Actually, you know what

Mal and Steggy read MORE submissions from the audience - except this time, we're discussing Green Flags! From the lovely green flags that make us swoon to the overrate green flags that make us rethink the color assignment.

In this episode Steggy talks about the strange, quiet ways social media has changed how we trust, date, love, and connect. From DMs that blur the lines of loyalty to the pressure of performing a perfect life online. This is a blunt look at what it feels like to be human in a digital world. Steggy shares how social media has shaped her own relationships. How and how social media has made it harder...

Join us as we continue reading submitted red flags!

The coven has spoken! In this episode, we read and react to listener-submitted red flags straight from Instagram. We received so many submissions that we had to split this one up into 2 parts! Make sure to tune in for part 2! *Apologies for the uneven levels for the first half of the episode. We're still learning!!

This episode dives into the celestial signs of a healthy partner...the green flags that feel like moonlight. From reciprocity to health communication, Steggy talks about what dating looks like when the universe finally sends someone who feels like peace instead of chaos.

This week, Mal and Steggy talk about what made them cry! Which leads into a discussion about gentle men vs violent men. We explore the difference between men who lead with tenderness and men who move through the world with volatility, and how that shapes our sense of safety and trust. And, in true us fashion, the conversation shifts into a fully serious breakdown of our roles in a hypothetical zom...

In this episode, I dive into the chaos of modern dating, where nonchalant DMs and bare-minimum effort somehow became the norm..yikes! I reflect on how that culture has shaped the way I, and most of society, interprets interest, why genuine intention can feel suspicious, and how being used to intensity makes healthy pacing feel unfamiliar. I briefly talk about unlearning old patterns, relearning wh...

In this episode, we revisit the "What Made You Cry This Week" segment and explore some of our favorite relationship theories; the weird ones, the oddly accurate ones, and the ones that make you question everything you thought you knew about timing and connection.

Everyone keeps asking if I’m alone… but honestly? The quiet of my own galaxy feels better than orbiting someone who doesn’t see me. In this brief episode, I (Steggy) talk about celestial solitude and how people tend to confuse my peace with loneliness.

Mal and Steggy dive into red flags, karmic lessons, and why every ex seems to be a Libra. Mix in a little K-pop, cosmic chaos, and self-awareness, and you’ve got another episode straight from the stars

In this episode, Steggy wanders through the constellation of her past red flags, the cosmic kind that look like “potential” until they burn you out. From rescuing the perpetually unlucky to mistaking chaos for chemistry, she unpacks the patterns that kept her orbiting the same lessons. It’s raw and hopefully funny as she turns her heartbreak into a healing spell (with a pinch of self-roast). This...

In this episode, Mal and Steggy dive into their shared history! They go through the chaos, laughter, and lessons that carried them from their 20s into their 30s. They reflect on how friendships evolve with age, what it takes to stay connected through life’s changes, and how creativity became a grounding force along the way. Through honest conversation and humor, they share how Moonlight & Star...

WE'RE OFFICIALLY LAUNCHED! In this full-length debut episode of Actually, You Know What , I briefly unpack the chaos of my dating life - from moving to Chicago (and back) to navigating heartbreaks, dating apps, and the fine line between insecurity and trauma. It’s raw, funny, and real, with some honest advice for men thrown in for good measure. Because I'm nice like that. I hope you enjoy...

Consider this Episode Zero! This is just a short introduction to Actually, You Know What and me, your host - Steggy! This 16 minute episode will set the stage for what this podcast is all about, why I started it, and what to expect each episode. Grab your tea, wine, or whatever your vibe is and get comfy. This is the beginning of the beginning!