All of You

The voice inside our head has a bigger impact on how we show up than we might realize. The way we talk to ourselves influences our behavior, the choices we make, and how we see ourselves. In this episode, we explore what motivates us, how shame can drive our actions, and why it might get us the results we want in the short term, but at a cost. Because there's a difference between motivating oursel...

Chemistry isn't just something that happens between two people. It's built through the little moments, interactions and experiences that shape how we see and feel about each other. In this episode, we explore what creates chemistry, why it can fade over time, and how the everyday dynamics of a relationship influence our desire and sex lives. We talk about the small ways we contribute to or detract...

The work you do on yourself doesn’t just change you. It changes your relationship, too. In this episode, we explore how our own healing impacts the person we love, what it looks like to work through things in real time, and how Dave is navigating some of his own challenges in this very conversation. We also talk about what it means to believe in your partner when they’re struggling, while still ho...

In this episode, we explore worthiness and how the question of whether we deserve the good things in our lives can show up in unexpected ways. From the things we have to the love we receive, we look at where our beliefs about our worth come from, how they follow us into adulthood and our relationships, and what it takes to start seeing ourselves differently.   READY TO GO DEEPER? If you’re ready t...

We live in a world that rewards doing, and it can be hard to slow down long enough to simply be. Between the to-do lists, responsibilities, and constant distractions, being fully present can feel harder than ever. But what are we missing when we're always focused on what's next instead of what's right in front of us? In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of living in a constant state of doin...

We all have subconscious patterns that shape the way we think, feel, and show up in our relationships. The tricky part is that you can’t change what you’re not conscious of, and staying conscious of ourselves in every moment is nearly impossible. In this episode, we talk about the messy, ongoing work of self-awareness and why becoming more conscious isn’t about getting it right all the time. It’s...

Inspired by Terry Real’s quote, “there is nothing that harshness does that loving firmness doesn’t do better,” in this episode we’re taking a closer look at why we can get so harsh with the people we love. Where does it come from, and why does it seem to come out most when we really want to be heard? We talk about the difference between being direct, being firm, and being harsh, and how our old pa...

How do you know if the work you’ve been doing is actually working? Healing isn’t always about feeling better or never getting triggered again. Sometimes the real results show up in how you respond, how you move through discomfort, and how you relate to yourself and others. In this episode, we talk about what it really means to measure your healing, how you know you’re growing, and why integration...

What does it really mean to be spiritually aligned? And how important is it to share that alignment with your partner? Spirituality can shape the way we see ourselves, our relationships, and the decisions we make, but being aligned doesn’t necessarily mean believing or doing everything the same way. In this episode, we explore what spiritual alignment can look and feel like, how it shows up in rel...

Doubt is bound to creep into every relationship at some point. Sometimes it’s an important signal that something needs our attention, and other times it’s our fear, uncertainty, or old wounds taking the wheel. The challenge is learning the difference. In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when doubt starts to take over. When we constantly question the relationship, look to our partner...

Social media has become such a normal part of our lives that it’s easy to forget how much it can shape the way we see ourselves, our partners, and our relationships. From comparison and jealousy, to how much we scroll, to the stories we create based on what we see online, it can have a bigger impact on our connection than we realize. In this episode, we’re talking about the ways social media can q...

Uncertainty is a part of life, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to sit with. In this episode, we’re talking about the uncertainty that shows up in relationships, career, and life and what happens when our nervous system doesn’t know how to handle the unknown. We explore how uncertainty can live in the body, impact the way we connect with the people we love, and lead us to seek control or certainty...

How do you know when it’s time to truly commit? In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to trust yourself enough to know that no matter what happens, you’ll be okay and how that changes the way you choose a partner and a relationship. We talk about being aligned in your values and what you want, choosing someone you’d be willing to go to war with, and what it really means to have an equa...

Sometimes in relationships, we’re simply not connected. And while disconnection is inevitable, what matters most is what we do with it. In this episode, we talk about why learning to be okay with moments of disconnection and resisting the urge to make them worse can actually be the key to finding our way back to each other. We explore what it looks like to give each other space without creating mo...

Have you ever felt like you've become one with your to-do list? In this episode, Shiv shares her own experience of realizing she'd slipped into constant "doing" mode, living in a state of stress instead of being present. We explore why this happens, how it impacts our ability to connect with the people we love, and what it looks like to slow down enough to actually experience the moments we're liv...

We all have needs in our relationships, but what happens when we start expecting our partner to meet all of them? In this episode, we unpack the pressure we can unknowingly place on the person we love, why it happens, and how it can create resentment, disconnection, and impossible expectations. We also talk about the importance of learning to meet more of your own emotional needs, recognizing when...

How you see yourself shapes every part of your life and relationships, but what if that view isn't actually accurate? In this episode, we explore where self-perception comes from, why so many of us struggle to see ourselves clearly, and how our past experiences can distort the way we view who we are. We also talk about how to build a more honest, compassionate view of yourself so you can show up w...

In this deeply personal episode, we share about the recent loss of our brother-in-law after his battle with cancer and reflect on what grief has taught us—not just through this loss, but through many others we've experienced. We talk about what it means to live in a season of grief, how to support people who are hurting, and why healing often looks different than we expect. If you're carrying loss...

In relationships, we often spend so much energy trying to prove who's right and who's wrong. But what if that's the wrong question altogether? In this episode, we explore why healthy relationships aren't built by convincing your partner to see things your way. They're built by two people working together to create a relationship that works for both of them. We talk about letting go of rigid expect...

We live in a world obsessed with self-improvement and optimization, but growth isn't always about adding more. Sometimes the most meaningful transformation comes from letting go of the beliefs, patterns, and survival strategies that no longer serve us. In this episode, we explore why healing is often less about leveling up and more about releasing what's been holding us back.   Ready to do the wor...

In this episode, we explore the role emotional bandwidth plays in healthy relationships and why timing can matter just as much as communication. We talk about the importance of checking in with your partner before diving into difficult conversations and recognizing that everyone's emotional, mental, and physical capacity shifts throughout different seasons of life. We also discuss what it looks li...

Relationships aren’t meant to stay the same forever and sometimes that leaves us wondering whether we’re being called to lean in, set stronger boundaries, or walk away. In this episode, we explore the difficult questions that arise when relationships change, needs evolve, and growth takes people in different directions. We talk about how to recognize when a relationship is no longer serving you, w...

Healing isn't a straight line. Sometimes growth looks like moving forward, and sometimes it looks like finding yourself back in an old pattern you thought you'd already worked through. In this episode, we're talking about what happens when healing feels messy, why regression is a normal part of growth, and how these moments can impact our relationships. We explore how to navigate setbacks with com...

Communication is one of the biggest things that can either build connection or slowly break it down in relationships. In this episode, Shiv and Dave have an honest conversation about what actually makes communication healthy, why so many of us struggle to express what we feel, and how understanding yourself is a huge part of being able to communicate well with someone else. They dive into emotiona...

Hard conversations can either create deeper connection or deeper distance  and most of us were never actually taught how to have them well. In this episode, we talk about the patterns that quietly sabotage connection during conflict and share practical tools we personally use to navigate difficult conversations with more honesty, accountability, and compassion. *For our Spotify listeners who enjoy...