90 Days Later - Your Guide to Alcohol Freedom

Redefining waste around alcohol will completely change how you see your drinking.  Are you someone who drinks up when you don’t really want to? Who polishes off the glass even when you’ve had enough? Because you “don’t like to waste things”? In this episode, I will turn the concept of waste on its head. I will show how so much more is at stake than any embarrassment you feel about wasting an £11 g...

I’ll start tomorrow - three words that can keep you stuck even when you desperately want to take action. Even when you really want to change your drinking and how you show up in the world. Today I’ll show you what happens when you speak to yourself in this way, what you need to do to get started and how to think about the ‘right’ time. I’ll provide a solution and process for moving forward and wil...

The discomfort equation is a way of looking at how we feel when making any kind of change in our lives. I use this approach in my coaching to help my clients make balanced decisions in the moment when the appeal of a drink is at its strongest.  In this episode, I explain why discomfort is a sign you’re on the path to changing your relationship with alcohol, the distinction between different types...

Alcohol and sleep is something that I get asked about a lot. So if this is something you struggle with, you are not alone. Today I talk about how drinking impacts sleep, what you don’t control and - crucially - what you do. I’ll give you new ways to think about sleep and actionable steps to get you out of the worry cycle, including what to do the next time you wake up at 3am with your mind racing....

Possibility not probability is a mind shift that will get you out of feeling stuck and ready to take the massive action necessary to achieve your goal. I talk to people all day long about this. Practically everyone who reaches out for coaching initially doubts whether it’s possible they’ll change their drinking or believes it’s probable life will seem a little ‘less than’. So even if their health...

I know what to do but I’m not doing it. I hear so many people say this. They feel frustrated and stuck. And often stupid too.  They know they want to drink less, but here they are night after night giving in to the wine, watching rubbish TV before dozing on the sofa and having another fitful night’s sleep. They’re stuck in the rut of doing the same stuff they KNOW doesn’t work, but feeling unable...

Today’s episode is a little different. I’m joined by one of my clients, Kathy R., now a graduate of my 90 Days Later 1-1 coaching programme. Listen in to our conversation as we talk about the role of alcohol in creating fun, the importance of desire in changing your drinking, other people’s views on our drinking and the central question: will this coaching work for me or not? You’ll hear Kathy’s v...

Feeling deprived is not something that many of us enjoy.  Deprivation is one of the key things that keeps people stuck. Including people who definitely want to change their drinking but who hesitate to take action because they fear they’ll miss out and that life will seem less fun. I get it. That was me once. Really, really wanting to drink less but really really thinking life was going to just se...

Applying vs. learning - how do these factor into the way you change your relationship with alcohol? Learning tools, techniques and tactics is a great strategy and a way to avoid unnecessary mistakes. This is one of the many benefits of hiring a coach. But all the information in the world won’t get you to your goal unless you apply what you’ve learned. You can’t think your way to not overdrinking....

Why not drinking is easy … how often do you hear that? I thought so.  The prevalent belief you’ll come across again and again is “stopping overdrinking is SO HARD.” Which feels more and more true the more we hear it spoken.  No wonder so many of us feel stuck, especially when we have a go at changing our drinking only to slip up. That’s when all the excuses get rolled out:  “back to day 1 again …...

What do you REALLY want? This is such a powerful question when it comes to changing your drinking. How you answer will say so much about the results you’re creating for yourself. This is not so obvious as you may think. Here’s why: If you answer this by thinking about the negative consequences such as: I don’t want to binge drink. I don’t want that yucky mouth feeling in the morning I don’t want t...

Rebelling against yourself as you take steps to change your drinking can feel frustrating and infuriating - but is extremely common. How this shows up in my world is when you decide to do something about your drinking, you sign up to do the work - whether that’s following along with me on the podcasts and taking action or when you say hey Anna I want to work with you to get results faster - then a...

Today I’m talking about your alcohol identity. This is such a fascinating topic but one that so many people avoid as they don’t like how it makes them feel. How you see yourself around alcohol is so important because it regulates, guides and determines the actions you’ll take - and ultimately the results you’ll achieve. Whether those are results you WANT or not. They’re still the results you’re cr...

Well-meaning drink pushers are one of the biggest obstacles people face when they decide to change their drinking.  What do I mean by that? The simple answer is other people. Other people who don’t want you to stop drinking. In today’s episode I show you how to stop making it all about other people, how to handle any well-meaning drink pushers in your life and how to reframe what they say in a way...

Abstinence or moderation … such a fraught topic. Some people say if you have any kind of concern around your drinking then you’re obviously a functioning alcoholic and need to just quit entirely. Other people recognise they drink too much but rather than ‘going sober’ would dearly love to keep alcohol in their life to some extent. They wonder is this possible? And if so how do you do it? Surely th...

Seeking comfort is a human need and one of the most popular reasons why people drink. We’re not happy with our current situation so drink to make it better - whether to improve our current experience or to push away or numb discomfort. In this episode, I reframe what it means to experience discomfort and why this is actually a very good thing. I show how to use discomfort as a means to get what yo...

What I would tell my past self is a tool I use in all areas of my life. It’s instrumental in how I make decisions for my present and future lives. So many people tell me they want to change their relationship with alcohol, but then think back to all the broken promises, all the times they overdrank, all the guilt, shame, embarrassment … and they feel stuck. Which drives them right back into the cy...

What other people might think about your drinking can feel like a minefield. It’s one of the things that keeps people stuck in the habit cycle. We want to change our relationship with alcohol, but then hesitate. We worry about what others might think of us, how they might react to us, what they might say, what this might mean for our relationship with them. … Today I explain why we do this (even w...

Freedom from decisions in advance is a concept that people usually nod their heads and agree with - until it comes to deciding their drinks in advance. “But I want to be free to decide in the moment… I want to be spontaneous,” is something I hear a lot. On today’s episode I offer an alternative viewpoint. I talk about what freedom around alcohol really means and how brain science shows the best wa...

The importance of belief in changing your relationship with alcohol cannot be underestimated. Belief in your ability to change, belief in your ability to see a new future for yourself, belief in your commitment, belief in your ability to plan, belief in your staying power, belief in a life free from the pull of alcohol. All of it begins and ends with belief. In today’s podcast I explain why belief...

On today’s podcast I explain what motivation is and where it comes from - and, no, it’s not what you think. I’ll show how this one piece of insight alone can change the trajectory of your life and what’s possible. This is one of those episodes that will open your eyes and change your outlook as to what’s possible. Learning how to deploy and stay motivated is 100% a core skill for leading a full an...

On today’s podcast I explain why rituals are so important to us, how to understand the role you want alcohol to play (if at all) this year, how to tackle any fear of missing out, understand who’s responsible for your partner’s experience and how you can take an active role in creating the Valentine’s Day that’s right for you. Also, on Friday 10 February I will be hosting a free webinar on this top...

You only live once. Go on, do it. Have the drink. What are you waiting for? How many times have you been told that? By friends, partners, colleagues, even total strangers. And also how many times have you told that to yourself? Yes, we've all been there. These are the words we often use to encourage us into taking action, into going for it, into drinking when perhaps we don't really want t...

Today I explain why we naturally doubt ourselves (even when things are going well), how this tends to show up, and four tools you can use to change your perspective so you don’t let doubt get in the way. Today’s episode will impact all areas of your life, not just your drinking. And if you want to start making change immediately, let’s talk. I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good.  Y...

Today we’re talking dead end questions, what they are how to spot yours and why they don’t serve you. I also share simple steps you can take today to figure out if you’re relying on dead end questions and to see how they are influencing your results. I also give you some simple, short homework to help you get unstuck and out of dead end questioning mode. So if you are somebody who feels like they’...