A Sunday Kind of Blog - The Podcast

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I've got a confession to make. It's been in my heart to start a men's group for years and I've failed. I've participated in men's groups and I've attempted to begin some in the past but I've failed in sustaining them. There was a stint where I was able to get something going for a little while, but then it died down. It's been frustrating. It's been discouraging. But it's been a learning experienc...

If you slow down, get clear on what you want and why you want it, then have the audacity to go get it, there is no doubt in my mind that you will wake up. You will feel the most alive you've ever felt. Awake people who are clear on their mission and purpose have a certain way of being. You know this because you've come across them. There's an energy in the way they do things and it comes out of wh...

There's a certain shape of uncertainty that's emerging on a macro and micro layer for quite some time now. I've observed this while I consume the news, scripted and unscripted shows I follow on TV, as I speak with friends and as I engage with coaching clients. If I were to sum up the sentiment into questions, they would be, "What if I lose my way again?" or "What if I drift off course again?" or "...

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In my 15 years of sales experience, one of my first gigs was cold calling outbound leads in the finance industry. The people I was calling were C-suite execs who had zero clue who I was, the company I worked for, nor how I got their information. In this role, I was given a daily goal of how many dials I should hit. Dial for dollars they used to say. In their minds, the formula was simple. In order...

Let’s consider the most beautiful, unforgettable, fulfilling experiences of our lives for a moment. Reflect on them. Tap into those memories. Allow them all flow through. Maybe one memory stands out from the rest. Put yourself there. Place the characters inside this memory. Recreate the setting. Tap into how you felt. What did you feel? Was it pure joy? Was it an inner welling up from a new layer...

I often get asked what it’s like to coach with me and generally speaking, the best way to find out is simply to just have the experience of it. To put forth a general articulation feels limiting when what occurs is so unique to each individual. With that said, it keeps coming up so I took a stab at it. Below is a recent email I sent to a potential client as a response to this question. They've alr...

Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of rejection. Fear of uncertainty. Fear of loss. Fear of death. Fear of being brokenhearted. Fear of looking bad. Fear of what others might think. Fear of what your partner might think. Fear of discomfort. Fear of stepping outside what you've known. Fear of being broke. Fear of your efforts amounting to nothing. Fear of being vulnerable. Fear of unrequited lo...

My biggest complaints these days are that all of my dreams haven’t happened yet. If I’m looking ahead and consider all things I want to happen, all the things I haven't experienced, all the things I haven't achieved, and all the work I need to do to get there, I get pissed. I get impatient. I get discouraged and consider giving up. The pursuit of your dreams can be tiring. And disheartening. Withi...

My daughter Maisie is 20 months old and she's a fierce one. The fun part about this age is the way they're starting to discover and relate with emotions. My wife and I have observed that our kids have emotions that are more accessible to them than others. For example, Maxwell (my 4-year old) can access joy, fear and sometimes a little bit of anger. Anger is not as consistent, but he can quickly be...

This is the tension I'm living in. In limbo between the incremental to the exponential. Four years ago, I answered the call of becoming a professional coach. I've stepped into it, played full out and held nothing back. I've invested more time and money into improving my craft and building this business than anything else I've ever pursued. It's required everything. Throughout the journey, I've exp...

Late last year, I came up with phrases that would serve as reminders and guide posts into my vision and priorities of 2021. If I was feeling out of whack or if I felt like I was veering off course, these phrases would bring me back home. They are the following: * Focus is Freedom * Pause and anchor * Create don't consume * Effortless but not easy Freedom is a high value for me. In fact, it's proba...

My mom grew up poor. She used education to rise above her circumstances. My dad didn't go to college, he used street smarts to rise above his circumstances. Growing up in the Philippines, I had zero clue what it felt like to live in financial abundance. In reality, we were living below the global poverty line but my parents made it work. My parents had bigger dreams though; for them and for us. Th...

A question came up during a catch up with a coaching colleague this week about business building. "Is it always going to be a grind?" She asked. And my response almost automatically was, "Grind is a state of mind." — There is a Scottish mystic named Syd Banks that changed the game for me when I learned about a framework he created called The 3 Principles. The principles of Thought, Consciousness a...

My Lola (grandma in Filipino), sadly and unexpectedly lost her husband in the 1970s. In his wake, he left behind five young kids with my mom being the oldest at 16 years old and my Tito (uncle) being the youngest at age 3. My Lola was also the oldest of 10 (TEN!) siblings. And if you ask all of her siblings, they would all testify that my Lola raised every one of them too. Needless to say, my Lola...

I'm obsessed with the mindset of a high-performer. I want to know them better than they know themselves. Within their reality, I am endlessly curious about the way they perceive the world and how they view themselves. What are their frameworks for success? I wonder how it serves them and I wonder how these same frameworks hold them back. In the last half decade, I've spent countless of hours inter...