After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

If you're feeling like summer has somehow become another thing you have to nail” or do perfectly"... this episode is your reminder that you don't have to. Our feeds are full of magical summer moments, bucket lists, and family vacations that look effortless and picture perfect so it's easy to feel like we're not doing enough. In this hilarious episode, Kristin and Deena are playing “F*ck Yeah or F*...

If every family vacation somehow ends with you and your partner bickering... snapping at each other... feeling guilty because your kids are watching... and wondering why you spent thousands of dollars to argue somewhere prettier...Stop. Listen to this episode before you pack your bags. Kristin is pulling back the curtain on the exact couples therapy tools that completely transformed the way they t...

If your house sounds like a WWE match in a bounce house all summer long... this episode is for you. The arguing. The tattling. The screaming from the other room. The constant feeling that you've spent the last three hours breaking up fights and saying, "GUYS. PLEASE. JUST STOP." Most parents think sibling fighting means something is wrong. What if it's actually one of the most important relationsh...

If you’re a true crime girlie, stop what you’re doing and press play. Because this conversation with Dateline’s Andrea Canning is one of those episodes you’ll be thinking about long after it’s over. Andrea has spent more than a decade interviewing killers, sitting with grieving families, and uncovering what really happened behind the closed doors of seemingly “perfect” lives. In this episode, she...

Your kid won't sleep alone, melts down before soccer, refuses to order their own food, panics over mistakes, clings to you at drop-off and explodes when things feel uncertain. And every instinct in your body says, "Make it better." "Fix it." "Protect them." "Help them feel safe." But what if that's exactly where anxiety wins?? In this episode, Deena unpacks one of the biggest parenting mindset shi...

If you’re raising a strong-willed kid, this episode could change the trajectory of their entire life. In this revisit of one of our favorite episodes, Kristin pulls back the curtain on what it was like to be that so-called “bad kid” herself - and shares the exact 3 messages every strong-willed child needs to hear on repeat. Strong-willed kids get mislabeled as “bad” all the time. They push back. T...

If you feel like you’re drowning, failing, and behind on everything in life right now, this episode is going to change everything for you. Women are carrying an impossible amount right now. The schedules. The school emails. The emotional labor. The meals. The invisible planning. The pressure to be fully present with your kids while somehow also functioning like a high-performing CEO with glowing s...

If your child’s meltdowns feel constant. If you find yourself yelling, threatening, negotiating, or completely losing your mind over the smallest things. If you’ve ever thought, “WHY are they freaking out over THIS?” This episode will change the way you see tantrums and meltdowns forever. Because your child is not melting down over the banana, or the cup, or the pasta touching the sauce (it's not...

Why does your toddler laugh when you’re disciplining them? What do you do when potty training completely falls apart? And how do you parent the kid who feels EVERYTHING bigger, louder, harder, and more intensely than everyone else? In this Q&A episode, we’re answering the parenting questions we hear constantly — the ones that leave even loving, thoughtful parents feeling overwhelmed, confused,...

You are not overwhelmed because you’re bad at balance. You’re overwhelmed because you’re carrying an entire operating system in your head for running a home and caring for kids, and no one ever taught you how to turn it off. You’ve split the tasks, had the talks, been very clear about “I just need more help.” And still, you’re the one remembering, anticipating and managing everything. This isn’t a...

The episode you've been asking for is finally here : Deena's birth story for her third baby. And you're not going to want to miss this one. If you’ve been here for a while, you know her first didn’t go the way she thought it would. There was a lot of fear, a lot of not being listened to, a lot of trauma that stayed with her longer than she expected. Her second birth? Also not great.  So now,...

Deep breath, friends. This is one of THOSE episodes; the kind that starts off light and then shifts into something a little heavier, a little scarier, but ultimately really important. This episode was supposed to be Kristin and Tyler sitting down to chat about 10 years of marriage. The lessons, the growth, the things we’ve learned along the way. We even brought our podcast equipment all the way to...

What if the thing running your day… is your non-conscious thought patterns that are happening on repeat?? The same ones showing up every single day, silently shaping how you feel, how you react, and how you show up as a parent, partner, and person. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the 6 sneaky, unhelpful thought patterns that drag us down day-to-day - and how to actually catch th...

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses childhood sexual abuse. We share this with care, but please listen at your own pace and take care of yourself. Deep breath, friends. This is one of THOSE episodes - the kind that feels a little heavy, a little scary, but is incredibly important, because the tools here could change your kid’s life. In this episode, I (Deena) am sharing my own experience with...

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why am I so triggered by my child’s emotions?” “Why does this feel harder for me than it does for everyone else?” Or “How do I raise emotionally healthy kids… when no one taught me how?” This episode is for you. Kristin and Deena go beneath the surface of parenting and into the work most of us were never taught to do: regulating, repairing, and reparenting yourself w...

We need to say something that might make you uncomfortable: we are over-parenting our kids. We are over-helping. Over-entertaining. Over-scheduling. Over-involving ourselves in every single moment of their lives. And it’s not making things better. It’s making our kids less independent, less resilient, and less capable of handling real life. In this episode, we’re bringing back the parts that 90’s...

What if the goal of parenting isn’t raising kids who always listen…but raising kids who feel safe being fully themselves? In this episode, Kristin shares a realization that stopped her in her tracks: so much of her life has been shaped by the quiet pressure to be liked. To be the nice one. The agreeable one. The one everyone walks away from thinking, “Wow, she’s so kind.” From friendships to every...

This is one of the most vulnerable conversations we’ve ever had on the podcast. In this episode, Deena shares something deeply personal: her experience with postpartum depression after the birth of her third baby. What started as exhaustion and overwhelm slowly turned into something heavier, constant tears, crushing shame, and dark thoughts she never imagined she would have as a mom. If you’ve eve...

I’ll be honest: I have a hard time with the idea of kids on social media. And still… the reality is: Teens (and preteens) are being pulled into this world, and parents are left trying to make sense of it. So, we sat down with Meta to find the safest way to protect our kids in these social media times. In this conversation, Kristin interviews Tara Hopkins (Global Director of Public Policy at I...

If you’re raising a boy, this episode will light a fire in you - in the best, most empowering way. Because here’s the truth: The kind of men our boys become is not random - it’s not just personality, or fate. It’s shaped - day by day - in childhood. In how we respond to their anger, their tears, their mistakes. Parents are not just witnessing who their sons become; we are actively building the men...

If you’re a woman - or you love one! - this episode will change how you understand women’s bodies. Because here’s the sad truth: Women’s health has been built on research that largely ignored women. We’ve been handed one-size-fits-all advice for bodies that are anything but. And millions of moms are walking around exhausted, depleted, hormonally off, and wondering, “Why the hell do I feel like thi...

PBS KIDS is one of the only places in kids’ media that still feels like it’s made by people who actually  like children . It’s the show your kid watches and then… somehow… can still turn the iPad off without acting like you just stole their life force (because their programming is slow paced, based on research enhancing your child's brain rather than rotting it). It’s the content that teaches...

Divorce is one of the most painful decisions a parent can make, and there's one thing that's always top of mind when facing a possible separation or divorce: will my kids be okay? Today's episode will give you a big, firm, YES. And shows you EXACTLY how to move through this difficult chapter to ensure the best outcomes for you, and your kids. Because the truth is, a healthier household is the BEST...

For more than a decade, Scheana Shay has lived her life in the public eye, on Vanderpump Rules, in headlines, and under constant scrutiny. But while the world watched one version of her story, a much harder one was unfolding behind closed doors. In this deeply honest sit-down, Scheana opens up about the reality she was carrying while cameras kept rolling. A traumatic, life-threatening birth. Debil...

Most parents are doing everything they can to raise good kids, and still feeling exhausted, reactive, and unsure if they’re actually helping in the long run. So much parenting advice is obsessed with today’s behavior: listening, sharing, cooperating, “being good.” But this episode zooms out and asks a much bigger question: Who are you raising your child to become? Kristin sits down with parenting...