A Slut’s Guide To Happiness

In this light-hearted and educational episode, Foxie offers a window into the wide world of sex clubs. Her passion for play in club settings is infectious, and as a confident pansexual woman, she brings a breadth of experiences.  We cover questions like: What do you do at a sex club? How do you decide which one to choose? How do you get over nervous feelings and connect with new people? How d...

We all have moments in life that throw off our self-esteem, where it feels impossible to believe we’re loveable, smart, good, desirable, worthy. Those moments of self-doubt don’t go away, but we can breathe through them, lean into them, and find ways to get free on the other side.  In this episode, Roxie talks about her experience of deciding to come out as a trans woman, in spite of her ex-w...

From truck stops and city streets to hotels and OnlyFans, sex work takes many forms. Peeling back the stigma and silence around sex work, industry veterans Pixie Mae and Hannah, dish on some of their adventures. They share light-hearted stories, describe the value of sex work as a healing profession, and offer serious insights about finding and relating to clients, receiving payment, and staying s...

Swinging, or what is often referred to as “the lifestyle”, is the cultural practice of having sex with multiple people even when in a committed relationship. A subset of ethical non-monogamy, swinging involves partners’ knowledge and consent, and can include sex clubs or parties, as well as hotwife, cuckold, and full-swap play. Although this culture can be very sexually liberating, it also often r...

Sexuality is a basic human need, but in the dehumanizing environment of prison and jail, it is often prohibited, penalized or logistically impossible. After incarceration, a myriad of factors, including lack of experience, trauma from incarceration, and stigma associated with having been incarcerated can make it difficult for many formerly people to reconnect with their sexuality. Although Joshua...

Becoming your authentic self, especially when your authentic desires conflict with the values in your family of origin, can be an incredibly difficult process. Today, Lupin identifies as a queer man, exploring polyamory and porn work. This wasn’t always this way and we talk with him as a beautiful moment of transition in his life, as he continues figuring out his new relationship to these identiti...

Kink or BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism) is not just leather and dark dungeons. It’s also a way of relating to sexuality and other people, an opportunity to play with power, consensual pain, energy and roles. In this episode, Hannah shares the way kinks can not only heal specific traumas and fears, but also transform how you think about yourself and what is p...

If you Google “sex during pregnancy”, you’ll get a lot of results about whether sex is OKAY, and the general consensus is you and your partner can go for it. Fewer articles explore the experience of having multiple partners during sex and loving it.  Vanessa and Anna, two pornstars and slutty people in their personal lives, share this lived experience. They each discuss different insecurities...

We love you! But if you're in one of the states that has passed age-verification laws, Cliff Media, our women and queer-led porn production company, can't share our content with you anymore :( Usually, we love sharing sexy, silly videos that make viewers smile, feel loved, welcome, and seen. Unfortunately, today we have to share some tough news, and ask for your help.

If you’ve ever fantasized about being at the center of a gangbang, you’re certainly not alone! A study released by PornHub found that “gangbang” was the 7th most popular search term for women. Turns out a lot of us want to get fucked by a horny crowd. Roxie Valentine, a leader with Cliff Media, a women and queer-led porn production company, dishes on her recent experience starring in two gangbang...

In this light-hearted episode, two long-term slutty queerdos - GeeGee and Vanessa - respond to listener questions about sex, kink, dating, relationships, gender identity, and desire.  GeeGee and Vanessa are both involved in kink and swinger communities, star in and direct porn, and have had partners of all genders. Yet, their answers to many of the questions end up being very different, a rem...

Have you ever struggled to get or stay hard during sex? Loved or dated with someone whose dick stays soft? Been in a swinger situation where people with dicks in the room are embarrassed when they don’t get it up?  Both cocks that sometimes stay soft depending on the situation (e.g. with a new partner or during group sex) and cocks that are chronically soft (what doctors sometimes call “erect...

The average age of attendance at group sex events is typically higher than the average in the general public. It takes some bravery and self-confidence to step so far outside social norms and share sexuality in front of other people. Even for older adults, group sex can be intimidating at first. David shares how he grew after his first experience with a gangbang and learned to feel comfortable and...

“Complex personhood”, a concept from sociologist Avery Gordon, refers to the truth that we are all full of contradictions, neither victim nor perpetrator, neither fully wounded nor fully healed, always somewhere in between and both, stumbling as we search for ways to survive and thrive.  Sexuality is a huge part of our complex personhood. It can be a source of spiritual pain, destroying our s...

Porn and full-service sex work are often described as demeaning professions, something a person would do only out of financial desperation, trauma, addiction or coercion. Pixie Mae presents a more nuanced perspective.  Many sex workers have spoken out against policies meant to “rescue” them from their chosen profession. Indeed, “the right to not be rescued” is one of the 6 rights identified b...

In mainstream media, autism is often depicted as a deterrent to successful romantic or sexual relationships. Steph presents an alternate perspective: autism is a different way of thinking and being that can be harnessed as interpersonal superpowers. For example, autistic people are often highly empathetic, have a strong moral compass and are more comfortable with direct communication. Autism can a...

STI testing is the bedrock of a sustainable sex life, for everyone and especially for happily slutty adults. Most STIs today are easily identified and cured or treated. However, without easy access to testing and early detection, STIs can have devastating life consequences. Stigma, discrimination, fear, and lack of financial investment in preventive sexual healthcare all contribute to more difficu...

Dating in the straight world often comes with a lot of gendered assumptions about who takes initiative, in what ways, and what sexual interactions look like. Unlearning these assumptions can be tough when beginning to pursue dates or relationships with queer folks.  Although Orion has had anonymous gay sex for two decades, he is just beginning to explore dating queer people in the light of da...

Being silly is often dismissed as frivolous, inappropriate and childish, incompatible with adult responsibilities. But a lot of research shows that silly play can be a life-giving activity, increasing creativity, reducing anxiety, and deepening social connections.  While T.Max has always enjoyed being silly in playful hobbies like snowboarding and skateboarding, over the last few years, they...

For many people, polyamory offers a host of benefits, like sexual and emotional freedom, deep connections with multiple people, and an abundance of love. However, it’s not without challenges, like balancing time between partners and managing jealousy and expectations.  The transition from monogamy to polyamory can be rocky for people new to an idea that isn’t often represented in media and so...

When filming porn or exploring kink, like impact play, bondage, or humiliation, consent becomes more complex and nuanced than off-camera or vanilla sex. Hazel Havoc, a long-time pro-domme, pornstar and personal life kinkster, explains methods to ensure that all participants are experiencing BDSM and porn in a way that is positive and desirable.  Hazel uses a variety of communication strategie...

Please note that this episode includes discussion of rape and sexual assault.  Everyone processes relationship jealousy and traumatic experiences, like sexual assault, differently. Some people find that avoiding situations that cause jealousy and avoiding situations that remind them of their past experiences of assault help them remain emotionally healthy. While these strategies are useful fo...

Society’s dominant cultural narratives suggest that most couples would prefer the security of monogamous marriage. However, the explosive popularity of hotwife and swinger porn genres makes it clear that many couples, even straight married couples, have an interest in exploring more slutty, open relationship styles.  Orion Pax takes us on his journey of uncovering why he is so drawn to slutty...

Coming out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer was a lot harder several decades ago. Many people coped with the fear of unsafety by staying in the closet, resulting in the less often discussed experience of coming out in middle age or later in life.  While there’s more acceptance and support of queer lives today that makes it a little easier and safer for young people to come out,...

It’s super important to discuss regular testing and easy access to treatment for Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), but conversation about STIs usually stops there. Common medical advice usually directs you to abstain from sex for the treatment period. What they should really be saying is abstaining from genital-to-genital and genital-to-mouth contact.  Let’s get specific, folks. There’s...