Actually, you know what

In this solo episode, Steggy talks about the "art" of saying no. What's the difference between setting healthy boundaries and letting insecurities keep us from showing up? From protecting your peace to simply avoiding discomfort, Steggy reflects on how she almost lost the plot of being a villager, which can be a slippery slope when it comes to friendships and community.

The horror movies conversation continue! We talk about underrated movies, underrated movies, the scariest movie we've ever seen, and more! From final girls to phobias, we try and cover as much horror ground as possible in part 2! Again - if you hear a movie being mentioned, we likely will talk about spoilers - most of which are old movies...but just in case! BTW - Steggy wants everyone to know...

Spooky season is FINALLY here! We split our horror movie conversation into 2 episodes where we dive into our favorite scary movies, ranking horror classics, share our hot takes, and debating which films deserve the hype (and which ones don't). From nostalgic favorites to unforgettable scares, we're talking all things horror just in time for Halloween! *If you hear a movie being mentioned,...

Not our typical happy-go-lucky episode. In this episode, we dive into the uncomfortable conversations surrounding sexual assault and victim blaming/shaming. From the pressure to fight back to the stigma surrounding not just fraternities, but men in general - we question and discuss why women are taught to fear men and these types of situations, yet are often questioned, blamed, and doubted when th...

The story continues, and we've still got plenty to yap about! Steggy would like to apologize in advance for how much she moves the mic - the girl cannot sit still! In Part Two of our one-year anniversary celebration, we're looking ahead to another year of Actually, You Know What?! with a little wishful thinking, some expected word vomit, and a lot of laughs! We're answering submitted questions, sh...

Once upon a time, two besties decided to turn their endless yapping into a podcast, and somehow here we are one year later! Join us as we celebrate one whole year of Actually, You Know What? We're reminiscing about how it all began, the little bits of magic we've created along the way, our favorite episodes, and the love / support that made it all possible. From witchy Etsy creations to he...

Mal and Steggy dive into even more MCU conversation as well as what Mal has been up to, our new girly craft nights, the opening of girl friend applications, how much time we've spent at the movies, and more! We're back, and we're comin in hot with at least 13 more episodes this year!

Steggy and Mal accidentally took a bit of a duo podcast hiatus - whoops! On the last episode (the Breakup) I (Steggy) mentioned we would be talking about how busy the Summer was - and here it is! From plans with each other, community, and work - to checking in on our physical and mental health - Summer was absolutely crazy and went by extremely quickly! But we're back! We talk about all the th...

No fun cosmic names for this one plain and simple - it's THE breakup. Sometimes the hardest part of a breakup isn’t losing the person, but rather letting go of who you thought they could be. The ✨potential✨ In this solo episode, I’m talking about the patterns I’ve noticed in my relationships, the line between being accommodating and self-abandonment, grieving aforementioned potential, learni...

Mal and Steggy circle back on their list of "hot takes" (which might actually just be lukewarm) from "too much" communication to the "bean soup" mentality. Take a listen and see if you agree or disagree with the topics at hand!

This week, we dive into the 2nd half of Love Island! We know reality TV isn't for everyone - but we can't help but be obsessed with this show! Don't worry, we sprinkle in some stuff about farts and people's behavior, too.

This week, Steph and Mal unpack the lessons hiding inside Steph's recent breakup without turning it into an ex-bashing session. From confusing chemistry with compatibility to learning what emotional safety actually feels like, they're talking about the patterns that keep showing up and how to finally break them. They also dive into trusting your intuition again, raising your standards with...

Making friends in your late 30s shouldn't feel like performing a full moon ritual... and yet, here we are. This week, we're talking about something that's been on our minds A LOT lately: finding your people! From unanswered texts to canceled plans and everyone seemingly becoming way too comfortable with being homebodies, making genuine friendships as adults feels way harder than we exp...

It seems like the ENTIRE WORLD is either watching the World Cup, Love Island, or both!! Steggy and Mal decide to dive into their current obsession - LOVE ISLAND! We talked about all things happening in Love Island up through Episode 21 - so if you have not reached that point, THERE WILL BE SPOILERS! Otherwise, if you love Love Island, then join us while we talk through all things happening in the...

Steggy and Mal give super random hot takes - some serious and some not so serious - to kick off their HOT TAKES episode editions, which we plan to do more of in the future! We hope to have specific themes like love, friendship, careers, life, ETC. If you have any suggestions for hot takes, feel free to send them our way!

Steggy and Mal continue their talk about Toxic Masculinity and dive into the movie Ladies First (Netflix)

This week, we're diving into a topic that's often misunderstood, oversimplified, or used as a buzzword: toxic masculinity. From the pressure men face to suppress emotions to the ways these expectations affect friendships, relationships, mental health, and everyone around them - we're unpacking what toxic masculinity means and what it doesn't.

What happens when something that once made you feel magical stops feeling like home? In this episode, Steggy (Stephany) talks about her relationship with cosplay. The creativity, confidence, friendships, identity, and internet /social media version of herself that came with it - and what it feels like to step away from something that shaped her for years. Is it really about costumes...or is it act...

Steggy and Mal dive further into friendship dynamics, including the question: what the HECK do male friendships look like?! Which leads us into toxic masculinity - which we'll be discussing way more in depth on another episode!

In this episode, we’re diving into the grief of losing a friend and the emotional weight that doesn’t always get acknowledged. From wondering what you did wrong to realizing how much of yourself you gave, we unpack WHY these endings can feel so uniquely painful. We also explore the different ways men and women experience friendships and why emotional vulnerability can feel easier in some spaces th...

Listen to part 2 of Christopher Gutierrez walking us through dating throughout the decades and even gives men dating today some advice!

From AOL chatrooms to dating apps, we’re diving into how love has evolved across the decades. Joined by author Christopher Gutierrez, we explore ghosting, swipe culture, and what we might’ve lost (or gained) along the wayBe sure to follow Christopher at @deadxstop AND check out the Catcade in Chicago! https://www.thecatcade.org/

In our first-ever video podcast Steggy sits down with Professional Cool Guy Benjamin Trust to talk all things relationships (vodcast available on YouTube)Watch/listen to us yap about everything from meeting Ben back when he and his now-wife were just dating, to how he balances a demanding wrestling career, fatherhood, and intentionally showing up in his marriage. We also dive into:• Private vs. pu...

Part 2 of the New Years Episode! Mal and Steggy discuss their 2026 goals, vibes, and predictions for the new year. What are your resolutions? *Apologies again for the audio - we're still figuring out the best method for now until we get the right equipment!

In this episode, Mal and Steggy reflect on 2025: the best of, the worst of, the lessons we’re keeping, and the energy we’re leaving behind. From wins we’re proud of to experiences that humbled us, we’re unpacking what this year really taught us and how it’s shaping our intentions for 2026.We talk growth, gratitude, mistakes, glow-ups, and the personal shifts that changed us. This is your reminder...