut down, retreat, or feel suffocated by closeness. Trauma-informed ther...

Are you feeling alone in a marriage where physical affection and sexual intimacy have disappeared? You’re not broken — and neither is your relationship. In this episode, our sexless marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut unpack how childhood trauma, sexual shame, emotional neglect, and nervous system shutdowns impact desire. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel numb, overwh...

Many men first learn about sex through porn, which gives an unrealistic picture. It skips over emotional connection and shows women instantly aroused and orgasmic. In real life, this just isn’t true. When men carry those ideas into marriage, it creates confusion, rejection, resentment, and emotional distance. Porn doesn’t show a woman melting into touch after her partner tells her, “I’m proud of w...

Being a martyr might look like having sex out of obligation, even when your body is saying “no.” It might look like suppressing your needs for longer foreplay, slower touch, or emotional connection because you’re afraid of seeming “too needy” or “too complicated.” You might ignore your longing for tenderness, eroticism, or affirmation. And, you do so because you’ve been conditioned to believe that...

Emotional attunement is the heartbeat of a safe, secure romantic relationship. It’s the ability to sense, care about, and respond to your partner’s inner world—even when you’re the one who unintentionally hurt them. In this episode, "102: Statements to Avoid If You Want To Stay Married - When Your Partner Says, "You've Hurt My Feelings" - Stay Present Without Getting Defensive," of the All Things...

Start in intimacy focused and sex positive marriage counseling and coaching to break the cycle of a sexless marriage, low libido, and rebuild sexual passion at www. WisdomWithinCt.com You may try to talk about sex, only for it to erupt into defensiveness, hurt feelings, or silence. The one who avoids sex may feel like a failure, ashamed or anxious about not being "enough." The one who longs for it...

Compulsive Porn Use and the Foreplay Myth: What’s Missing in Real Intimacy? Pornography is everywhere—it’s accessible, free, and easy to consume. Many people turn to porn for sexual exploration, stress relief, or even as a way to escape emotional struggles. However, compulsive porn use can have significant effects on real-life intimacy, especially when it comes to foreplay and the natural arousal...

Have you ever felt the sting of betrayal, the ache of emotional rejection, or the deep loneliness of feeling unwanted in your marriage? Maybe you've experienced a painful fight, an affair, a loss of trust, or emotional neglect that makes it hard to open your heart again. The fear of being hurt again, the weight of intrusive thoughts replaying past wounds, and the anxiety of trying to rebuild intim...

In "Understanding and Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety For Men" on the All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind, we discuss how sexual performance anxiety is something that many men struggle with, yet few openly talk about. The pressure to "perform," last longer, maintain an erection, or live up to unrealistic expectations creates overwhelming anxiety/self-doubt. If...

Book a session at www. WisdomWithinCt.com to work with Katie Ziskind to improve your emotional bond, playfulness and sexual connection. In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy , we’re diving deep into how couples can maintain passion, excitement, and deep connection in their long-term relationship. Many couples assume that a dwindling sex life is inevitable, but the truth is, with intentio...

When you are struggling to recover from infidelity, cheating, an affair, or unfaithfulness, you need specific steps and guidance to do so. Katie Ziskind in Melbourne, Florida is a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in infidelity, PTSD, and betrayal recovery. The affair and lying have caused deep emotional wounds and severe heartbreak. When you have been cheated on, it is diffic...