ADHD or life? - A couples perspective!

Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re getting properly real about money, impulsivity, and what it’s like when two people are trying to build a life together… but their brains (and spending habits) are on completely different settings. Episode title says it all: Is it ADHD or are we financially incompatible? This is one of our rawest chats yet. No fluff,...

Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re asking the question everyone’s been thinking lately… is it ADHD, or is it just a heatwave? We start off with our new setup, fancy coffee and new mugs, and Donna insisting on a cringey little cheers (sorry in advance). Then we get straight into the heat — we actually missed a week’s recording because it was so warm, a...

Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, we’ve got a proper special guest episode with Claudia Devonshire from Keeping up with the Devs (and yes… it’s as chaotic and funny as you’re hoping).  We get straight into it with Donna’s podcast voice, and then Claudia’s TikTok journey — how she started documenting real life chaos (including the iconic moment of Claudia d...

Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re joined by special guest Maddy Alexander-Grout — ADHD visibility coach, best-selling author, and creator of the Maddyverse. We get straight into Maddy’s ADHD journey, because for years she genuinely thought she was broken. We talk the stuff people don’t always say out loud: struggling through life, spending addiction,...

Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, it’s another Medication Special… and we start with Donna’s big news: she’s left her job. Adam’s main takeaway? The chocolate she got. So yes, we do ask the important question… is it all about Adam? We’ve had a proper rollercoaster couple of weeks, and Adam’s also decided he’s now a gardener — which obviously means he’s sta...

Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, it’s a full Relationship Special… and it’s an Adam takeover. Is he prepared? Absolutely not. Is he confident? Of course he is. We’re talking about relationships when it feels like you’re living in two separate timelines - like you’re just passing ships. And before anyone panics: we are absolutely fine. The schedule is the...

Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re asking a big one: Is it ADHD… or do I just find it hard to relax? We do a quick catch-up on the last couple of weeks: medication updates, impulse buys, business decisions, and the ongoing question of whether Adam’s office is actually ready. Donna’s also got a new job… and we have to ask the obvious: is Adam jealous?...

Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective , we’re back with Medication Titration Part 2 — four weeks into ADHD meds, and it’s safe to say it’s been… a lot. Big note (and we mean it): this episode is based on personal experience only, with no medical knowledge whatsoever. Adam takes over this week (because apparently he’s a natural) and we catch up on what the last...

Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it  ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective , we’re joined by special guest Paul Nightingale — an AuDHD content creator and events host who (in his own words) is completely “riddled”. Expect a funny, honest, and properly relatable chat about ADHD, autism, and real neurodivergent life. If you’ve ever felt like you’re smashing it on the outside but burnt out on the in...

Send us Fan Mail Is it ADHD or Do I just need a deadline? New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ and this week we’re getting straight into it… deadlines. The kind that magically turn you into a productive genius at the very last second, but also shave years off your life. Is it procrastination, poor planning, laziness… or the ADHD brain doing what it does best? This week A...

Send us Fan Mail Is it ADHD or Life? – Medication Catchup New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ and this one is a proper personal deep dive into Adam’s first two weeks on ADHD medication. Real-life updates, side effects, wins, worries, and all the stuff you don’t always hear people say out loud. This week we start by disagreeing on whether this episode should be called “p...

Send us Fan Mail New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ and this week we’re joined by ADHD parenting coach Lauren O’Carroll. Lauren supports parents navigating neurodivergent family life, helping families understand ADHD, manage the day-to-day challenges, and build homes that actually work for ADHD brains (not the imaginary “perfect” ones we all think we should have). We s...

Send us Fan Mail We’ve been away for a few weeks… but we’re back 🎙️ and we’re catching up on what we’ve been up to (cars, weddings, and the usual ADHD-filled chaos). But the big news is this: Adam has finally started medication. So we thought it was only right to dedicate this whole episode to what it’s actually been like so far, in real life, in real time, from both sides of the relationship. We...

Send us Fan Mail New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ and this week we’re doing an Ask Us Anything, answering your questions for both Adam and Donna. We kick off with Adam becoming “TikTok guy” this week. He’s been deep in ADHD TikTok and now he’s talking about algorithms and statistics like it’s his full-time job. We’ve also noticed we’ve got loads of American viewers/l...

Send us Fan Mail New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ and this week we’re asking a question that causes so many arguments in ADHD relationships… Is it tuning out? Is it inattention? Is it disrespect? Is it nervous system overload? We set up the core question: when someone doesn’t respond, didn’t register what you said, or says “I didn’t hear you”… is that ADHD, or are th...

Send us Fan Mail Is it ADHD or Out of sight out of mind? New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ This week we’re talking about one of the most frustrating (and honestly, relationship-testing) ADHD things going… out of sight, out of mind. Because it’s not just “oops I forgot” — it can look like forgotten texts, not noticing the bin overflowing, forgetting important dates, no...

Send us Fan Mail Is it ADHD or Life? Special guest – Suzi Payton New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ and this week we’re joined by the brilliant Suzi Payton (speaker, comedian, author and confidence coach). Suzi’s an AuDHDer who also lives with Tourette’s and OCD, and she brings a proper mix of honesty, humour and real-life experience to everything she does. She helps n...

Send us Fan Mail New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ This week Adam’s got his clipboard back (yes, really) and we’re asking the big question: is this ADHD… or is Adam just a full-blown control freak? We kick off with an update on Adam’s titration journey: more paperwork, more waiting, and the classic feeling of being stuck in the world’s slowest queue. Watch on YouTube...

Send us Fan Mail Is it ADHD or does everyone spend it like Beckham? New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ and this one is a proper funny, real-life reflection of what it’s like being a couple living with ADHD. No scripts, no pretending we’ve got it all together… just an honest chat that somehow turns into Amazon parcels, condensed milk, and a popcorn machine scandal. List...

Send us Fan Mail Is it ADHD or just Blue Monday? New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ We’re talking Blue Monday, why this time of year can feel heavier, and why ADHD can make it hit different (and harder). Before we get into the doom and gloom… we start with @Spacegoods!  It’s had Adam absolutely BUZZING for a week and operating at a level of energy that frankly isn’t av...

Send us Fan Mail This week on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective , we’re back on the imposter syndrome topic… but this time we’re going full ADHD with it. Because imposter syndrome on its own is rough — but add ADHD, masking, late diagnosis, and a lifetime of being misunderstood… and it turns into a whole different beast. Episode Highlights: Imposter syndrome through an ADHD lens: that fear you...

Send us Fan Mail New episode out now! 🎙️ This week on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, Adam is absolutely pumped on coffee and ready to go… and Donna brings the topic because lately Adam’s been dealing with a BIG one: imposter syndrome. After a huge magic show at Craig Tara in Ayr (a proper dream venue for Adam), the excitement quickly turned into that familiar feeling of “Who do I think I a...

Send us Fan Mail ADHD or Life? – New Year’s Resolutions! (Happy New Year from Adam & Donna) 🎙️ Adam and Donna are back with the first episode of 2026, and we’re doing what everyone does this time of year… talking New Year’s resolutions (and whether any human on earth actually keeps them). But first: Christmas with ADHD, the build-up, and the shock twist of the season… no meltdowns. Who even ar...

Send us Fan Mail (Final episode of 2025… and we’re going out strong.) New episode out now! 🎙️ This week, Adam and Donna tackle a big one: anxiety — how it shows up, how it overlaps with ADHD, and how it can look totally different depending on what’s going on in your brain (and your life). It’s the final episode of 2025, and we’re wrapping up the year with a proper real-life topic: Is it ADHD or An...

Send us Fan Mail We love our Good, Bad and Ugly segment so much...that we thought we'd make a full episode of them! We asked you to send in your stories, and you did not disappoint! 👌🤩 From late diagnosis, to Relationships, to ADHD at work - your stories got us thinking and talking. 🗣️ The ADHD brain works in mysterious ways, and we'll never have all the answers - but it's good to...