Aligned Attraction

My husband and I have done some things in our relationship that made the people around us genuinely worried about us — and honestly, I get it. From the outside, it probably looked like things were falling apart. But what we were actually doing was throwing out the rulebook and figuring out what actually works for us , even when it went against everything we’d been told a healthy relationship is su...

After nearly 10 years of coaching couples and individuals through some of the hardest relationship patterns imaginable, I've discovered one single quality that I've watched silently destroy relationships — including my own marriage — and yet, when finally confronted, become the very thing that saves them. In this video, I'm getting deeply personal about the childhood wounds, unconscious patterns,...

After 10 years coaching couples, I started noticing a few surprising patterns in the relationships that didn’t just survive… but genuinely thrived. Not the couples who simply stayed together out of logistics or comfort, but the ones who still deeply liked each other decades later. The ones who made it through betrayal, grief, rupture, and massive life transitions only to come out even more connect...

The other day at the grocery store, my husband said something that used to trigger the living daylights out of me. This time, instead of reacting, I got curious. I asked him what inspired him to say it. What he said back unlocked something so big I had to come tell you about it. In this episode, I'm sharing the framework Ani gave me that morning. A simple way of understanding what's actually happe...

What does it actually take to create a relationship that's deeply safe, wildly passionate, and rock solid? Not just on the good days, but in the hard moments too? After almost a decade of coaching women in their relationships, and walking through my own marriage alongside it, I've come to believe there are really only two skills that separate the women who create extraordinary relationships from t...

A Conscious Love Story with Shalini & Oz | Relationship Goals, Secure Attachment, & Lifestyle Design What happens when a woman becomes the partner she’s always wanted—and then calls in the love of her life? In this heart-melting episode, I sit down with Shalini and her beloved Oz to share their real-life love story—a story that started inside the Aligned Attraction mentorship and blossomed...

In this episode, I’m sharing how ayahuasca taught me what men actually want most in love, and trust me, it’s not what you think. For years, I thought being a great partner meant being impressive. You know… beautiful, productive, healed, spiritual, totally “on it.” But the more I tried to be perfect, the more disconnected I felt, from myself, and from Ani. Then, during a recent ayahuasca ceremony,...

There's one major lesson I learned the HARD way in my relationship, and that's the difference between what I thought my husband needed, and what he ACTUALLY needs. In this video, I'm breaking down what I call The Masculine Trinity—the three things men want most in relationships. And I'm getting vulnerable about all the ways I used to get this completely wrong with my husband. If you've ever wonder...

Relationship goals don’t always sound sexy… But you know what is? A partnership that actually thrives . If you’re tired of fighting about the same thing over and over, or wondering where the hell this relationship is even going —this episode is for you. We’re bringing boardroom-level clarity to your love life… minus the boring Q1 spreadsheets (unless you’re into that). In this video, I’ll show you...

The One Thing Men Actually Need (That Most Women Totally Miss) Relationship Advice for Women | How to Support a Man Emotionally So your man is going through something. Work is a mess, his brother’s acting out, or he’s just in a funk... And you’re doing all the things to be helpful—offering feedback, giving advice, trying to fix it. But instead of feeling closer… You end up in a weird argument spir...

In this episode, we take you behind the scenes on of the calls inside our relationship school for women. On this call, we dive into the surprising truth about conflict in relationships—it’s not the problem; it’s the solution. Learn how to decode the deeper needs behind recurring arguments, take radical ownership of your part in relational dynamics, and transform conflict into an opportunity for gr...

Oh the sweet taste of victory after “winning” an argument, having the last word, or being RIGHT!  This is like sugary candy for the ego, but a mouthful of cavities for the relationship! In this episode, I’m going to show you how to actually win any argument with your partner (and also how to strengthen your relationship in the process)... Seems paradoxical right?  Tune in to learn: The 3...

The other night, I blocked off 6 hours on my partner’s calendar and titled the event: “King Worship.”  In this episode, I give you the play-by-play about how I crafted one of the most luxurious, exquisite and intimate night of our lives – tune in to hear all the juicy deets ;) I also share:  What relationships used to look like for me (when I was stuck in old thoughts and patterns) How i...

In this episode, I talk about the difference between how men and women like to be loved + what some of our natural responses are to not being loved in the way we desire.  For many men, respect is the MOST important thing to feel in a relationship, whereas for most women, we want to feel cherished, adored, and unconditionally loved.  That’s not to say that women don’t need/want to feel re...

No woman will ever truly respect a man she has “wrapped around her finger,” or “eating from the palm of her hand…” These expressions indicate a distorted power dynamic where one person – in this case, the woman – has a sense of control over and could easily manipulate the man she’s dating or in a relationship with.  And most times, if we want control over something or someone, it’s usually be...

It’s anything but easy to be with a dominant, masculine man… In fact, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done… Because I can no longer be inauthentic, hide, or try to get away with not reaching for my highest potential.  My partner calls me forth into the highest version of myself – the version of me that’s most joyful, most alive, and most turned ON! Walking the path to embody these things in...

In this episode, I share why having a Dominant/submissive or a Leader/follower dynamic works so well for my partner (type A male) and me (type A female).  For most of my life, I’ve identified as a high achiever, type A personality woman… While this was great for my career, it wasn’t great for my romantic relationships (with masculine men)… Secretly underneath all of my shining leadership qual...

For most of my life, I really like having the upper hand, being in control, and having a more dominant energy… It felt like the “independent woman” thing to do and the only way to be, that would actually ensure my safety… Little did I know just how liberating it would be to learn how to surrender and to consciously choose it inside of a relationship dynamic.  This has been one of my biggest p...

There’s only one guaranteed way to create the love life you want… And that’s exactly what I share in this episode… Plus 4 insanely powerful questions you can ask yourself each day (and before and after each date) that will help you attract men who will cherish and adore you.. And get closer to calling in your forever man!  (If you know you’re done trying to figure out love on your own, we’re...

Contrary to all the love advice out there that says it’ll help you “gain control over your love life…” That’s not what most women actually want.  Sure our ego wants to have “control…”  But what we actually want is to feel SAFE… Most of us try to engineer safety by controlling people and things outside of us… But that almost never works, it’s not sustainable, and it’s not what actually ca...

Babe, don’t make dating & love harder than it has to be… In this episode, I’m gonna make it super simple to understand, so you can have the love life you desire ASAP!  (I REALLY want that for you!) …And I’ll show you the ONLY 3 things you need to attract your dream man and create your dream relationship (as fast and as fun as possible)… The 3 things you MUST have are: You’re doing (the ri...

In this episode, you’ll hear me responding to one of the women inside our mentorship program: Aligned Attraction.* She shared that prioritizes pretty much everything else before dating, including work and socializing with friends… Yet, she wants to be in a committed relationship… You probably see the issue here :p Tune into this episode to hear how I help her deconstruct what’s standing in her way...

Girrrrllll, you better put a seat belt on for this episode, because Krista and Johnny take us on the wild, romantic adventure, where they share:  How they met + exactly what they did to attract and be ready for each other The time she blurted out she wanted a fat diamond ring (+ Johnny’s surprising response) How the Aligned Attraction Mentorship supported Krista in getting clear on and going...

Being in our feminine energy is NOT about… Wearing makeup and looking “pretty” Silencing our thoughts, opinions & beliefs  Being blindly submissive  In fact, being in our feminine energy is one of the MOST powerful places we can be… When we’re here, we: Feel deeply safe in our own bodies  Can relax, take a deep breath, and surrender Are connected to our needs, boundaries & d...

Get rid of ghosters & noncommittal men for good (here’s how)… There’s NOTHING that sucks more in dating than being ghosted or being told “I’m not looking for anything serious…” by a man you’re really into… And when that happens, you feel disappointed, powerless, and heart broken, because both these things seem completely out of your control… But what if I told you they weren’t? And that you ac...