A Sunday Kind of Blog - The Podcast

It’s right before 7pm in the Gomez household and I’m about to start the usual evening routine with the kiddos. I’m by myself. Mom has been gone every night on this particular week because of work and I’m left playing zone defense. It’s two on one. Depending on their mood, the kiddos are either super cooperative or anti-everything; and if it’s the latter, each step in the evening routine could be q...

I made a direct report cry at work once. In fact, it’s the only time I’ve ever made someone cry at work. As Head of Sales, I sat this person down during our 1:1 with the intention of getting the most out of her. I wanted to challenge her. I wanted to us to find out what she was truly capable of and in that process, I made her cry. As I reflect on this experience, I don’t regret the intention I had...

My wife and I were in college when we first met. She filled the room with her energy. Standing at 5’10, she was (is) absolutely beautiful, funny, magnetic, charismatic, warm and friendly. The entire room felt her presence. On the other hand, I was this short (5’5), soft-spoken, dude who grew up in the boonies and the only thing I had going for me was that I was a decent guitar player and singer wi...

You may have read my missive a few weeks back about leaders’ important job of holding space and carrying emotional burden . In reality, I think the most important job of leaders are 3 things: To practice self-care, to spend time alone arriving to a deep conviction of their vision, and to hold emotional space for their people. I could go on and on about the first two, but it’s the last one that has...

In his works, especially within the later years, Carl Jung posited this idea of “holding the tension of the opposites” . He observed, and was deeply convinced, that we will inevitably encounter circumstances in our lives with opposite energies. Jung’s challenge to us is to hold the tension between the two. For example, I was coaching an entrepreneur/investor a couple weeks ago who was considering...

In my early 20’s, I was heavily involved in a church. I used to volunteer 20+ hours a week! While it’s crazy to look back and think that I spent that much time with a church, I am grateful for the time I spent there. It wasn’t all rainbows 🌈 and butterflies 🦋 though. I volunteered my time as a musician and at one point, I became the lead worship leader. In the Christian scene, this was a big dea...

My first real job after college was with one of the biggest talent agencies in the world: Creative Artists Agency (CAA) . Talk about extreme imposter syndrome. How is this brown kid from a third world country rubbing elbows with some of the most influential people in entertainment? This was a completely new world to me and the behavioral norms were foreign. There was this one specific behavior tha...

“Conflict is inevitable, the source of all growth, and an absolute necessity if one is to be alive.” - Jean Baker Miller I am the firstborn of three boys. What that means is I was the guinea pig for my parents. They didn’t know their identity as parents yet, so they were just trying to figure out. I myself have only been a parent for 5 years and I know what this feels like. You’re fresh off a life...

“Are you afraid? Good. You’re in the great game now. And the great game is terrifying.” -Tyrion Lannister, Game of Thrones In 2016, I was promoted into the first sales leadership role I’ve ever had in my career. There were maybe a handful of us promoted into sales leadership and I was the only person of color in the role. Furthermore, all of my bosses were white males. I felt accomplished. And pro...

Photo by Alexis Fauvet on Unsplash We've all had that manager. The one that feels like they're going through the motions, or they're bored, or unfulfilled. Most of the time, they feel like they are just phoning it in. In 1:1's with you, they are not present. They are bogged down by all their responsibilities and you're just another burden on their list of to-do's. On the other hand, we've engaged...

Welcome to A Sunday Kind of Blog! Photo by Cash Macanaya on Unsplash Friends, after much deliberation, I decided to keep the name of this newsletter to what it has been: A Sunday Kind of Blog. I want to send you so much gratitude for journeying with me so far. Your email inbox is, in a lot of ways, an extension of you opening up your mind and heart to me. I am grateful, I am honored, thank you. In...

Photo by Alex Shute on Unsplash — I have impulsive tendencies. It’s a gift because some people think it’s spontaneous. And sometimes it is. It can be perceived as romantic. Like when I take my wife’s hand and dance in our living room in front of the kids. It’s also a curse because I end up making bad decisions, especially when it’s mixed with anxiety and/or anger. In my 20s, I committed a crime be...

Hey readers! I hope you’re resting well this weekend. If you read my newsletter last week , you’ll know that I’m on a reinvention journey. You see, I began a new career 7 years ago. I became a coach and I set out to be one of the best. I had dreams of working with business execs, tech leaders, athletes & creatives. I wanted to help them rediscover their original wholeness and well-being. And holy...

Hello! 👋🏼 I’ve missed writing to you and I do pray you’ve been well. When I wrote my last missive in December of last year, I mentioned I would be taking a hiatus. I didn’t anticipate it would be this long. A lot has changed in the world. Again. We’re in the midst of experiencing the biggest and most significant war in modern times. Inflation is forcing us to change our spending habits and it’s...

Hope. What stirs in your heart when you read that word? Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash Back in 2015, days before Christmas, my father-in-law drove me, my wife and my mother-in-law back home after a wonderful evening of dinner. Around the same time that evening, a young lady drove the opposite direction on the same highway as us, while under heavy drug influence. Driving at least 45 miles per h...

Christmas is my favorite holiday. Ever since I was a kid, the memories I hold dearest and closest to my heart are all from the times my family celebrated Christmas together. I grew up in the Philippines and in that country, Christmas lasted three months. Decorations would be up as early as October and there were these giant ornamental lanterns called parol , that was a staple Filipino decoration d...

Joy has been a deep exploration recently. I've given workshops about joy; I've given talks about it. A couple weeks ago, I also wrote about joy as a leading indicator to participate in as we pursue success. In my work with high-performers, we will inevitably come to a point in our coaching where we explore the true nature of joy. We question the possibility of how it might be the core engine that...

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Hi. 👋🏼 My hope is, as you open this email at some point on your day today, that you've given yourself rest this weekend. If not, that's okay. In this moment, hold the self-judgment. In this moment, suspend the self-inflicting narratives. In this moment, pause. Simply take a breath and pause. Be present with this time you are giving yourself to read these words and let it be. ... As we enter the...

Without full awareness, you are constantly participating in creative acts. Making a plan for the weekend. The way you’ll respond on that dating app. Your mission statement for your company. If you slow down and consider all the outcomes you are wanting to create in your life right now, it requires stepping into your creative capacities. To cultivate creativity, you must make room for playfulness....

My kids hate when water and soap get in their eyes during bath time. Maxwell, my oldest at almost 5 years old, doesn't hate it as much anymore. But with Maisie, she'll go bonkers if water and soap get in her eyes. We get around this by having her lay flat in the bath. She'll rest her head on our hands so we can wash the shampoo out of her hair like you would at a hair salon. No water or soap in th...

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Since April, I've been leading and facilitating a group for Medley , a startup committed to providing growth spaces for individuals who crave community. They create these experiences through a group coaching format. For a year, anyone who joins will commit to creating close-knit ties with the other individuals in the group. They participate in intimate conversations that they would not have anywhe...

At a depth our finite minds can hardly comprehend, we've collectively rubbed up against death more than I can remember in my entire adult life. I intentionally choose the word "collectively". By that, I mean we are going through deaths together. We are experiencing day-to-day demises through a million invisible cuts within the individual containers of our tribal lives. It's not our default to be c...

There is a deep hum inside of you that will provide wisdom, to know what’s right in the moment by moment unfolding of your life. If you practice stillness, this reverb within can become more and more accessible. … Five years ago I was fired from a job. There were a whole host of reasons why I feel that was an unfair termination, but I’m not here to play the victim anymore. I’m here to tell you the...