A Blessing in Divorce

I have a great episode for you today as I will be speaking with Cheryl Goldhart who has been a family lawyer for almost 4 decades. You are going to walk away with so many great takeaways. But before we dive in there’s something else I want to share with you. You’ve likely heard me talk a fair bit about our retreat in Costa Rica. I just came back 2 ½ weeks ago and am still buzzing with what a life...

Changing your perspective changes how you see things and feel about them. It changes your thoughts about a situation which in turn determines how you feel about it. Our feelings inspire our actions and the things we choose to do which ultimately determines how our life plays out.  Yes, you are in control of your life. So by changing your perspective and letting go of old and negative labels y...

I am still buzzing with excitement, gratitude and something I still haven't figured out how to put into words, after running a retreat last week in Nosara, Costa Rica.  We gathered, learned, journeyed home to our hearts and souls. Each and everyone of the women felt supported, held, safe and ready to step into something new. And did she ever! We all left feeling our lives had changed for the...

Having dreams is important and so is knowing that you can have them. But first comes finding your dream in your heart and soul. We do this by connecting with ourselves, our voice and listening and then, probably most importantly - BELIEVING IN IT. I want you to know I believe in you. And as I share my dream with you in this episode I hope you hear and feel how available this is for you as well. I...

When divorce means dealing with family court it can really feel like you have no control of your life. I had a great conversation with Candace about resilience, and separating your healing from what's going on in court. You can't control what your ex, the courts and others are doing, but you don't have to wait with healing until it's over. That's giving your power away. Please scroll down for her...

I think we all agree that good communication is key to a healthy and loving relationship. As we exit a marriage lack of communication is usually one of the factors that contributed to the end whether it was lack of or unhealthy communication patterns. In my work as I coach women going through separation and divorce pretty close to 100% of them will tell me that poor communication or lack...

It's the day after Valentine's Day and the collective sigh of relief can be clearly felt, at least in my circles. So many posts about dreading the day and feeling sad for not having "their person". In this episode I talk about how there is so much love available for us from so many different places; friends, family, co-workers, new friends through groups like The Separation Club and more.  It...

Love - the greatest topic on earth other than perhaps how to make a lot of money. How to get love, feel love, stay in love, heal from lost love, find love again, love yourself, love others, receive love.  And then there’s the different kinds of love like parental love, partner love, love of mankind, love for friends, family. Love of life and self-love. So much love available to us and so much...

What a pleasure it was to speak with Aditi Loveridge when recording this episode for you. Grief and loss is part of life and the human experience. I first connected with Aditi when I came across her profile on Instagram and she was sharing for the first time about her separation. The way she did that really hit me and I dove into her profile to learn that she has, like I have, suffered infant loss...

Today I want to talk to you about finding our inner joy and achieving happiness while going through divorce and after. How do we define it and how do we achieve it? Because let’s face it - we are all seeking it. Also, let’s put some definitions in place so we know what we are talking about and we are all coming from the same place and so I can avoid being accused of toxic positivity.  And let...

Today I want to share something deeply personal with you because I believe you will be able to relate to it and hope that I can help you learn from this as I did. Healing from toxic relationships is not linear. It’s windy and bumpy. But honestly the lessons learned are life changing and transformational. And so worthy because you are so worth it. Embrace the hard lessons. Forgive, let go and take...

Today I am speaking with Shannelle Vogt. She is a former Miss Canada, a domestic violence survivor and by her absolute insistence also an overcomer meaning she no longer identifies as a victim of abuse. Shannelle has two beautiful children she is raising on her own, a supportive family and courage and strength way beyond her years. She shines with love for humanity, her children and herself and is...

Everything about leaving an abusive relationship is hard. The leaving, the negotiating, sorting details, sorting financials and co-parenting. And then comes the healing and letting go so you can create a new life for yourself and possibly invite love back into your life one day. Today I speak with Leanne about the legal side of this journey. But please stay tuned until the end to hear about the ne...

Did you know that at least 30% of marriages end due to infidelity? Overcoming an affair is a big undertaking. You have been deeply hurt and feel betrayed. Those are big emotions. Allow me to guide you through some mindset tools and strategies to start healing and feeling better. KEY TAKEAWAYS: You are here because you either are trying to find a way to get over this so you can stay with him or you...

As we are moving towards a New Year it is of course a time for new beginnings. But there is so much more than the New Year that is inviting us to open up to starting fresh even earlier.  Today happens to be the Winter Solstice which marks new beginnings; the days will start getting longer and this is the first day of winter. And in a couple of days we will have a beautiful New Moon. So this i...

Welcome to the holiday season fueled by high emotions and unreasonable expectations along with a sprinkle of Codependency - a powerful cocktail Join me for this important conversation about dealing with the Holiday Season, high emotions, expectations, family and divorce - it’s potentially an explosive mix to say the least. I will share important tips and strategies for staying “in your own la...

Welcome to another episode and to my very special guest Kim Basler who is a Mindset and Food Freedom Coach. As you may know in my past I was a women’s health, fitness and self-care coach so I know how impactful our inner body image is. Add a divorce on top of this along with aging, menopause a few kids etc and this can be a really challenging time for women who are heading out into the dating scen...

DO WE CHOOSE OUR PATH OR IS IT CHOSEN FOR US? So many choices in life are made for us when we are children and young adults, but then comes the day when you start truly making your own choices for your life. Big choices. Where to go to school and get an education might be the first one. Where to work. Who to partner with for life.  What if you get it wrong? What if you choose the wrong school...

Let’s talk about fear Fear of the unknown Fear of the future Fear of being alone Fear of finances Fear of missing your ex or soon to be ex, forever Fear of making the wrong decision Fear of judgement, failure and other's opinions USEFUL LINKS MENTIONED (and some other ones) : HUGE BLACK FRIDAY SAVINGS in our brand new Course Portal:  https://www.theseparationclub.com/course-portal Join o...

Contemplating leaving a long-term relationship or marriage?  It’s one of the toughest decisions you will make. And one of the reasons it’s so hard is because we have never been taught that we are allowed to choose to be happy even if it doesn’t make your partner happy. Are you feeling emotionally exhausted? Tired of fighting for the relationship all by yourself. Frustrated continuously giving...

I have known Dr. Amy for almost as long as I have been running The Separation Club. We actually met online but I don’t even remember exactly how now. We Masterminded with each other for a while and still keep in touch. I have always valued her very compassionate, kind and practical approach to co-parenting. She always puts the kids first but does so in a way that feels good for the parents. ...

How did my ex just stop loving me all of a sudden and how do I stop loving them? Love - the thing we all seek and want. To be loved unconditionally. To be valued and put above all others. To feel passion and deep love from  your heart and to your heart from another. But love is complicated and not as unselfish as we would like to think. It’s often transactional and weighed in more or less, mo...

Closure - something we want from someone else, but really only need from within.  So often a coaching session with a new client will start with "I just feel like I can't move on until I get closure". My answer is always the same; "Sure you can. What do you feel you need closure on? Let's figure out why you feel you need that and how you can give that to yourself.  KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM...

Develop Self-awareness, find your voice... How do you do that? Let me tell you.   Today I talk about developing self-awareness and figuring out who you are. Why that matters and everything that goes with this. It’s kind of the first step to a truly happy, joyful and inspired life. Which I’m guessing you would like for yourself. Let me first ask you this? Do you believe it’s possible for yours...

It was such a pleasure speaking with Eva. She cares so much about helping her clients understand and come to grips with the financial plan that will serve them and their family best. First, some facts about her:  Eva Sachs is a recognized expert in financial planning in divorce. She is passionate about providing clients with financial clarity, compassion and confidence at various stages of th...