After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

If you're a parent doing everything for everyone - and still feel like you’re barely holding it together… If you’re exhausted  no matter how much sleep you get … If you're doing all the “right” things, but are still snapping, numbing out, or shutting down… You’re not just tired. You’re burnt out. In this episode, we break down the real reason you feel stuck, and what to do about it. You’ll le...

If you’ve ever given birth, are about to give birth, or love someone who’s about to, this episode is a MUST. Deena opens up about how she’s preparing for baby #3, and this time? It’s not about a hospital bag or the perfect birth plan. It’s about mental health. Nervous system regulation. Self-advocacy. And building a postpartum setup that actually supports her. In this raw and radically honest conv...

You’re not imagining it: Your kid isn’t listening. But it’s not because they’re defiant. It’s not because you’re a bad parent. And it’s definitely not because you haven’t yelled loud enough. In this episode, we reveal what’s actually going on when your child “doesn’t listen” - and the 5 research-backed strategies that will change everything. You’ll learn: Why kids struggle to process directions (h...

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why am I so triggered by my child’s emotions?” “Why does this feel harder for me than it does for everyone else?” Or “How do I raise emotionally healthy kids… when no one taught me how?” This episode is for you. Kristin and Deena go beneath the surface of parenting and into the work most of us were never taught to do: regulating, repairing, and reparenting yourself w...

Stop what you’re doing—this episode will change the way you parent forever. Kristin and Deena sit down with the incredible Dr. Aliza Pressman , developmental psychologist and host of Raising Good Humans , to reveal the ONE parenting thing that really matters (hint: it’s not the perfect lunchbox, perfect summer camp, or perfect anything). What you’ll walk away with: The top thing that makes or brea...

What’s more controversial than politics? Parenting . In this unhinged, unfiltered, and unexpectedly heartfelt episode, Kristin, Deena, and Tyler go head-to-head on the most hotly debated parenting topics: screen time, co-sleeping, lying to your kids, SAHM vs working mom, and more. It’s hilarious. It’s real. It’s backed by science and sarcasm. And by the end, you’ll feel seen, soothed, and maybe a...

We grew up with food being labeled “good” or “bad.” With sweets treated like gold and guilt baked into every bite. With pressure to finish our plates and shame if we didn’t. We’re breaking that cycle. In this episode, we’re sharing 3 powerful ways we’re helping our kids build a healthy, shame-free relationship with food and their bodies: Why we don’t hype up sweets (no food gets put on a pedestal)...

What happens when you go from loving partners… to basically roommates with two screaming babies, no sleep, and zero support? This week, Deena sits down with her husband for the first time ever on the pod for an honest, raw conversation. Together, they open up about the silent resentments, postpartum breakdowns, missed expectations, therapy breakthroughs, and the rock-bottom moment when Deena said...

You’ve been told tantrums are bad behavior. That your kid is “too much.” That if they’re melting down in the grocery store, you’re doing something wrong. Let’s burn that narrative to the ground. In this raw, science-backed, and radically honest episode, Kristin and Deena unpack the real reason tantrums happen (spoiler: it’s not defiance), why old-school discipline tactics are failing our kids—and...

For 35 years, she was labeled sensitive, dramatic, weird, too much. But she wasn’t any of those things—she was autistic. And no one saw it. In this raw and powerful episode, we pull back the curtain on how autism is profoundly underdiagnosed in women—and why. We explore how masking, misdiagnosis, and outdated diagnostic tools have led to generations of girls being missed, misunderstood, and misnam...

Modern parenting is a doozy. There’s never been more pressure to be perfect with social media readily at our fingertips - mixed with total isolation and no help. Where the f*ck is that village everyone talks about? Consider After Bedtime your village. Led by Kristin and Deena - founders of the largest online parenting community, Big Little Feelings - After Bedtime is the place you can go at t...

Hi Big Little Besties! We were recently guests on the podcast Pop Culture Moms, and wanted to share it with you! Our friends Andie and Sabrina have been best friends for 20 years — and pop culture aficionados for even longer. On “Pop Culture Moms,” they’re taking their obsession with TV and movies to the next level by talking to folks like us, fellow “scholars” of pop culture, about what they can...

You know her from the *iconic* reality shows The Hills and The City , and we know her as a Big Little Bestie & rockstar mom! Today we welcome creative director, designer, and mom to 6-year-old Sonny, the one-and-only Whitney Port!!! No topic is off limits, and we cover it ALL in our convo with this inspiring mom & business woman. In this episode, we chat with Whitney about mom life, how sh...

Today on the pod we welcome Dr. Daniel Amen, an expert on brain health and mental health disorders. Dr. Amen is a best-selling author, a physician, an adult and child psychiatrist, AND a brain disorder specialist, who is making it his mission to end mental illness by creating a  revolution in the way we view brain health. In this episode, Dr. Amen brings a *research-backed* approach to help you le...

If you’re stuck in an endless cycle of yelling, threatening, and then feeling super guilty afterwards, you’re not alone. AND, today’s episode is for *you.* By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with an *exact* roadmap on how to handle those extremely common parenting triggers (your child’s crying, mess, whining) and find the right coping tools FOR YOU. Triggers will show up in your parentin...

We’re unpacking the very *best* and the very *worst* TV parents—from Mom Tiger to Lorelai Gilmore to Logan Roy, and everyyyyone in between. Join us, along with VP hype squad aka Kristin’s husband Tyler for an episode that is *sheer fun*, includes TONS of nostalgia, and also happens to be full of SUPER valuable nuggets of ACTUAL parenting wisdom. Highlights include: Lorelai Gilmore: national treasu...

Defiance. Pushback. Power struggles. They’re one of the hardest parts of raising kids, but we’ve got some great news for you—it *DOESN’T* have to be this way! Today on the pod we are going to teach you how to end power struggles FOR GOOD, starting NOW! Join Kristin, Deena, and their special guest, BLF’s very own VP hype squad (Kristin’s husband, Tyler), as they walk through the three simple hacks...

Struggling with endless battles over screentime? Not sure how to navigate the whole sharing thing? Going through some serious parent burnout? Then this episode is for YOU. Back by popular demand, today’s episode answers more of YOUR burning parenting questions! If you have a toddler or preschooler in your life, trust us, you’ve had to deal with allllllll of these issues we’re getting into today. T...

If you want to laugh so hard you pee your pants a little (us too) - this episode just might be our funniest yet. Kristin, Deena, and Kristin’s husband, Tyler, aka VP Hype Squad unpack the craziest, best mom trends that we’re all obsessed with. (Plot twist: Tyler is way more up on what’s *in* with millennial moms than Deena is.) Whether you’re a total trend b*tch (Kristin) or couldn't care less abo...

We’re busting the myth that labeling feelings means you’re creating soft or weak kids. Real talk: there’s a way to *do* the whole feelings thing and there’s a way to *not* do the whole feelings kid if you’re wanting to raise strong, capable, emotionally resilient kids. If your parenting feels gentle, permissive, or like your kids are walking all over you? Then you’re doing the whole feelings thing...

On today’s episode we dive into something that SO many of us agonize over once we become parents. We’re talking about optimal age gaps, how many kids is the “right” amount of kids to have, and everyyyything that goes into making those decisions. On this episode we cover: How many kids is the ideal number of kids to have? The ideal age gap: What the *actual research* says in terms of child developm...

Back by popular demand, today’s episode answers YOUR burning parenting questions! From parenting to the personal, join us as we get REAL and dig in on the rollercoaster that is raising toddlers. On this episode we cover: Helpful hacks for taking your kids out in public—and not having it be a total disaster Is handing your kid an iPad at a restaurant really going to ruin them? Go-to dinner ideas fo...

Today’s episode is a bestie catchup where Deena gives us the latest updates on her endometriosis journey. Join us as we catch up on how she’s doing after her endometriosis surgery and how she’s coming to terms with her *other* diagnoses. Highlights include: How her surgery failed from relieving her symptoms  Dispatches from a less-than-positive post-op appointment What exactly is adenomyosis—and w...

Today on the pod we welcome THE go to parenting expert in the research space: Emily Oster!!!! She’s a best-selling author, Brown Professor of Economics, data-driven pregnancy and parenting expert and is here to ease all of our minds about this whole parenting thing. On this episode, we chat with Emily on how to cut through the fear that comes with parenting, and help YOU make informed decisions ba...

Despite what our Instagram feeds are telling us, we actually DON’T need to suddenly become a whole new person the day the calendar hits January 1st. Sure, the new year is a great opportunity for reflection, self-awareness, and goal setting. And? It can also be a recipe for MORE guilt, stress, and pressure that we really DO NOT need in our lives! On today’s episode, we talk about why typical New Ye...