A Blessing in Divorce

Grief after a divorce can be particularly intense and persistent, and many people find themselves stuck in their grief and ruminating on the past for several reasons. Loss of Identity Emotional Attachment Unresolved Issues Fear of the Future Habitual Thinking Patterns Societal and Cultural Influences   LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE The Healing Heart:   https://www.theseparationclub.com/healin...

Last week I talked about understanding and healing our pain story. This week I am talking about the inward journey mentioned last week. It’s a journey that is crucial to our healing and self-discovery journey available to us during and after a divorce. Healing after a divorce is a deeply personal and multifaceted journey that involves emotional, mental, and sometimes physical and spiritual practic...

We all carry a painstory, a personal narrative shaped by our experiences of trauma, loss, and hardship. Understanding and acknowledging this painstory is crucial for healing after significant life events such as divorce, loss, or abuse. By exploring the origins and impact of our pain, we can begin to unravel the emotional knots that bind us to the past. This process of self-awareness allows us to...

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Getting through divorce without feeling like you’re losing your mind, sanity and self-respect Stop caring what others think Stop caring about whether others think you are right or justified First - We need to get solid with our core values . What are our values? Are we making decisions that are aligned with them?   Second - If you don’t feel good then you are out of alignment with your values...

Anger is a massive emotion that can take us over and make us do and say things we later regret. Most of us have also been subjected to other's angry outbursts. But anger can also be a productive and constructive emotion that can move your healing forward, empower you and help you gain confidence. Join this conversation to learn how. You will also hear me talking about the upcoming group coaching e...

Today I talk to you about the various wounds and pain we feel as a result of divorce. And more importantly I want to help you heal it and move forward.  Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t talk about the pain because it keeps it alive, but I also know that it is alive and well in you and in order to get over it and move forward we do have to feel it. So let’s find a constructive way to deal wit...

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Not everyone can go on a retreat for any number of reasons, but anyone can access that part of themselves that gives them direct connection with their heart, their joy, their true selves. That's what I want to share with you today. So many of us go unconsciously through life only paying attention to the external factors that are usually dictated by others. It makes us feel powerless, exhausted and...

I loved having this conversation with Luci Lampe about how they are navigating conscious uncoupling. It's a concept that is appealing to most and seemingly impossible to the majority. Myself included.  You might be asking what it is. And you might be wondering if one can be so amicable during a divorce then why can't one figure out how to stay together? The reality is that even though there m...

Blaming - holding others responsible for our pain, discomfort, troubles or anything going badly in our lives. Extremely prevalent during divorce. Everyone wants to be the "good one", the "innocent one" and for no one to perceive us as having caused the divorce or the unhappiness within ourselves or in the other person. All very ego driven. And very normal and understandable because when we bl...

So many things make us feel fear. And especially during big life challenges like divorce, new jobs, big moves etc. We feel fear of the unknown, fear of not being good enough, fear of not having enough, fear of judgment, fear of rejection, fear of being seen, fear of failure, fear of imperfection, fear of abandonment, fear of quitting, fear of death, fear of change, fear of vulnerability, fear of b...

This is an episode that came to me on morning and I never had to write down any notes.  I am a strong believe in our ability to choose our life, our perspective and how we want to feel every day.  Some days we achieve that feeling easier than others and some day it's out of reach all day. But if we don't even try to find the calm, the peace and the love in our days then for certain most...

Deciding to leave your marriage can feel like an impossible and overwhelming decision. Deciding to stay in an unhappy marriage also feels so so hard. Figuring out the way forward and what is right for you and your family - well that's what we talk about today with Cindy Stibbard who has an impressive resume and some stories to tell. Remember it is not a failure to end your marriage, the failure li...

V alentine’s Day post separation and divorce can be a heavy day emotionally. First, let’s remember that it’s just another day until you say it’s otherwise. This year, Wednesday makes it feel a little easier because it’s not a big weekend thing. What are your expectations, or what were they when you were married or in a relationship? Honestly it is mostly, if not entirely, women who have a pro...

Karma can tend to get a bad wrap. It's often misunderstood and just as often misused and especially during divorce it seems. Join me for a fun and illuminating conversation about all things Karma. Let's clear it up once and for all - literally. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healin...

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  Often the biggest obstacle to our healing is our focus on the pain. It just draws us in understandably and in doing so prevents us from healing. You can't do both at the same time. They are opposites. If you are focused on the pain you aren't healing. If you are focused on your healing you are feeling much less pain until you don't feel any at all. Join me for all the understanding around t...

Journaling is recommended by just about every coach, therapist, counselor and I am no exception. But I am not talking about writing a diary like you might have as a little girl or teenager and this is not about your to do list either. This is journaling for the purposes of healing, fostering inner growth and going on a self-discovery journey. That’s why I created The Joy Journal (TJJ) and I am bey...

Wishing you all the joy, happiness and peace during this holiday season. As we close out the year the focus is to let go of the things that no longer nourish and serve us to create space for the things we want to grow and expand into. Be gentle and kind with yourself. Rest and nourish your heart, body and soul. I’ll be back next week. In love and light, Elisabeth Joy ✨💖🕯️   LINKS MENTIONED...

Join me for a great conversation with past client Emily Pennystone. She has truly embraced her journey forward when her marriage ended and she sure had a number of hurtles to overcome. She is now turning her journey into learning and helping women build their trust in themselves.  Self-trust often comes up in my coaching sessions and within the group. Women feel they can't trust their judgeme...

I feel like I talk about this alot, but still women ask me to talk about it more. I sometimes wonder if some just aren’t ready to hear what I am saying, not quite ready to hear the truth - namely that their healing lies within themselves and not in the punishment of the abuser. There is a lot of time spent talking about Karma and unfairness of the courts etc in these cases and I do hear that. But...

Most of us want to one day meet someone again after divorce. But dating after divorce can feel so scary. Our trust has been shaken as has our faith in true lasting love. We read quotes and sayings about soul-mates and what true love "should" look like, sound like etc. But that's not reality, it's just good writing. So what is the key to feeling loved and seen and chosen?  The answer is simple...

Divorce overwhelm is a real thing felt by just about everyone going through it. It's the emotions, the things that have to be done, the money that is being spent and all the stuff going on like conflict, heavy conversations etc etc etc. In today's episode I will be sharing 2 strategies and many tips to help you through this. As usual these are easily accessible for you to incorporate into your lif...

There are so many bad days when you are going through divorce. And then there's the bad days that come with life in general. Whatever the reason, it can feel quite impossible to find the inspiration and motivation to move forward and be optimistic about the future. Today I give you several suggestions for how to do that and I also share my own manifestation or "make my dreams come true" story. It'...