A Blessing in Divorce

Divorce is not something you should go through alone. It's hard enough and it's too isolating if you try. Today I talk about why and how to find your people, your tribe, sisters and build the village you need to get through this. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Join our vibrant and wonderful membership community and start building your village. And for a limited time you can get a free month! https://www...

Get a FREE MONTH inside Rising Free starting today. Let's do the work to head into 2024 with a whole new set of skills and beliefs and excitement for the future. Here's the link to get the free month: (below in the link list you'll find the option to purchase only one month)  https://www.theseparationclub.com/offers/2qyxzDMn 💖💖💖 What are the beliefs you created about yourself to survi...

I know it is so tempting, but make sure you are very clear and honest with yourself about why you are doing it and what your objective is. The last thing you want is to walk away feeling like you gave her all your power and that can happen more easily than you might think. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE We have a vibrant and wonderful membership community and we are currently accepting new members....

This is the first time I have recorded a live coaching session and shared it here with you. I am so grateful to Michele Traina for her trust in me and for allowing me to share her journey with all of us.  Michele Traina is a stand up comedian and creator of Divorce Diaries, a national one woman comedy show and TV series in development. Michele has performed all over the country and made...

Remember Dorothy in the Wizard of OZ and The Yellow Brick Road? To this day we still talk about 'the yellow brick road' because it represents strategy —how you will get there; the path you identify as the best, smartest way to accomplish your goal . And each of the shiny yellow bricks in the road represents an action step, an experience or lesson on the journey .   Divorce is a journey....

  I know this might an unpopular opinion, but here's the thing - most couples when they "finally" agree to go to marriage counseling as a last ditch effort to save a marriage, rarely agree on the necessity of it and are likely not being totally honest with themselves about why they want to go. So, it's time to look at things a little differently, to change perspective and ask y...

Therapy speak is becoming increasingly common on various social media channels, in daily conversation with friends and of course our life partners, spouses, friends, family members etc. And it's creating additional conflict during our divorce as we are in effect accusing our exes or stbx of abuse or any number of other dysfunctional behaviours. In some cases the abuse or disordered behav...

Today I am excited to share my conversation with Michele Traina on the topic of dating. She was candid and open with us and I am so grateful for the conversation which I think you will find fun and interesting.  Michele Traina is a stand up comedian and creator of Divorce Diaries, a national one woman comedy show and TV series in development. Michele has performed all over the country and mad...

There's a lot of conversation about the feminine and masculine energies. Understanding them is easy enough but getting a hold of why it matters can feel harder. Today's episode dives into how exactly we work with the divine feminine to achieve what we want for ourselves and our loved ones. It could be healing, more peace, abundance, love or health. Anything you want.  So how do we tune in to...

It has been exactly one year since I launched this podcast and I have spent a lot of time reflecting on this episode and what I want to talk to you about. And today it hit me. What I am offering you, my listener and all my clients and the members of my community Rising Free - is an alternative divorce. One that is peaceful and empowering and one that also creates a pathway for you to rediscov...

Think of a mindset as the pair of glasses you wear in your brain. These glasses shape how you see and deal with stuff in your life. There are two main types of mindsets: Fixed Mindset : Imagine you think you're born with a set amount of smartness, talent, and all that. If you wear these glasses, you might avoid challenges because you're scared of looking not-so-smart. You might not want to put in...

Why is it that healing from a broken relationship is so hard? What are some of the more unhelpful or destructive ways we try to deal with pain? Escape (into victimhood, addiction, distraction, despair which is a form of victimhood, also avoidance which is different than distraction) Unnecessary acceptance of suffering as a way of life Limited thinking and belief in happiness as an available feelin...

Not your usual or the planned episode... Sometimes things don't work out as planned, but I still wanted to say hi and share that with you.

Sometimes we have to be very deliberate about choosing to heal. It may sound silly but it's true. Actively choose to take a break from emotional pain like grief and sorrow, and to try feeling a little lighter for a bit. You have to do it on purpose or nothing will change. Join me as I discuss how. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Are you ready to live an amplified, purposeful and joyful life? I thought yo...

To live from love is to choose to love all that is. From the rising sun to the rising moon and everything in between.  It’s loving each other including yourself.  Love was not meant to be something to seek outside ourselves as it exists so abundantly within us. Our infinite capacity to love can overshadow our ability to receive love if we do not first acknowledge and unconditionally acce...

Ego work and healing the ego is about a return to your true inner being - a return to your heart. When we live through our ego we are living unconsciously and in some way enslaved to our limiting beliefs and fears. Join me as I talk about what the Ego is, how we separate our identity from it and then start living a more authentic life. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Join our next retreat at my quie...

To romanticize heartbreak means to idealize or glorify the experience of emotional pain and heartbreak. It involves creating a romantic or poetic narrative around the suffering, seeing it as a beautiful, profound, or necessary part of love or personal growth. When someone romanticizes their heartbreak, they may focus on the intensity of their emotions, viewing the pain as a testament to the depth...

Living a healed and happier life is a choice. A choice to leave the pain behind. A choice to invite in light, happiness, joy and an amplified life. Join me as I talk about how to do this in the aftermath of divorce and other life changing events. KEY TAKEAWAYS : Shift your attention away from that you’re broken and towards love . Suggested activity: Write a list of 50 things you love. At leas...

When our expectations are too high we will inevitably be disappointed. But it's also near impossible to not have any expectations in our various relationships. Understanding them, communicating them and managing them is key to successful connections with our spouses, family, children, friends and co-workers. And while you are here - also consider writing out the four agreements on a post it note a...

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ In the occasion of Pride Month my dear client Stacey Greger and I were finally able to sit down and have a candid conversation about the challenges and differences that exist when women divorce women. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ Join us to be heard or to learn how to listen and to better understand the many challenges, differences and similarities. And remember - love is love and we all need and deserve...

June is Men's Mental Health Awareness month.  Did you know that men commit suicide 4 times more often than women? It's time for us to stop just dismissing men as emotionally stunted and incapable and start creating a safe space for them to start expressing feelings and needs. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Invite the men in your life to share their feelings in a way that feels safe for them by...

This is not an episode about how to choose a lawyer or whether to sell your house now or later. In order to make these decisions we first have to choose ourselves, to trust ourselves and to know ourselves. Choose to heal, to grow and love yourself. Choose to learn how to do that. It all starts here with this episode.   KEY TAKEAWAYS: Each and every day, know you have a choice in how you spend...

You might wonder who you are without being part of the couple? Will you ever find someone else to share your life with? Will you ever feel true belonging again? And depending on the health of your relationship you might even question if you ever felt of value or were ever loved for who you are. So many questions and the answers can feel very elusive especially if you haven’t been asking yours...

  Self-Care ~ Something good YOU DO FOR YOU. And it matters. More than anything else if you ask me. This is what helps you heal and grow. This is how you connect with your voice and inner light. This is how you learn to love and trust again. Self-care is your path back to you and you deserve this! There are three areas of healing and self-care: Physical  Emotional Spiritual Physical self...

What does that even mean you ask? Think of it as doing things and making decisions based on your value system, your beliefs and what is right for you. During a divorce process we have to make decisions that have huge impact. Things like where you are going to live, how to split money and parenting agreements. How are you supposed to make these decisions when you are over the top emotional and angr...