90 Days Later - Your Guide to Alcohol Freedom

Funny how nobody ever says, "I'll just have five." It's always "I'll just have one." Even when you know perfectly well that one has a habit of turning into two, three or the rest of the bottle. So why do we keep making ourselves a promise we don't really believe? In this episode, I'm revealing the hidden deal behind "just one," why that first drink...

Imagine pouring yourself a lovely glass of chilled white wine, then forgetting about it until it's gone warm. Or leaving your G&T so long the ice melts. If you've spent years thinking about your next drink before you've finished the one in your hand, this might sound impossible. But these little moments reveal an enormous shift. In this episode, I explore how alcohol becomes so imp...

Paul was already working on changing his drinking when he came to me. And he was having some success. But it was hard. It felt like a constant struggle. Working with me 1:1, we changed that. The struggle went away and his experience became completely different.  In this week’s episode, Paul shares what made the difference and what drinking feels like for him now. If drinking less feels like far to...

Were you “good” last night? Maybe you only had one glass. Maybe you didn’t drink at all. Or perhaps you planned two, drank four and woke up thinking you’d been “bad.” We attach an extraordinary amount of moral judgement to drinking, and it can feel completely normal. But turning what you drank into a verdict on you gets in the way of the very thing that helps you change: understanding what actuall...

If you’ve been telling yourself you’ll deal with your drinking when work calms down, life gets less busy or the holidays are over, this episode is for you. Because what if you didn’t wait? Imagine going into the holiday season already feeling differently around alcohol, enjoying the dinners, parties and wine without it taking over. If you want to start changing your drinking now, book a consultati...

What if thinking of alcohol as a “treat” is actually making you want it more? We attach wine to Friday nights, holidays and special occasions, then wonder why not having it can feel like we’re missing out on the good bit. And if your “treat” is happening every night, it’s worth getting curious about what’s actually special, the wine or everything you’ve taught yourself that wine means? In this epi...

Do you really enjoy dinner, Friday night or a holiday more with a drink? Or has your brain simply learned to connect alcohol with all the things you already enjoy? In this episode, I’m breaking down the learned link between alcohol and pleasure, and showing you how to start giving the pleasure back to the experience. Because wine might be enjoyable, but it doesn’t get to take credit for the sunset...

You KNOW you’re going to regret having another drink tomorrow. You know you’ll sleep badly. You know you’ll wish you’d stopped. And yet, right now, another drink still feels like the better option. Why does present comfort so often beat future regret? In this episode, I’m turning that question on its head. What if you took regret off the table completely? What if tomorrow you weren’t allowed to be...

What if you’re giving up on your drinking goals long before you pour the wine? Micro quitting is all the tiny ways you start backing away from what you want, the “we’ll sees”, the quiet negotiations and even the belief that change probably works for other people, but not for you. In this episode, I’m showing you how to spot where you first quit and start rebuilding trust in yourself instead. Don’t...

You get through one craving. Then another. You’re doing so well. And then... BANG. The next one hits and suddenly you’re pouring the wine. In this episode, I’m talking about the urge after the urge , why cravings can come in waves, why the second, third or fifth can be the one that catches you out and what to do when it does. If you’re tired of cravings being the moment your plans go out the windo...

“I hate missing out.” This is something I used to say on repeat. By then I had decided to change my drinking and was committed to that plan, but would sometimes feel overwhelmed with full-blown fear of missing out. And as we approach the big party season it’s something I’m being asked about more and more. In today’s podcast I show how this fear of missing out does not have to act as a stop sign. I...

“One more won’t hurt” is an innocuous-sounding phrase that keeps so many people stuck drinking. It’s easy to understand why. It’s just one. What difference will that make? In this episode, I explain why it does matter - a lot. And how this actually has nothing to do with the alcohol you want to consume.  If you find your resolve collapsing whenever you think one more won’t hurt, then this episode...

Perhaps you want to stop using alcohol as a way to deal with stress and overwhelm - in fact maybe you want to stop experiencing so much overwhelm. If so you need to tune into today’s episode.  I talk with my client Kate about what her drinking used to be like, what it looks like today and how she now sees herself in such a different light.  If you want to stop drinking in response to the stresses...

Anticipated pleasure is a powerful thing. It’s basically fast forwarding the tape to experience the sensation of future pleasure now.  We do this as children when Christmas is approaching: from our minds we can create the physical sensation in our bodies of all the excitement about the presents and the fun we’ll have when Christmas finally arrives. As adults we do it with holidays - we spend time...

Decisions are beautiful things. They are where we find the power to create the lives we want for ourselves. How we learn to evolve into the highest version of ourselves. Every day we each take dozens, if not hundreds, of decisions. But how many do you take consciously in a way that serves you? Tune in to learn how to take back control of your decisions and create the life you want to live on purpo...

Rebelling against yourself as you take steps to change your drinking can feel frustrating and infuriating - but is extremely common. How this shows up in my world is when you decide to do something about your drinking, you sign up to do the work - whether that’s following along with me on the podcasts and taking action or when you say hey Anna I want to work with you to get results faster - then a...

Today’s episode is for all of you who tell yourself you drink to relax. You know who you are. Come the end of the day you want to kick back and relax. It’s the end of parent duty. You’re home from the office. It’s your time. You’ve worked hard all day. It’s time to put your feet up and crack open that bottle of wine. What’s so wrong with that? Nothing at all if you’re happy with the results you’re...

“I like it.” That thought alone kept me drinking for years longer than I really wanted. My life wasn’t at rock bottom and alcohol was fun so why on earth would I want to stop? In this episode, I explain why you don’t need to wait for motivation to strike before changing the way you drink. If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call w...

“I’ve got to do this right. I should know how to do it by now.” When it comes to changing any habit all or nothing thinking shows up as striving for nothing less than perfection or throwing in the towel and saying you’ll never change. In this episode, I explain how to spot all or nothing thinking, why it doesn’t work and what to use instead. If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and...

In this episode I explain what’s at the root of your drinking habit (and the result of centuries of human evolution). The important distinction between natural and concentrated pleasure. Why you have what it takes to rewire your behaviour. If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consu...

You go into a bar intending to order an orange juice, but end up with a glass of wine in your hands … You swear you will only drink two glasses, but end up consuming a bottle … You weren’t going to drink, but you’ve had a hard day and after all you deserve it… If you lead a highly functional life but find yourself unable to resist the pull of alcohol and would like to drink a little less, you’re i...

A hangover isn't just physical. For most people who drink too much, the headache is the easy part. The hard part is the anxiety before you've opened your eyes, the guilt you can't name, the "I did it again" that starts before you've got out of bed. That emotional layer is not a character flaw. It's chemistry. And it's making everything worse than it needs to be. T...

You've tried drinking less. Maybe it worked for a while. But if you're still having the same conversation with yourself every evening, the problem isn't your willpower. It's your identity. You're trying to change your behaviour while keeping the same story about who you are. And that's a fight you will never win. In this episode I talk about the identity gap, the space betw...

You've been saying it for years. "I have no off switch." And you've been treating it like it's just a fact about you. But think about it for a second. Where is it? Where exactly on your body is this switch? There isn't one. There never was. And in this episode I'm going to show you why that story is the thing keeping you stuck and how simple it actually is to change i...

Perhaps you want to change your identity around alcohol, but wonder what that means in practice. If so you need to tune into today’s episode.  I talk with my client Ishali about what her drinking used to be like, what it looks like today and how this has been the catalyst for so many other positive changes in her life.  If you really want to change your identity around alcohol but feel stuck, you...