A Blessing in Divorce

Therapy speak is becoming increasingly common on various social media channels, in daily conversation with friends and of course our life partners, spouses, friends, family members etc. And it's creating additional conflict during our divorce as we are in effect accusing our exes or stbx of abuse or any number of other dysfunctional behaviours. In some cases the abuse or disordered behav...

Today I am excited to share my conversation with Michele Traina on the topic of dating. She was candid and open with us and I am so grateful for the conversation which I think you will find fun and interesting.  Michele Traina is a stand up comedian and creator of Divorce Diaries, a national one woman comedy show and TV series in development. Michele has performed all over the country and mad...

There's a lot of conversation about the feminine and masculine energies. Understanding them is easy enough but getting a hold of why it matters can feel harder. Today's episode dives into how exactly we work with the divine feminine to achieve what we want for ourselves and our loved ones. It could be healing, more peace, abundance, love or health. Anything you want.  So how do we tune in to...

It has been exactly one year since I launched this podcast and I have spent a lot of time reflecting on this episode and what I want to talk to you about. And today it hit me. What I am offering you, my listener and all my clients and the members of my community Rising Free - is an alternative divorce. One that is peaceful and empowering and one that also creates a pathway for you to rediscov...

Think of a mindset as the pair of glasses you wear in your brain. These glasses shape how you see and deal with stuff in your life. There are two main types of mindsets: Fixed Mindset : Imagine you think you're born with a set amount of smartness, talent, and all that. If you wear these glasses, you might avoid challenges because you're scared of looking not-so-smart. You might not want to put in...

Why is it that healing from a broken relationship is so hard? What are some of the more unhelpful or destructive ways we try to deal with pain? Escape (into victimhood, addiction, distraction, despair which is a form of victimhood, also avoidance which is different than distraction) Unnecessary acceptance of suffering as a way of life Limited thinking and belief in happiness as an available feelin...

Not your usual or the planned episode... Sometimes things don't work out as planned, but I still wanted to say hi and share that with you.

Sometimes we have to be very deliberate about choosing to heal. It may sound silly but it's true. Actively choose to take a break from emotional pain like grief and sorrow, and to try feeling a little lighter for a bit. You have to do it on purpose or nothing will change. Join me as I discuss how. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Are you ready to live an amplified, purposeful and joyful life? I thought yo...

To live from love is to choose to love all that is. From the rising sun to the rising moon and everything in between.  It’s loving each other including yourself.  Love was not meant to be something to seek outside ourselves as it exists so abundantly within us. Our infinite capacity to love can overshadow our ability to receive love if we do not first acknowledge and unconditionally acce...

Ego work and healing the ego is about a return to your true inner being - a return to your heart. When we live through our ego we are living unconsciously and in some way enslaved to our limiting beliefs and fears. Join me as I talk about what the Ego is, how we separate our identity from it and then start living a more authentic life. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Join our next retreat at my quie...

To romanticize heartbreak means to idealize or glorify the experience of emotional pain and heartbreak. It involves creating a romantic or poetic narrative around the suffering, seeing it as a beautiful, profound, or necessary part of love or personal growth. When someone romanticizes their heartbreak, they may focus on the intensity of their emotions, viewing the pain as a testament to the depth...

Living a healed and happier life is a choice. A choice to leave the pain behind. A choice to invite in light, happiness, joy and an amplified life. Join me as I talk about how to do this in the aftermath of divorce and other life changing events. KEY TAKEAWAYS : Shift your attention away from that you’re broken and towards love . Suggested activity: Write a list of 50 things you love. At leas...

When our expectations are too high we will inevitably be disappointed. But it's also near impossible to not have any expectations in our various relationships. Understanding them, communicating them and managing them is key to successful connections with our spouses, family, children, friends and co-workers. And while you are here - also consider writing out the four agreements on a post it note a...

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ In the occasion of Pride Month my dear client Stacey Greger and I were finally able to sit down and have a candid conversation about the challenges and differences that exist when women divorce women. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ Join us to be heard or to learn how to listen and to better understand the many challenges, differences and similarities. And remember - love is love and we all need and deserve...

June is Men's Mental Health Awareness month.  Did you know that men commit suicide 4 times more often than women? It's time for us to stop just dismissing men as emotionally stunted and incapable and start creating a safe space for them to start expressing feelings and needs. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Invite the men in your life to share their feelings in a way that feels safe for them by...

This is not an episode about how to choose a lawyer or whether to sell your house now or later. In order to make these decisions we first have to choose ourselves, to trust ourselves and to know ourselves. Choose to heal, to grow and love yourself. Choose to learn how to do that. It all starts here with this episode.   KEY TAKEAWAYS: Each and every day, know you have a choice in how you spend...

You might wonder who you are without being part of the couple? Will you ever find someone else to share your life with? Will you ever feel true belonging again? And depending on the health of your relationship you might even question if you ever felt of value or were ever loved for who you are. So many questions and the answers can feel very elusive especially if you haven’t been asking yours...

  Self-Care ~ Something good YOU DO FOR YOU. And it matters. More than anything else if you ask me. This is what helps you heal and grow. This is how you connect with your voice and inner light. This is how you learn to love and trust again. Self-care is your path back to you and you deserve this! There are three areas of healing and self-care: Physical  Emotional Spiritual Physical self...

What does that even mean you ask? Think of it as doing things and making decisions based on your value system, your beliefs and what is right for you. During a divorce process we have to make decisions that have huge impact. Things like where you are going to live, how to split money and parenting agreements. How are you supposed to make these decisions when you are over the top emotional and angr...

  Navigating and preparing for special days, holidays etc can be triggering especially in the first year since separating.  I am sharing some of my learnings with you to help you have a lovely day with your kids if that is what you want. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Managing our expectations. Helping our kids do what they want for us. Help someone else’s kids (ie single moms you know) - perhaps an exc...

Join myself and my Jen Couto as we have an impromptu conversation about unconditional love, letting our feelings and ego take over and so much more.  You might want to grab your journal and a pen to write down some of the inquiry questions you can use to do this work with us. Living in our feelings is not all bad of course - on the contrary. We have to feel our feelings. It's how we lear...

Living from a place of Integrity is not about being better than others or elevating ourselves above anyone. It’s about honesty. A deep and honest truth about who you are - the good and the not so good - and what you want out of life as well as what you are willing to give. Choosing integrity and living into it as a core value isn’t always easy. In fact the easy part, in my opinion, is the honesty...

KEY TAKEAWAYS: Your social media channels/accounts might not be as private as you think so use this as an incentive to do a huge privacy overhaul on all your social media channels or even better - remove yourself until you know you can handle what you might see and read and you know you will not do an emotional dump things that really shouldn’t be discussed with friends, neighbours and acquaintanc...

Showing up for yourself and your kids means taking a leadership role in our personal lives.  I think too often we expect others to come in and save the day but the very fact that you are getting a divorce means that “your person” is no longer there for you. So we need to show up for ourselves. Usually when we think of being a leader it’s in a work environment or on a project.  Well, this...

Today I invite you to join me for a conversation about faith. And it doesn't matter what you believe in, even if it’s nothing - I know you will benefit from this conversation. When going through a crisis people often reach for something they believe in or they search for something to believe in to help them understand why and what and also to help them heal.  It could be that they a...